Come and tell me your dull and unexciting news 23: Calmly through the day

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I've started a new one. Please join us and share the boring and mundane things happening in your world. It will be calming for all.

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Come and tell me your dull and unexciting news 22: Calmly through the day

Apologies that the prior thread filled up before I could create this one. Hopefully everyone will find it. Lurkers are of course welcome to unlurk.

So close Rhubarb how exciting! The sense of achievement when you finish will be huge.

I too am a plant serial killer, cut flowers for me every time. My excuse is that I already keep a lot of things in this house alive. DH is much more green fingered and so takes over with potted plants.

We all think you need to rest, Prok 😉

Well done on the painting, Echt. I’ve been slapping primer onto newly-plastered walls for the last few days and my (bad) shoulder is really feeling it now.

Went out for a walk and a coffee with DH today, as it was a really lovely sunny day. I took a few more autumnal pictures - our local park was once the grounds of a big house (think a stately home, long demolished, sadly), so it has lots of lovely mature trees. The really red tree is a liquidambar or sweetgum, and it’s planted on a local roundabout. The colour is amazing. Plus an extraordinary sky the other morning which I just had to share.

Thanks Sprouts, Prok and Lemons Very difficult times with DS being sectioned for another 6 months but they have changed rules back to give us the exemption again to see him on the ward. So this weekend we drove down and stayed at hotel and could go swimming and see him twice. Still in a very bad way in there and they are saying they can make no progress and are looking to move him to a residential home to continue testing in a more relaxed environment. Don't think that will work either but someone needs to pay for that and everyone is not us.

DD is fine and we are getting more used to it. We have decided since he will definitely be in there a while to go on holiday and have booked a trip to the Maldives for a week or so's time.

Take it easy Prok and look after yourself, don't worry about us. Sorry not keeping up with all the news on here atm.

In dull news washed the bedding and Floof is super cuddly.

Hope the meeting is not too bad Lemons PGCE maybe worth investigating more.

I'm sorry to hear that things are very difficult at the moment @Silkierabbit. I hope you manage to find some peace in getting away.

Lemons, would you consider working as a TA and having the school sponsor you as an Unqualified Teacher, so you are salaried? That's the route I'm taking next year upon completion of my degree.

Those are lovely pictures, Hilda. The colors are amazing. I like the way MN arranges the photos now so that you can see three at once.

Silkie, I'm sorry to hear that you have these challenges with DS. Do you think he needs that level of care now, or do you feel that they are overtreating him?

Not much new here. My parcel was in the mailbox. No further sign of the turkeys. We're taking my MIL out to dinner on Friday before she moves away, so we've rearranged the dinner plan and are getting a takeaway tonight.

Thanks Rhubarb and MissC Its a difficult one on the hospital MissC they are just observing him at the moment waiting for him to communicate but its been 4 weeks and they have made almost zero progress in that time and he is also meds refusing so no meds. They said they cannot do any assessments as he can't communicate. They now say plan A has failed. The issue is what is plan B. He is still in catatonia quite a bit at hospital, mainly when staff appear then walks round his room when staff disappear but will not leave room and go in area with other children and staff.

So plan B was to either send him to a residential place and continuing trying to get him to talk or sending him home with staff doing 24/7 assessments on him here and staying with us. Though now no-one wants to pay for either of those options. But they are saying for him to be home with us we have to say he will cooperate with all medical treatment, will talk, and he won't/can't and a team of professionals can't achieve that. And the wait for him to talk thing is unrealistic according to National Autistic Society. My worry is they will have him for years waiting for him to talk. I would prefer him home but don't want staff in house 24/7, not got space for a start and he gets stressed when people are nearby and that option would not go well. I think would fare a lot better just bring him home and take him on holiday and find a better school but they are not listening to me at the moment though they are starting to come round. They keep asking me for help and then saying what I said worked.

Silkie this is so distressing even to hear so I can’t even begin to think how you’re living through it. How, just how can they basically expect to order DS to simply….start talking?

I’m aghast that these are actual medical professionals as they seem to have so little grasp of anything. It’s heartbreaking for DS and for you.

Thanks Hilda Yes its totally unrealistic and I don't know how long they will pursue this policy for before giving up. I am finding it a bit easier now, have adjusted to being 3 rather than 4, after being distraught but its such a bad outcome for DS. I am also amazed the hospital does not have more idea what is wrong or how to treat it.

Silkie I’m so sorry you’re going though this.

Work meeting went better than planned but found nasty notebook with all the things staff don’t like about what I do and how I’m not supporting them. It was awful. I found it an hour before the meeting so preempted before hand.

I have taken evidence pictures

@RhubarbFairy I would yes. That would be my ideal.

Silkie, I am so sorry that this is happening. This question is probably better suited to the SEN board, but do they think it's autism-related catatonia?

Lemons, fab! Now the only problem is finding a school to sponsor you! I work in an SEN school and they suggested it to me at my interview there as they could see I was doing my degree (Education Studies) and asked about my longterm plans. Depending on where you are, there might be similar near to you.

In dull news, it is raining today and the DC are going swimming with friends later. Separately but to the same floats session. We will see if they can stay away from each other or if they'll just spend the whole time winding each other up.

Silkie Just when I thought things could not get more (insert words I have no English for) for your DS! Are they actually specialists for autism?

This reminds me when my DGM was in hospital in her 70ties and they would not let her go home because she was "confused". Her DIL went in and asked them what they were waiting for: eye contact, a handshake, a conversation, answers about topics in the news?

I tried to crochet a hat for me. Turns out I am unable to count to 11.

I'm going to London with d's tomorrow to Musicals Con.

She has booked workshops all day.I am exhausted at the thought.

my husband sat on my glasses and they broke ( a bit) and then he mended them ( a bit) and now they're a bit wonky and I feel sad. But I should go to bed anyway... but I'm on the verge of tears and I shouldn't be I just am...

Silkies I would agree to take him home under the conditions they are imposing. They will soon forget about him because nobody will have the funds to pay for all the monitoring. Then you can petition as nearest relative for him to be released from the terms of committal. I still think you should hire a solicitor who specialises in disability law, particularly as it relates to autism.

to you, howdoesatoastermaketoast. I hope you'll feel less tearful soon. Is there any particular stress or upset in your life apart from the glasses?

Love your turkeys, MissC. I would love to live so close to a real forest.

Prok, hope you're feeling ok. I bought some real wool at the thrift shop recently and I'm determined to crochet hats for my DDs for Christmas. My knitting always ends up wonky so maybe I'll have better luck with crochet.

Lovely and very unseasonal weather predicted here for the weekend, summer's last hurrah methinks. I got my flu shot and covid booster on Thursday - chaos in Walgreens as usual but I had given myself a lot of time. You live and learn. I got Pfizer this time and avoided the reaction I had to Moderna.

Welcome, @howdoesatoastermaketoast , and thanks for sharing your news. I'm sorry to hear about your glasses. Where were they when he sat on them? If the frames are metal they may be fixable.

Silkies, I think Math has given you very good advice. If you can get him released to you, he'll be far less stressed. Also about getting a solicitor.

We took my MIL out to dinner last night. She's moving to the Boston area on Tuesday, so it was nice but a bit sad too. DS is driving up to Boston today for the weekend. He's going to see DD row in a big annual crew race called the head of the Charles and visit some of his mates from uni.

I think we have a solution to the dilemma of getting a car for DD at uni. DH is going to order a new one for himself. When it comes in we will sell the 2020 he is driving now to DS, and we'll let DD have the 2012 DS is currently driving. If we order the car now we'll probably get it in January.

I was walking around the reservoir yesterday and saw these two stags. They certainly look healthy and well fed.

Gosh Miss, wild turkeys!! Where you live looks so beautiful.
Silkies, so very sorry to hear your news - I will be thinking of you and yours.
About to gird my loins to go over to the rugby club and start cooking the post match fare.
DS is revising for his maths GCSE in November - he didn't do as well in the mocks as he had hoped so is knuckling down now.......

Thanks, Sprouts, I am very fortunate to live in such a lovely area. For those who don't know from my mentioning it in prior threads, I live in an area of New York north of NYC called the Hudson Highlands.

I was walking yesterday and came upon these stags. They certainly look well fed and healthy.

Can't believe I'm sitting out on my deck in a shorts and Tshirt on 22 October, but here I am.

Amazing wildlife photos Miss

We went to visit my grandmother today and take her out for lunch. We had a nice meal at an Italian restaurant but service was shockingly slow. We arrived just before 1pm and left just before 3pm. We had a maim each and the DC has ice cream for dessert and only ordered a drink each at the start.

It was lovely to see my GM though. DS1 was disappointed to discover that he hasn't overtaken her in height just yet.

Thought you might enjoy a photo of the moors that are at the top of her street (not taken today, but on a previous, sunnier visit). We drive over these on every visit. We go from the very top to the very bottom. Today the top was encased in cloud as we descended to come home, it was like being in another climate when we reached the bottom.

Those are beautiful pictures of the moors, Rhubarb, I really hope to visit the UK someday. Some restaurants here are struggling with a staff shortage and have had to close off sections of tables to compensate. We do a lot of takeaways to avoid the service issue completely.

Math, it was beautiful today here too. DD may get some rain tomorrow when she rows at the Head of the Charles regatta. I think it's lovely that DS has driven up there to see her race.

DH went to the Subaru dealership this morning and ordered the car. The good news is that they did not charge us a premium over the list price, as many dealerships are doing now because of the car shortage.

I think we may be at or new peak color here. These were taken from our second-story deck, looking down at the woods.

It is our wedding anniversary today. We’ve gone for a £12 meal deal from Waitrose and cards to each other. Conspicuous spending on a date which only really has significance for the two of us seems a bit daft at the moment.

Cleaning the kitchen and catching up on the Archers, missed the omnibus last week so I’m well behind.

Stunning moors Rhubarb we had a brilliant summer holiday in Yorkshire (3 miles inland from Whitby) in 2021.

DH just handed me a parcel from my office - a card which everyone signed, fluffy socks, a candle, a guardian angel key ring and about 100 € in vouchers to buy nice and highly calorific goodies with to keep me in kg. I was very moved.

Just catching up with the thread, a lot happens in a week.
My dull news is that we've bought a rug, I'm not sure I like it, it's quite modern.
I've been to photography exhibition this afternoon with my brother of the village I'm from. It was brilliant.