Why are so many people lazy ?

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Is it more they are struggling in life or they just genuinely don’t want to do stuff

I have M.E and chronic migraines OP. I’m sure my neighbours think I don’t work enough bc I run my own business from home and they can see when I have customers in or not. I keep my work to the amount I am capable of keeping up with, without exacerbating my illness. I don’t tell any part time jobs I have because I wouldn’t get hired. I’ve been seen as the person who ‘says no’ to hours outside of my contract. Even after telling them they were annoyed about it 🤷‍♀️

Im past the point of caring what people think. I spent two years bed bound trapped in a living hell. My health is precious and I will not be bullied into overdoing it again.

What appears as laziness may be different degrees of depression, which completely demotivates and saps energy. Chronically depressed people may even find it hard to get out of bed as they feel they have absolutely nothing to live for.

Interestingly, they say the way out of depression is activity, but first you have to push yourself to get started and then start the uphill climb of trying to do more and more each day.

I've also known people who have been manic are are non stop all the time.

I work hard, because I have to, but when I’m not working I can be very lazy and I enjoy it. I prefer to call it ‘chillin’ though😁 After all look at lions, once they’ve done their hunt they lounge about doing sod-all all day.

Laziness feels lovely to me. I'm not permanently lazy, I can attack work or exercise with bursts of energy for limited periods of time but in my head I'm secretly looking forward to going back to lazing on my bed with an audiobook on and just doing fuck all

Yes I am similar.

I don’t beat myself up about it. I think it’s one of my virtues and I like to think of it as extreme prioritisation and commitment.

Im having a rest day - hell I am literally doing nothing
Im tidying the house - yes I am reorganising everything.

I get what you mean though that when you don’t have time to do both properly (like in the week) that it can be an issue. For times like that I have a little tick board on the fridge for myself with quick tidy, washing up, laundry and deep clean 1 item on as mini challenges. Sad I know but I still find my smiley face magnets rewarding 🤣

I'm lazy as fook at home but not at work. Work passes quicker if you are busy. I don't think it's a bad thing being "lazy" it comes from our Protestant cultural history that leisure time is somehow "bad".

I recall a mother at the DC's primary (SAHM and v v comfortable) once co.plaining in early December that she was soooooo busy, she didn't know how she was going to cope with getting Christmas ready.

I was working full-time, doing a masters and two children at different schools. I worked really hard to smile and say with a tinkly laugh, I'm sure you will manage somehow.

That, I venture was sheer and utter laziness and I had and have no time.e whatsoever for it. My inner being wanted to snort and say "just bloody well get yourself organised and get on with it, you daft uncus."

@LemonSwan why would you assume lazy rather than invisible illness /disability?

Should I stick a note through all my neighbours doors explaining my disability so they don't think I am feckless for having a few weeds growing through the front drive?

Sure, Dad. The man who’s sat back and hasn’t so much as lifted a fucking finger to help me in any way since I was 16 years old, his Grandchildren wouldn’t be able to pick him out of a line up - he’s that absent from my life but feels that he can call me lazy.

My dad says the same because I do my food shopping online 🙄 Never done a days parenting in his life - likes to tell others where they're going wrong!

I think we have become a nation with a lot of lazy people in it who expect to be paid for doing their job badly, take lots of time off and live slovenly lives- existing on takeaways, look sloppy and just give an impression of 'can't be arsed' about life.
Not most people but lots.

It isn’t a luxury for those of us, who are too ill to work and mostly housebound. I know some judge me for being lazy, not working and driving everywhere, even a few doors down. Many do not understand how debilitated I am. It is also none of their business and as I rarely socialise because I’m not well enough, most people have no idea I qualify for a blue badge.

I work for myself and have a physical job, but on days off or once I've finished for the day, I'm incredibly lazy

I was dog sitting tonight - just spending time with some dogs and cats. I spent my evening curled up on their sofa watching Come Dine With Me surrounded by a bunch of snoozing dogs and cats.

And I got paid for it! It was heaven 🤣

Yes I thought that @Mummyoflittledragon , that it was really insensitive of @Beansandtoasties to imply that people living with chronic illness /disability should see having a nap /endless hours of TV watching as a 'luxury"

No such thing as lazy, it's just a word to judge people who live their life in a way that others don't like.
Ok not quite, but if it's your problem that someone is lazy, your need to stop making it your own problem.

This is the perfect description of adhd, you're not lazy at all ❤

With regards to being in the workplace I find some colleagues to be glory seekers - by this I mean those who regularly run to management so they can be seen to be working. Then there are those who quietly go about their job with out needing a constant pat on the back from management. Often the latter colleague is 'seen' as lazy simply because they are not 'seen' enough by management. In reality the 'glory seeker' is often less productive as they are game players.

People’s energy levels definitely vary. I’m not one to judge.

Some people seem to have an extraordinary amount of energy to run their own business, work 50 hours a week and do multiple hobbies - that sort of thing. For some people just a few tasks a day or that full time job might be what takes all their energy.

I have a chronic condition which causes low energy levels. I hold down a full time job, but to some I might look lazy as sometimes when I’m not at work I need to lie down for extended periods and rest a lot rather than getting on with the housework.

It’s just an example 🤣

I don’t literally walk around labelling people lazy.

The point of my post is laziness is a hard thing to quantify.

I worry Im lazy. I think my dog is bored of me, I dont keep her entertained enough.

My daughter says I should play with her more but I cant be arsed. We go out on long walks when Im not at work but sometimes she looks at me with contempt, or I think she does.

Also fuck housework, you do it and everyone else messes it up and then you just have to do it all over again, its too much.

From the outside looking in, I appear lazy. In reality I have a chronic health condition that makes me exhausted, literally all the time. I can be fine in the morning, then not in the afternoon etc and vice versa. I never know if I'm goig to be able to work until an hour or so before my shift (thankfully it's currently a voluntary role) and even then it's not guaranteed I'll be able to cover the entire shift. It can take me days to recover from doing activities that are relatively simple for healthy people. It's a fucking nightmare to navigate.

Sonetimes I'm lazy like now but other times I just give up on trying to do things because of my invisible disability. I'd like to say I don't give two fucks if people think I'm putting it on, but sadly I do.

i have a friend who sleeps all day and then can’t sleep or sleeps all night then all day again. She has a child but their father does everything for them. She basically goes to the toilet on a day and that is it, but she is so depressed and can’t get out this hole. She can’t go out without having a drink for confidence, if she does go out (after she has a drink) the way she goes on you would think she had ran a marathon and she will say I’m exhausted I need a day off tomorrow etc. I used to look at her funny and not understand what she meant but then I got it one day after we had been out for two hours she was mentally drained. She spent the next week recovering. Even having a shower for her is a massive deal. I have tried to support her to get her help but she’s too tired to face what she is going through so now I just make sure I’m there for her if she wants to go out etc. Some people don’t choose to be lazy and I know she would love to just get on with life but she’s stuck in this rut and can’t seem to get out of it.

Surely busy / lazy can also be lifestyle choices as well.

I've just finished a Wellness book that advocates that everyone should stop rushing around, slow down and appreciate the moment. It recommended doing the bare minimum and living a more 'spiritual' life of meditation and contemplation. I was worried that the subtext appeared to be 'we're all going to die, so there is no point in...' and also that things were so transitory that it really isn't work worrying it about it all.

I then spent the morning 'contemplating' the sunshine in my garden and totally forgot to do the big pile of ironing that just keeps getting bigger.

I'm still stupid enough to buy cotton dresses which need ironing, whereas I have friends who will only be fabrics like jersey, etc. where they can get away without it.

Why is it lazy?

I have two daughters, both very happy and motivated by the things that interest them.

One daughter is constantly on the go, the other daughter is completely bemused by her need to be constantly on the go.

Both equally happy.

If you knew me, then yes. You might think I'm lazy

Worked for a company for the past 15 years, for the most part full time, 40+ hours was the norm well into 2/3am. Moved to another building, diagnosed with bipolar and adhd. I've had to reduce to two days as I ended up quite poorly

But my co workers now, don't know me in that way probably think I'm "lazy" for working 2 days a week