DH says I can’t have botox

[Cherryana]

I have started to get Botox and for me I love the result. It has got rid of my ‘11’s that were really bothering me. I am really happy.

My DH hates Botox/filler. Points out bad lip filler jobs with boring regularity when out.

From my pov, I go to work, I pay for it, it is not financially damaging to our family. It is also not a lot so I still have lines and wrinkles - not a mask face. I am old enough to weigh up risks. I am so pleased!!

He said, me choosing to do this, it was driving a wedge in our marriage.

How much say does a husband get in beauty treatments do you think?

Dh doesn’t like Botox either which is fine by me as I don’t want it anyway but it’s your face and it’s your choice.

If he’s going to be difficult about just buy a new face cream and rave about how good it is and get Botox on the sly.

My DH is really sniffy about botox so I have never mentioned that I get it done. I only get it on one area that really bothers me, he’s never noticed and I prefer my face so everyone is happy!

Totally agree. I don't think women make the link between societal expectations, their own insecurities, and being targeted by this industry. If I have a husband asking me to do this I wouldn't be with him.
Getting your muscles partially paralysed every few months in your face by a biotoxin so you don't wrinkle. In a history lesson in 500 years time people will be shocked learning this actually happend. To look "younger".
Total waste of money. I don't think it fills the void. So much better to accept ourselves. We are so lucky to get old.
Why not to be the best version of yourself inside and outside, by eating well, enjoying some exercise you like, having friends, travelling the world, seing your kids growing up, trying new things.

I didn’t know that if you have a bit of Botox from time to time you couldn’t eat well, watch your kids grow up, have friends, travel the world. Is it all mutually exclusive?

My husband and many friends work in drug development/medical sphere. None of us have Botox. Make of that what you will.

Oh gosh, well if some stranger on the Internet has a HUSBAND in the MEDICAL SPHERE and she doesn't get botox, that tells me all I need to know!

Thanks for the insightful post 🤔

And no it doesn’t impact on family finances. I juggle my own money. I don’t buy expensive handbags or spend money on a gun membership or many other things people spend money on. It’s called choice.

DH may (and does often) choose to spend his money on a new bike or a £1k record player. I spend my spare cash on my face 🤷🏼‍♀️

I didn't either. My Botox costs me £400 a year, so I can still afford to travel, eat well, go to a health club.

In fact most of the people I know who admit to having Botox eat well and exercise.

😂😂😂😂

I also work in the 'medical sphere' and hardly any of my face is still natural

I have had botox for years! My 11s like you and a tiny bit of filler. My bf never mentions it.

Everyone is a plastic faced barbie with no interest in anything else but looking youthful didn’t you know. Just spend all their time ignoring their children in favour of preening in front of the mirror

The key words here are “driving a wedge”.

choosing to inject yourself with Botox is a significant statement of your values and priorities. You are perfectly entitled to those values, but your husband does not have to share them and can even find them offensive.

😂not mutually exclusive. But from my experience, I do have two types of friends. The ones preoccupied with botox and face-lifts do not really value travelling or real life experiences.
For example they go to the gym to lose weight and are bored to dead in it, but they wouldn't go for runs outdoors or go for a swim in the sea and enjoy the endorphins release.
I consider myself fortunate of not needing to paralysise my face and feel so happy about it. I would recommend this approach. Imagine all women liking themselves and all the cosmetic industry going boost.

There are some people on here who are seriously threatened by those who choose to have a bit of Botox.

Hahaha. Not thretend, maybe a bit shocked on how many women actually do this.
I have friends who do botox, and are a bit addicted to this stuff, and we manage to be good friends.
I have to learn more though, I still have to find out what an 11's is.

@spanishmumireland massive generalisation.

I don’t set foot in a gym. Run outside 5 times a week and happily swim outdoors for an ‘endorphin release’.

My face is not paralysed. It’s just a bit less lined. I can still raise my eyebrows, smile. I just look a bit less frowny and angry. I’m very happy with the result. I also have profhilo, use retin-a, use a micro current device. It’s not all about a bit of Botox.

11s are the two vertical lines between your eyebrows when you frown

’The ones preoccupied by Botox and facelifts (like they’re the same thing?!!) do not really enjoy travelling or life experiences.

I’ve read some stupid things on here but having some Botox from time to time means you do not enjoy travelling or life experiences may take the biscuit.

Only on MN do women get so very offended by botox.

Yes, I agree is a massive generalisation, this is only based on people I know.
The effect of the biotoxin is caused by the bacteria Bacillus botulinum, that causes paralysis in the muscles. That is what botox does.

The lines between your eyebrows that can make you look cross. Not everyone has them but I do. I have baby Botox once a year but otherwise am very low maintenance (sunblock and eyebrow pencil) No one has ever noticed or commented.

Thanks!

Work away OP, he won't notice.

My DP is apparently very anti fillers but he didn't notice when I had mine done. I just got a Tixel Treatment which is much more noticeable in the short term but he can get to shite if he's got an issue with it.

I meant life is too beautiful to be preoccupied with the lines of your face.

I liked the expression "to take the biscuit", I'll use it from now on.

Ok @spanishmumireland would you say the same about those spending hours in the hairdressers? You do know it takes about 10 minutes to have Botox. And then voila, not so distracted by the frown lines, off to enjoy the beauty of life...!

Why not to be the best version of yourself inside and outside, by eating well, enjoying some exercise you like, having friends, travelling the world, seing your kids growing up, trying new things

I mean....it isn't an either or situation. I do all that stuff but I also have a bit of filler. I promise you I'm not miserable