Things that happened to you that you thought would never happen to someone like you?

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Me… abortion. Thought it happened to other women.

Later on a single parent. Was not at all what I thought I would allow to happen but of course you learn life isn’t like that! Many people said they couldn’t believe it had happened as I’m quite conservative and careful but it did!

Sometimes I don’t recognise me though I am still me. Anyone else experienced this?

Having a child who has barely been to school for two years. Actually, having two DC with special needs.

Divorce

What an amazing OH you have. One in a million.

I could have written that Onyx.

Not being able to have children, deciding to Foster short term while we decided what to do, within days of being accepted getting a 12 year old girl, ended up having her long term and she's 30 now with a child of her own who calls me nanny. Still foster.

Me too. Hugs to you. It’s tough isn’t it? I always imagined my children would be swotty like me and sail through the education system, if I just did everything right - read to them and take them on wholesome days out 😢

All my gorgeous thick curly hair falling out through Alopecia. Never grew back.

I am so sorry for your dd and you - what an absolute arse

Hope she is recovering and you too

I forgot to add, having an SN child. That was a shock.

@LoudingVoice same!
My thoughts are with you.

Infertility. Spent my twenties trying not to get pregnant and thirties struggling to conceive. Hard to accept I won’t have kids and feel guilty as I’m an only child and DH is adopted so has no blood relative and never will.

No blood relative he’s in contact with that is

I don't know if it counts as something that 'happened' to me or just something that I found out I 'am' but five years ago if you'd have told me that I am autistic with ADHD that I would need to be medicated for, and that it'd be life changing finding out and treating the ADHD then I'd have though that you were quite mad.

Because autistic people are the ones who spin, flap and can't speak, or are amazingly intelligent, but totally rude, unable to socialise and have no friends, right? People with ADHD are little boys who trash classrooms and can't behave themselves?

Erm, no. No no no. Ignorant and wrong on all counts.

I am though, and I never saw it coming or would have called it. Who bloody knew. What a revelation.

Married at 20, separated at 23, divorced at 25. Then, I got back with my teenage love and we’re deliriously happy and living in the sort of house I could only have dreamed of as a kid. Oh, and earning rather a lot.

Having kids. Was told at 16 I was infertile and would never conceive. Went on to have 4.
Losing my second child at 3 weeks old. Never in a million years did I imagine that I'd have to bury a child.
Being trapped in an abusive marriage for 10 years. I watched my mum escape my dad and swore I'd never end up with a man like him. My ex was worse.
Being diagnosed with OCD and ADHD at 36. Strangely enough it's actually been quite liberating having a formal diagnosis. I had gotten to a point where I genuinely thought I was going insane. Being told I wasn't was a massive weight off.

Having a baby with a cancerous brain tumour. Even when all the signs pointed to it I was still convinced it would just be an ear infection.

He’s a year with clear scans. Long May it continue.

Being happily single. Now 8 years and counting and no desire to ever live with a man again. I was a serial monogamist from age 15 until I split from my second husband in my early 30’s.

When my mum was lying in a coma, I said to my sister, “She won’t die, things like that don’t happen to us.”

She did.

When I was living in a mouse infested room in Shepherds Bush I never dreamt I'd one day be in a 5-bed house on the edge of the Cotswolds. It's not perfect and some rooms are tired but it's great to have so much space!

Abortion, tho I was at uni, I just couldn’t factor a child into my life at that point. It was heart breaking.
Divorce, always thought I’d be like my parents, married forever.
Fancying my plumber! Classic but it happened and 6 years later …..
life is full of ups and downs and I’m grateful for every experience I celebrate/survive as that’s just how it is.

I remember wondering how people end up with no relatives (like on heir hunters). A succession of quick family deaths and there I was in my early 30s

My husband going to prison

10 pregnancy losses
failed IVF
Childlessness

I never thought my baby would need to have surgery before he was born (didn't even know it was possible), didn't expect my mum to die when my son was so young he won't remember her 💔, also never pictured myself as a stay at home mum but it's what works for us at the moment.

Married an abusive man and stayed long enough to raise children with him.

Watched my son going from top of the class in primary school to crashing out of the only university that would have him, having assumed my children would be high achievers academically, as I was.

Have managed to divorce the asshole now, which is an achievement I never expected, but which is definitely positive! 😂