DH says I can’t have botox

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I have started to get Botox and for me I love the result. It has got rid of my ‘11’s that were really bothering me. I am really happy.

My DH hates Botox/filler. Points out bad lip filler jobs with boring regularity when out.

From my pov, I go to work, I pay for it, it is not financially damaging to our family. It is also not a lot so I still have lines and wrinkles - not a mask face. I am old enough to weigh up risks. I am so pleased!!

He said, me choosing to do this, it was driving a wedge in our marriage.

How much say does a husband get in beauty treatments do you think?

OP, I'm glad you came back with your last post, this really isn't about botox at all, it's about someone imposing their opinions and discounting yours, your feelings, your choices and your decisions.

There is nothing wrong with a partner saying 'I would prefer you not to have it but it's your decision' to an outright 'NO'.

My DH has said he would rather I did not have botox, however, he never ever trys to control the way I dress, the make up I use, in fact nothing I do is under his scrutiny, we are equals, partners and respect each other. I feel your DH has a controlling nature and I would be very wary!

A health and safety thug

I used to work in health and safety and can totally picture an old fashioned thug doing it

Three choices, tell him to do one, it's your body, have it done and say nothing (it doesn't look obvious like lip fillers) talk to him like a reasonable human being and point out how controlling it is.

You know him best, and your life, so work out the easiest way forward.

Akite · Today 06:52
You are perfectly entitled to have Botox, but he is also perfectly entitled to hate it.
I would feel the same as your DH if mine had Botox or anything like that.“

this ^

Haha...utter bollocks 🤣

Botox makes people look really shiny and have limited facial expressions. Lip fillers are even worse. I understand why he wouldn’t want you to have it done.

If you still have wrinkles and not a 'mask face', how would he know?
Lip fillers are very different to Botox which is indistinguishable when done properly

Just do it and don’t tell him! I’ve had it for years and never let on!

Don't tell him. I don't tell my DP 😊

I've been having botox for years in my frown line. I dont look frozen and I can move my face. I'm 60 and it looks great. I cant see what the problem is unless you look like a deep frozen trout.
Tell him you'll do what you want with your own face or just don't tell him.

If your husband would leave you because you exercised your right to bodily autonomy and had Botox, then you are well rid imo!

I can understand a person having a preference or finding certain things more or less attractive, but in the end, if you don't respect a person's autonomy and behave as if you own them and should have more of a say over their body that they do, then that is a relationship which has gone seriously wrong.

Your body, your choice. I get Botox and have done for a while. My bf hates Botox, says you can always tell, while being completely unaware I get it done… Your H sounds controlling op. As this particular cat is out of the bag, I would just tell him to shut up, it’s not his business.

Botox in frown lines is great. It's when the entire face is mask like and the eyebrows are in the hairline, it looks awful. Maybe he is concerned about that and just needs reassurance

I get baby botox. DH doesn’t understand why and says I don’t need to but understands that it makes me feel better and would never make any fuss about it.

Just like I don’t when he decides to shave his head or grow a massive beard or whatever.

I don't like botox, but it's not up to him. He can express his opinion but it's up to you whether you have it done.

My husband and many friends work in drug development/medical sphere. None of us have Botox. Make of that what you will.

He can express his views, but if you want to have Botox, you should have it. He sounds like a bit of a dick tbh.

I told my dh I had just had Botox and he was genuinely surprised and all, ‘it’s going to make you look weird/different…you don’t need it etc’. I then told him I’ve been having it for years and he’s never even noticed!

He gets zero say. Just get it dome and don't tell him; he probably won't even notice./

Lol. This

I'm not sure about the doing it anyway and just not telling him advice. If this was my marriage I'd be quite concerned at the way my husband was talking to me about this and the way he thinks his right to object should override my right to do as I want with my own body.
I think this needs dealing with properly and not be swept under the carpet.

Baby botox. God that expression is so nauseating. You have botox

What’s baby Botox?

Denial really. It’s just a marketing strategy. It’s botox.

Are you sure it looks as good as you think? I guess there must be other issues, but why does he hate it that much if you look good?

It’s less botox. Limits movement but doesn’t completely stop it so you don’t look frozen.

People are surprised when I mention that I have botox because it is pretty subtle. (I frown a lot at work so it helps if I can’t do that quite do strongly.)