DH thinks I was rude but I disagree

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At our local pub my usual tipple is rose wine. Almost every time we go they want to flog us the bottle and I always say no thanks.
I tend to have a large glass to start and then a couple of small ones with ice & soda to 'tip in'
Anyway today they tried to push the bottle and as usual I said no thanks to which the lass helping out behind the bar ( not even staff) said "do you know just how much wine you drink? You would save money by buying the bottle "
I replied "judgmental much?"

I do not think you were rude at all in what you said, she is the rude one, you are the customer and can choose to drink glasses of wine and not the bottle. How dare she make a comment like that and your comment was priceless, bet that shut her up for a bit. Good you stood up for yourself. Your comment made me laugh and I am not a rude person either but she should not be making comments on your drinking at all.

You can't buy barrels of lager or bottles of gin in the pub.
You can buy bottles of wine. And it is cheaper than buying that many individual glasses.
She wasn't being rude. She was trying to save you money.
I think it's more important you explore why you thought it was rude and why you're sensitive about the amount you drink.

I exactly as you described id have probably been as rude as you however, she wanst even staff and commented that she knows how much you usually drink. You may need to honestly look at your drinking habits.

OP is pretty rude and argumentative, but I do see why she's frustrated at this specific point.
She's clearly stated the cost of a 250ml glass of wine, and then the cost of the whole bottle. IF she bought 3 large glasses of wine, vs buying the whole bottle, it would cost her 50p extra. So even if she did drink that amount, she wouldn't be saving much.
However, she drinks way less than that, so it makes more financial sense to drink as she does.

Not sure why people keep nitpicking this point as it seems perfectly clear to me!!

The person helping out needs to mind their own business and leave customers to order whatever way they like,they were incredibly rude.I do think you were rude but right at the same time

A good pub would serve you what you want, how you want it. As a regular, you should not be constantly asked to change your order

Suggesting a bottle once is fine. But the bartender clearly knew OP's preferences. V rude and inhospitable to insist.

I think you’ve reacted to the comment because she’s pointed out that you drink a lot and you don’t like it. You are drinking a lot of wine and regularly enough that the girl behind the bar recognizes you and has noticed. That’s not great, is it?

Also, “judgemental much” is a horrible phrase.

This!

She's right that you should have bought the bottle. You drank a bottle of wine but chose to pay more by buying by the glass

They are probably frustrated that they have an open bottle of wine in the fridge that they probably have to chuck in the next day or so every time you go in. So you always cost them £19 but only pay £13.30.

It's obviously up to you what you want, but you could occasionally buy the bottle to be a good patron.

If they don't have ice buckets just ask them to keep it in the fridge for you.

I don’t think it was judgemental, she could have worded it better though, I think she thought she was doing you a favour. But you know your limits, perhaps that last 150ml could be too much for you. It would be for me, I can’t drink more than two medium sized glasses.

my local doesn’t sell wine by the glass, they sell the 187ml and 750ml bottles instead. The landlord said he was sick of throwing the left over wine away if it hadn’t been sold and I can see his point. My friend drinks three of the 187 ml bottles every time we go out. I did mention to her once that it would be cheaper to buy a full bottle, she said “I know, but I only have three drinks”.
🤷🏼‍♀️I can’t work out the logic either.

Glad you've cleared that up @OvO
I've noticed @OvOvO around and thought you must have had a personality transplant. Hope you are well.

You see I think they are pushing the bottle on you because it's rose and I bet no one else drinks it so the rest of the bottle goes to waste. In which case they are VERY unreasonable!

Oh dear 😂. I appear to have really touched a nerve...

Her saying ‘do you know just how much wine you drink?’ is rude, she may not have meant it.

I don’t blame you for getting angry on this thread, OP, there are a lot of very stupid and goady posts directed at you!

I think you were right to challenge the woman but I think you should have been more direct and said ‘Please don’t comment on how much I drink, asking someone do you know JUST how much you drink is rude’. Definitely complain to the bar staff.

You were wrong though, and should acknowledge it Johnnysgirl.

And the OP isn't abusive and aggressive and pissed towards other posters at all at all.
She's incapable of posting without hurling insults at everyone who disagrees with her.
She sounds like one of those people who has fights in pub carparks.

Except the OP herself originally stated that the bottle was cheaper than buying individual drinks without making any mention of size.

@eldora OP has two different versions. One where she very clearly said "The bottle costs a whole 50 pence less than buying drinks singularly" and then half an hour later changes it to taking about equivalent glass sizes.

She then called PP fucking dense. I don't think @Johnnysgirl is the one that needs to apologise?

Er... No.
But thanks for your input.

The bottle is 50p cheaper if OP buys 3 x large glasses.

But it’s not cheaper for OP’s needs 1 x large, 2 x small).

She has explained this clearly and was still getting questioned, I can see why she snapped.

But no thanks to you, because you refuse to read OP’s posts.

Yup, definitely a rude response on your part. Not sure why you’re so touchy about her comment tbh, as I’d have interpreted as the bar person offering me a cheaper option. The fact you were rude says more about you than her I think…

She worked what she said badly. If she'd just commented about the amount you had consumed that would have been being directly rude. In context of also mentioning it would cost less to but the bottle, it seems rudeness was not intentional.

If you drink 3 or so glasses of wine, then that is close to a whole bottle. If you drink 3 gin and tonics, that's not even quarter of a bottle, so it's not comparative.