Mother and daughter best friends, what do you think when you hear this ?

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Just been watching George Clarke flipping fast and two for the contestants are mother n daughter and both describe themselves as best friends

jistbwondered what you generally think to mothers and daughters that say this

as tbh it’s often how I feel about my dd we are such good friends
but I tend not to say that as it’s like it makes people feel sick or eye roll etc

See I think it's really weird if you're married to someone but you have someone who is a better friend than the person you married?

Like why did you not marry the best friend instead if you're closer to them than your literal life partner?

What? My husband is absolutely my best friend. He says I’m his as well. How is that weird? Bloody hell, I’m doing it all wrong according to this thread.

EXACTLY.

A close friend would describe her mum as her best friend. They had a lovely supportive relationship (she recently died)

My mum used to describe our relationship as more like friends. No we were not I wanted a mother she could never be one and she isn’t my friend. Was also about my mum wanting to appear younger she has an issue with her age (has done from around the age of 35)

ds and I are very close but right now he is upset with me because I’m embarrassing. That’s fine I’m ok with that we have a parent/child relationship it’s completely different

I find it a bit sad for both mum and daughter that they haven’t got their own best friends.
i get on brilliantly with my mum and my daughter but we would never describe each other as best friends. Not even friends I don’t think as there’s a completely different dynamic.

How can you be friends - which to me implies a broadly equal relationship- when one of you has a legal and moral obligation to keep the other one safe and to make (sometimes difficult and controversial) judgement calls about what the other is allowed to do? I don’t nag my friends about not jumping in rivers and not to pierce their own ears.

I find it a bit sad for both mum and daughter that they haven’t got their own best friends.

Well don't. Just focus on yourself. I don't need your pity any more then I need a 'best friend'

Indeed. I find it “sad” all these people care about how others define their relationships tbh!

I think smother-mother who has taken her daughter emotional hostage.

I think unable to think outside of a very small box.

My mother never smothered me and we’d describe ourselves this way. What a ridiculous statement.

It's not a ridiculous statement! It's my answer to the question posed by the OP:

Mother and daughter best friends, what do you think when you hear this ?

It's also my personal experience with my mother.

So enmeshed you don't even know it...

Oh wow this thread has surprised me - I have had an at times very strained relationship with my mum growing up, but now I'm an adult with a child and life of my own, my mum is definitely my best friend! I can tell her anything and vice versa - I'm very sure we don't tell each other everything, but there's nothing that I couldn't tell her, if I wanted to. Does that make sense?

We FaceTime every day and meet up once a week. We share a few interests.

I suppose that she actually is the type of person to be a bit full on and smothering as some people have said on this thread, however I'm not a very easy person to smother so it works out just fine 

I didn't realise that this was a thing people found odd. But then maybe I'm thinking of "best friend" wrong - I guess I have around five people in my life who I describe as my "best friend", so it's not like my mum is the only person I have.

Indeed. I find it “sad” all these people care about how others define their relationships tbh!

Well why do they feel the need to define the relationship more than Mother/Daughter?

Surely ‘this is my mum’ compared to ‘this is my mum who’s my best friend’ doesn’t need a label? Mum/daughter is perfectly understandable?

It the ‘we’re more than your big standard mother daughter’ that’s a bit yuk?

Although, to add onto my last post - if my mum was my only best friend, I'd have no worries about that at all. Why should I?!

Except this is about 2 adults (on a property show) so really doesn't apply.

Even as adults I find it weird - sorry. My own mother has legions of friends we are her daughters she doesn’t need anymore friends!

Meh.

Some people prefer smaller groups and familial type relationships, how is that weird?

Some people prefer smaller groups and familial type relationships, how is that weird?

I think the posters that are limited in thinking are under the impression their insults make them look superior.

This!!

Mother and daughter share similar interests/humour and enjoy each other's company? Of course they can be best friends 🙄
Typically shitty answers on here, what a surprise.

I think it says something that they want to define their relationship this way. For me mother and daughter is already a relationship, why add were best friends? Trying to make something where it doesn't need to be.

I’d say it depends on the type of relationship.
One where you enjoy each others’ company (maybe a small age gap so can relate), but have your own lives and friends. Great!
One where you’re co-dependent and live in each others’ pockets in a suffocating way. Not so great.
i got on very well w my late mum, I told her a lot of stuff and we had good banter, but no way was she a bestie - I’m sure the feeling was mutual.
And likewise, myself and my young adult DD also have a great relationship but def mum and daughter.
im not sure what qualifies a mum/daughter as best mates. I think there should be some boundaries really.

I’m worried about this w a friend of mine.
Its going to be a terrible time - not that her mum is at that stage, but I know from experience things can happen out of the blue.