Things that happened to you that you thought would never happen to someone like you?

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Me… abortion. Thought it happened to other women.

Later on a single parent. Was not at all what I thought I would allow to happen but of course you learn life isn’t like that! Many people said they couldn’t believe it had happened as I’m quite conservative and careful but it did!

Sometimes I don’t recognise me though I am still me. Anyone else experienced this?

@Imissmoominmama

so sorry xx

Don't give up, @stickersrule. I had covid in January 2021 and it morphed into Long Covid. The fatigue was awful (lots of people get it worse but I spent a lot of time in bed or on the sofa) but over the past few weeks it's disappeared entirely. I still can't walk for more than 10 minutes without getting breathless but even that is getting better. Google hay-fever tablets and Long Covid. I'm taking them daily now...

To be in complete denial that my mother was abusive to me growing up. To then go on and marry two abusive men. It has taken me years to even admit the abuse, I’ve always minimised in my head and blamed myself. Through years of therapy and really working on myself I’m now the happiest I’ve ever been in my life. I’m feeling good and at peace for the first time in my life so I’m going to hold on to that for dear life. I’m actually proud of myself and think perhaps I’m not such a bad person after all :)

So much love and life shared on this thread. Absolutely heartbreaking but also comforting to know we are all vulnerable and human, and that even when the most abhorrent things happen, we are able to 'continue', albeit not necessarily as the people we thought once were. I wish to extend my sympathy and thoughts to all of you who wish to receive it.

My life changed when I was 21 and my mum died. I honestly thought that wouldn't happen to me. It was a case of choosing one of two roads for me, live or die! After a very long period of being heartbroken, extremely angry, selfish and intolerable, I chose to live, because I know my mum would've wanted that for me. That will always be my 'things that happen to others and not me' moment.

I'm now 41, I've been in a relationship since I was 19, we own our own home (mortgage free in a couple of years), we are solvent and we feel extremely lucky to be in such a position. Neither of us are materialistic, which means we get to spend our money in very rewarding ways. I feel extremely happy and content. At one point I didn't think I could continue with the pain I felt.

Same! I have a combination of conditions that make gaining weight easy and losing it difficult

There are some really humbling stories on this thread. Mine feels really small in comparison. I developed alopecia areata and it nearly broke me. I am proud though because I have come a long way and can actually talk about it and have fun with wigs. Never did I think that would happen! Sending much love to all those facing illness, bereavement and relationship issues. ❤️

On one hand, being fat. I never thought I'd "lose self-control" or some such nonsense. Now I can see a general genetic progression just like half my siblings. We've got fat genes like our dad. Two of them have got mum's thin genes, three of us have the fat genes.

It's not about self control. All of us have gone to extraordinary lengths to control our weight. My brothers have done extreme workout regimes,"iron man"s, I've done extreme weight loss diets. None of it lasts.

The others just don't suffer from insatiable hunger like we do.

Also, maybe connected, my daughters having eating disorders ☹️. It's led us to hell and back, and to many situations that, when I retell them, feel like we live in a trashy soap opera.

I never thought my life would be like this.

My mother did the same. I'm proud of her, all of her hard work, and appreciate the encouragement we had in our education.

I am over 60 and today was on a roof spreading black tar
It gave me a break from taking out the layers of concrete and tiles in the house.

I don’t think a normal job will get us back on our feet.

Personally the lockdowns have had a worse effect on our families health than Covid

Having two brothers who tried to scam me out of my inheritence when our last parent died telling me I wasn't on the will. It has been 2 long years and not quite over yet. I will never speak to either again, and our children will not know one another most likely now.

I never in a million years thought I wouldn’t end up going to university, or that I’d reach the age I am now without having kids.

That is the best thing I’ve ever read on mumsnet-Chapeau!

Being a SAHM and a “kept woman” in that I don’t have my own income or a “good job” any more.

I found out i married a paedophile

Having a stillborn daughter. I didn't really think it happened to people in 20th century Britain. Although, now know it does, well why not me?

Having a Dh with severe physical health issues that seriously impact our lives daily. He was incredibly healthy up until about 10 years ago.

I finally fled domestic abuse after 16 years, and going through the whole system of this country, including hidden homeless, children's social care and their hundreds of agencies.

I never thought someone like me/us could end up in the situation we did.

Professional middle class background recreating my childhood in adulthood. When I finally fled with 4 then children. I was too find out what "There for the grace of God go I" meant.

The system is needed. The system doesn't work. They take children into care that shouldn't be and leave children with parents they shouldn't. My case was 21 years ago and nothing has changed. I do advocacy and nothing has changed

I am one of the very few who have the defiance, tenacity and indomitable spirit to come through it and get my family back together in tact. It was no mean feat. It took 9 years to get rid of them completely. It took my health too.

I found out that the system and so called professionals were as bullying, coercive and gaslighting as the ex. Many years of therapy ensured, including on children social care.

The happy news from it is all my youngsters are happy, stable, in good relationships and careers.

I'm a Nanna to four whose lives I'm actively involved in.

I also happily remarried to a man who is my husband, soul mate, best friend and the dad he didn't have to be to our four.

My fave motto on this is: "Don't judge anyone until you have walked a mile in their shoes. You do not know what journey i have asked them to walk. Love God"(You do or don't understand)

@BroomHandledMouser - thank you. X

We have reserved a beautiful, brand new family home today. Never thought we would see the day. I am ecstatic and in disbelief!

Never expected I'd get diagnosed with MS in my 20s- that sucked.

Never thought my child would have a disability!

Breast cancer at 46 with 2 young children.

@IDontLikeMondays88 How did you cope in the aftermath? Especially as everything was pretty much booked and ready. I'm so sorry, that's horrific.

I hope your have had a speedy recovery. xx

That I'm be a failure at life. I've stayed married because I have nowhere to go. No career because I left my degree because it was too easy.

Th positives I have 3 children of whom one is going to start his masters in September the others are in ordinary jobs. I have 6 gorgeous grandchildren but 2 are diagnosed and on is likely to have autism.

oh an I have no friends.

I also never expected to have to look after my mother-in-law who has dementia and recently had gastric covid.

Suicide of DC.
Completely out of the blue, no-one knew anything was wrong.
I am permanently broken.

In the immediate aftermath my parents and friends got me through. It was a difficult time.

for a couple of years afterwards I went out a lot, went on holiday like 5 times a year (which I couldn’t really afford), had sex with people I shouldn’t have, wrote a slightly racy blog. I think I was working out who I was as I’d been with my ex for a really long time.

then I met my now husband and everything slotted into place. I look back and think I had a lucky escape but I don’t forgive him. I don’t think about him but I don’t forgive the pain he put me (and my loved ones) through.

Having a 40 year old son who loves tattoos and his body is covered in them, except his face.
(he works full time, is not a drug addict or been to prison, the common misconception).
I have no tattoos.