Do you love DC more than your DP/DH?

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My mum always said she couldn’t chose between us and my dad. So I just wondered!

I have never / could never love anyone as much as I love my DC

Yes. My love for my DC is unconditional, they are part of me and that will never change.

I love DH but I’ve chosen him, and if his behaviour or attitude changed to be negative towards me, I’d be very sad but I’d leave.

Yes of course they are my babies. They come before anyone else.

Yes of course, that's normal isn't it?

Absolutely love them more than anyone else in the world and I'd expect my husband to say the same about them too.

I love my DC more. It's nothing against DH, before the kids were born I thought I loved him as much as it was possible to love, then DC came along and what I feel for them is like a whole new level

Absolutely, the children I would lay down my life for.

Yes. If I had to choose then it wouldn’t be a choice. Dp would be gone.

However, depending on the situation I can see why it would be a harder choice. I have no idea how old you mum was when she said this or how old you were when she said it.

But it times gone by, women lives often revolved around the man they were married to and they entirely depended on them (not all women obviously). I can imagine that person disappearing would very scary.

Of course and my DH loves them more than me. It's a different type of love isn't it and one that's a part of you.

No one should love their partner more than their children. Worrying that your mother said that really.

It's a different type of love that you can't really compare because with a partner there's a sexual element to it. With your children there's an overwhelming instinct to protect. But I would always choose my kids over my husband. If anything happened to any of them I would want to die.

I love my DH very much but I love DS more than anything. DH feels the same.

I never really understand this question. It’s a different kind of love. Why do you need to quantify it? When are you going to have to line people up in your life in accordance with how much you love them and why would you want to? Does a sibling outrank a close friend?

Obviously I love my DC and want to protect them but I chose to be with DH and in a few years my DC will have moved out out and have their own lives and it will just be me and him. Does that mean I love him more - no it’s just different.

I love my children more, but I suppose it’s a different kind of love.

I completely agree with this. I will always love DD, whatever she does, but if DH cheated, or disrespected me/us, things could change. It's not likely and I would be devastated as I adore him and cannot imagine my life without him, but it remains that we chose each other and our relationship is optional.

My love for my dc is unconditional, whereas my love for DH isn’t. So yes, I love my children more, but it’s a very different type of love to the one I have for my husband - I chose him, my children are part of me.

It’s a different love for your children than your partner, so it’s not really measurable. It’s not a competition anyway.

I don’t think ranking family members in order of how much they’re loved is a healthy way to think really. We’re a family and we’d be lost without each other.

We all probably secretly love the dogs most.😂

Yes.

I would die for mt children in a heartbeat. I wouldn’t give my life for my husband. For one, it would take me from my children and two, he’s a grown adult.

If something happened to one of my children, I couldn’t go on. If dh died, life would continue.

My children will always be my children. My 20 year old ds is still the one I’d drag out of a burning building over dh.

Dh could chose to leave me at any time. He could do something awful and I would leave him.

I would never abandon my children what ever they did.

My parents used to tell us that they loved each other and us equally. I really don't see why that's a bad thing. I grew up secure in the knowledge that love was something our family would never be short of and that the love they had for each other was just as important as the love we had for us. It made me feel secure in our family unit.

I think a lot of kids now are raised thinking they are the centre of the universe and I don't think that's healthy. Knowing my parents would take time to prioritise themselves was a healthy way to learn this. They've been married 40 years and they are incredible people in their own right who I speak to every day and see at least once a week.

The grown adult bit doesn’t make sense, I would still jump in front of a bus for my adult ds.

Its just that dh isn’t part of me like my children are.

I love my children and my grandchildren more.

Of course, and my dh would say the same.

If something happened to one of my children, I couldn’t go on.

If something happened to one of your children you could and would go on, for no other reason than for the other child(ren).

I don't feel the need to think about whether I love my DH or DC more. It's a very different kind of love.

Of course I do. It would be much more unusual not to.

It's a different kind of love.