Why are so many people lazy ?

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Is it more they are struggling in life or they just genuinely don’t want to do stuff

The other day I asked my DD what she wanted to do. She said she wanted to be naked and watch tv while eating chocolate. She's 4.

I let her spend the day naked, watching tv, and gave her a bit of chocolate. The next time I asked her what she wanted to do, she wanted to go out.

We all have an innate drive and need for rest and recuperation.

@BeefCarvery you sound awful. My friend has symptoms like this due to a hidden disability that he doesn’t like to shout about because he looks ‘normal’ most of the time. Unless you’re her doctor or her line manager than keep your judgemental beak out.

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Love this. Sometimes we all just need to lie around naked eating chocolate!

why do so many people judge others?

I’m a lazy person by all appearances but unfortunately the government say despite having a progressive condition that is causing me to lose the ability to walk, I’m not allowed any help, so I have to use something called pacing in order to keep a full time job. Is that okay with you all or do we have to do anything else to prove our fucking existence?

Just wanted to add - a PP said that there was evolutionary reasons why we are lazy and I think thats the gist of it.

In caveman times, people would have been up with the sun, gather enough food for the day, then sit around.

Do people with invisible illnesses need to broadcast them to the world so they aren't judged as lazy?

I mean, just from a small list of people I know - arthritis, MS, coeliac, cancer, thyroid disease...

I have a rare autoimmune disease (well I am awaiting formal diagnosis) -myasthenia gravis- and yesterday I got it into my head that maybe it was a case of mind over matter and pushed through and did as much running around and heaving boats etc as the other parents at my son's sailing club ... By the time got home I couldn't really speak. And my throat gave up so badly I woke in the night choking in my own saliva.

So, before you judge people, remember many disabilities aren't visible.

ADHD?
MH issues?

You do realise motivation is directly linked to dopamine regulation and is in no way related to moral fibre?

Also, a lot of people lead high stress lives. Jobs, children, elderly parents, arsehole husbands, arsehole ex’s.

Maybe you just have an inability to chill the fuck out.

So that's my question, and one I have been thinking about a lot - should I broadcast this to the world. Is that the only way to avoid being judged?

@BocolateChiscuits your daughter sounds fabulous.

@Toastersj I am sorry to hear that. Crappy enough to deal with without knowing that judgemental idiots will assume you are lazy .

My mum labelled me lazy at 3 months old. And spent the rest of my childhood reminding me of this. Compared me regularly and unfavourably with my siblings (I am one of 7 children). particularly my sister who is 3 years younger.

Always told I was 'just as clever, I was just lazy'

My siblings still take every opportunity to remind me too - even though I am now retired, held a full time job all my adult life and brought 2 healthy children up as a single parent.

I am past caring - I am not deliberately lazy and suspect I have to put more effort in for my level of activity than they do for theirs - because it comes naturally to them - they don't have to choose to be proactive, it's just how they are whereas I have to fight my inertia and procrastination every single fucking day.

Why is anybody anything? To what extent is any aspect of our personality a choice? Some I would say - we can fight our natural proclivities to some extent but How Much?

Exactly. Lazy is good. It's the lazy ones who come up with the more efficient ways of working, have the best work-life balance, etc.

But why not? Give me a reason NOT to be lazy!

Thanks @SweetSakura most people don’t care but I know some people like the posters in here that have judged me as lazy. It’s fucking hard, I literally don’t have enough energy to work, eat my dinner, clean, have a social life. So big chunks of my time are recovering from work. My condition means my muscles are wasting away due to a genetic condition but at the minute I ‘look normal.’

My Dad likes to call me lazy.

I have 3DDs.

I’ve been a lone parent - totally lone - since I was pregnant with my 3rd.

In those 7 years, I have

• spent a year at college
• 3 years doing undergrad in STEM
• 1 year doing an MRes
• been diagnosed with ADHD and CPTSd
• was seriously unwell with Covid despite being slim, healthy and mid 30s
• been diagnosed with long Covid
• moved house twice due to S21s
• DD2 has been diagnosed with Autism and needs a lot of extra support right now

But because I have a cleaner, I’m lazy.

Sure, Dad. The man who’s sat back and hasn’t so much as lifted a fucking finger to help me in any way since I was 16 years old, his Grandchildren wouldn’t be able to pick him out of a line up - he’s that absent from my life but feels that he can call me lazy.

Yes this has to be a major part of the answer, a quarter of people suffer from mental ill health which can also have a very physiological dimension to it.
Other “sub-clinical” causes-
lack of purpose in one’s life and little to look forward too.
Feeling like you don’t have an appreciable impact on the world or anyone else’s life, you are not the cause of anything important whether on the individual level or the more macro level.
You have too many people to compare yourself to on social media which leads you to feel you “can’t win” at the game of life, so hard to find the motivation to bother
You don’t believe “there’s a plan for you” or an “eternal reward” or “enlightenment”
general cognitive overload, we work and play with computers that are fast than us at processing information so we can’t match it, and it burns us out

I hate that some people who don’t actually work, choose not to work as a lifestyle choice. If we all chose this ‘lifestyle’ the country would be bankrupt. I don’t want to work. I’m tired all the time, often anxious and have very little time to do things I’d love to do. But I feel morally obliged to work, as do most people thankfully.

I'm her line manager. It's a pattern of behaviour and manipulative. If I'm awful so be it.

This. Who the fuck do you think you are? Do you know all their medical details?

Undiagnosed and untreated ADHD leading to long term depression and anxiety, then a breakdown when work/kids/house becomes too much. Long term lazy here. I now accept certain aspects and try to build habits by playing with my dog whilst doing things because if I do that she starts to anticipate playtime and that reminds me that she expects me to throw the ball whilst emptying/refilling the dishwasher. Habits don't really exist otherwise. On week 2 of medication and that's helping the executive function, so I have managed to keep on top of the washing for the first time in my life and only one of the kitchen counters has stuff on it (above the dishwasher).

I hate 'being lazy' but the joys of previously undiagnosed ADHD meant that I didn't have the executive function to do anything, even enjoyable things, which in turn led me to feel rubbish because I hadn't done anything, and a vicious cycle continued.

@BeefCarvery yes you are.

Fab. I am awful then. At least I'm not bone idle.

I'm lazy. I didn't have to try at school to do well so learned early on that doing the minimum was enough. I like learning new things but am too lazy to master any. I get by on my smarts but I do wish I had more inherent motivation and ability to stick at things.

Same here. MNers get annoyed about this, but I don't see why. I don't dump on anyone else.