Come and tell me your dull and unexciting news 23: Calmly through the day

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I've started a new one. Please join us and share the boring and mundane things happening in your world. It will be calming for all.

Here is the link to the prior thread:

Come and tell me your dull and unexciting news 22: Calmly through the day

Apologies that the prior thread filled up before I could create this one. Hopefully everyone will find it. Lurkers are of course welcome to unlurk.

Yes miss the ones you have to cut in gloves wearing glasses.
But after all those years he has the routine not to fill the whole place and outside staircase with chili fumes. Everything is done very fast.

Hoping so much the chemo works and you can defy the odds Prok

Glad you are improving DrTwo

DS tried to go to school and police were called and they forced him into hospital and sectioned him. He was handcuffed and had 4 security guards force him to the bed and now they are medicating him. He has not eaten or drank in 3 days but under section so we cannot get him out. Being moved to another hospital an hour and a half away tomorrow and we are now allowed to see him for 10 days due to covid rules. We have visited at first hospital a few times but the worst have ever seen him and I am horrified at what happened.

Oh my goodness, that is absolutely horrific. I cannot believe what I have just read, your poor, poor DS, Silkies. Sending hugs to you all.

Silkie I am shocked!
What on earth are they thinking. What good is that supposed to achieve.
Thinking of you and yours.

@Silkierabbit. I am beyond shocked and so very angry for you. Poor, poor DS. This is horrendous. Who is your MP? Do you know any journalists - local paper, TV? Someone must step in and advocate for you, this cannot be allowed to happen.

Much love to you. Please let us know what’s happening.

Good grief, I can't believe what I'm reading here Silkie! Your poor DS. It's inhumane. Thinking of you and your DS and sending strength and love.
Glad things are moving swiftly Prok.

Silkie, that's like something out of a horror film. I actually feel sick after reading your post.
Your poor DS, all this because he tried to go to school?
This is inhumane treatment. I am shocked. I can't find the words to describe how wrong I feel this is.
Sending you love and strength but my God, I'm so angry on your behalf.

Also sending you very best wishes Prok. I'm glad the treatment is commencing so soon.

Yes, I'm sorry Prok, in my indignation over Silkie's post I omitted to send my very best to you.

Gosh Silkie how incredibly tough for on r you and your family. Your poor poor DS.

I agree with Hilda re MP and even papers.

Prok sending 💐and love your way.

in boring news I have a cold.

Sorry, Prok I too got incensed by Silkies post. I really, really hope that your treatment has a positive outcome. You are always so positive and supportive to everyone on these threads and we are all rooting for you xx

Fucking hell Silkie, you hear about these things that are so inhumane they're barely believable but you know they happen because it's the cheapest option. Locking a child up for an imagined mental health problem which is actually a neurological difference is to be expected when your govt has spent 12 years reducing the money they put in but demanding the same service. I am beyond appalled at his treatment and agree, get hold of your MP, local papers, anything that can pour publicity on this vile practise. I hope you get a positive resolution.

Silkie, that's horrible. What on earth led them to call the police?

Wow, Silkies.

I think you need to get a lawyer.
It would be very helpful to get any doctors you know to contact the hospital DS is in on your behalf.
Are you able to see the committal order?
Can you contact the police and get the incident report?
I would contact local journalists and your MP asap.

DS was entitled to have a parent with him at the assessment with the Approved Mental Health Professionals. His regular doctor should ideally have been on the three person AMHP team. The loophole is that the assessment can be declared an 'emergency'. What made this an emergency? Was DS a danger to himself or others? What is the working definition of 'emergency'?

A lot of the rights of the patient depend on the patient being verbal, able to comprehend what is being said and what is happening, and able to be assertive.

It is appalling that a minor who is non verbal iirc could be railroaded like that and that you and DH are not allowed contact.
DS has the right to contact you to petition for the section to end. Since he is non verbal there must be a way for you to initiate contact.

You can appeal the section through the Mental Health Tribunal.

Silkies that is beyond awful, how can something like that happen these days. Math's advice sounds good.

Been away to Pembrokeshire, now have a mountain of washing.

Thanks everyone. Its truly awful and I did not even think such things could happen and they are talking of keeping him 6 weeks. He has not eaten almost at all since they forced him in and we aren't allowed to see him due to stupid covid rules. Though they have relaxed it from 10 days to 3 days but still. And everyone is claiming they were perfect and he had brilliant support in schools, all £4000 extra one year which paid for staff training and nothing the rest. And scarily they seem to be trying to blame us to get them off the hook, had SS call claiming we had been refusing to let him go to school, thankfully have e-mails proving that's a lie but its all getting very nasty.

My heart goes out to you Silkie. When the authorities have got it in for you, its scary.

Silkies you really do need a lawyer, and a journalist, and your MP needs to go to bat for you.

Someone needs to find out what happened to the pupil premium the school was getting.

Glad you can see DS sooner than you thought you would, but he shouldn't be where he is.

Sending best wishes.

Silkie this is all so frightening for you all, your poor DS must be terrified.

Prok you remain in my prayers, for hope and comfort at this scary time.

I hosted my parents, 3 siblings and their spouses and children for an afternoon tea today. It was not calm or dull but we had a lovely time

Silkie, when we battled with our school district over services for our DS we discovered that there are solicitors who specialize in education law and situations like this. Just threatening to bring one in got their attention, and they became much more reasonable. I think you're well past the point of needing this kind of help.

Helena, what did you serve the crowd?

DS unpacked from his trip to Florida yesterday, so there was lots of extra laundry and ironing to do. I thought he would be going into NYC today, but he had online training instead.

Oh my gosh Silkie 6weeks! Your poor poor DS. Sounds to me like school are backtracking massively. You and your DS have been massively let down. Am so very annoyed for you. Sending you strength.

Oh afternoon tea Helena I love it! I do love a good afternoon tea.

Watched the Queens funeral today. DS fell asleep all the way through it so I watched in peace. DH was working for double pay so he was happy. I felt it was a lovely service.

Hot crumpets with butter, tea loaf cake, lemon drizzle cake, chocolate cake, fairy cakes, crisps, strawberries, cucumber sticks, salmon and cream cheese sandwiches, ham sandwiches, cheese sandwiches, cocktail sausages… there was not a lot left!

Reminds me of the picnic in The Wind In The Willows 🤤 "There’s cold chicken inside it,’ replied the Rat briefly;
‘coldtonguecoldhamcoldbeefpickledgherkinssaladfrenchrollscresssandwiches
pottedmeatgingerbeerlemonadesodawater—-"

Today was DS's first day commuting to NYC for his new job. He was understandably very nervous. DH dropped him off at the train station so that he wouldn't have to worry about parking. We are now waiting anxiously to hear how it went and when he needs to be picked up.

I had my post-operative exam with the surgeon this morning. Everything healed up nicely. So I'm cleared for aerobic exercise but he wants me to continue to be cautious about lifting anything heavy for another few weeks.

Miss Great news!

Silkie I wish you and DS a lot of strength and fury!

Pickline is in, waiting for my first dose of chemo (a 48h infusion).
DD has started on teaching DS how to clean. We managed to teach him coking, shopping and laundry, but cleaning is something he cannot see sense in.