Do you raise your eyebrows at people with 4 children?

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Just above really? I always find 2 or 3 children are seen as the 'norm', what about 4 children?

What's wrong with 4 children?

No, I wanted 4 but wasn’t allowed.

I have 3 (twins as second pg) and feel it’s “a lot” so I would look at someone with 4 and think that is a lot… not judging them just acknowledging it would be too much for me.

Only in a "how the fuck are you still functioning?" way

I have 3dc under 5 and regularly get "you must be keen" comments

I have 6 children, I've never really noticed anyone staring, though I couldn't care less if they did!

No I don’t bat an eyelid. Anything above 5 and I would think that was a big family.

I personally chose not to have more than 2 for reasons of environmental responsibility. But if others don't share my sentiments and want more, that's entirely their business.
I would only raise an eyebrow at those who continue to breed when they struggle to afford the ones they've already got.

Yea I do. I imagine this thread will get deleted pretty quickly for being provocative, but I raise an eyebrow at 3 and judge people with 4+.

I do not believe it's possible to provide that many children with enough care and attention (not to mention the money it would cost).

I wouldn’t raise an eyebrow or comment, it’s the parent’s choice. As one of four myself I’d privately wonder why.

I'm unexpectedly pregnant with my 4th, huge shock, have used fertility treatments to conceive 2 of of DC, had 1 'slip up' and I'm pregnant.

I just feel like I'll be judged, by work colleagues especially, I'm dreading telling everyone (when it's time)
Will definitely be our last child as I'll get sterilised at the same time as my c-section.

nope

No. 2 or 3 might be the norm but 4 really isn't that out there and unusual. Congrats on your pregnancy.

As long as I don't have to mind them then there's no judgement here 🤣 one of my neighbours has 8 kids, another has 5 and another has 6 .

No not at all, so long as they are all well loved and cared for, that's all that matters.

I have 4dc, yes you get judged, there is under 5 years between eldest and youngest, I’ve heard “you’ve got your hands full” at least weekly since youngest was born 5 years ago 😂not everybody says it in a bad way though, and I don’t really care anymore, it’s not like I can put 1 or 2 back?

Yes definitely. In my view 3 is too many. Two children should be enough for any couple in this overpopulated world.

I had 4. Like another poster, I couldn't have cared less what others thought of it and I did provide them all with plenty of attention and resources, thank you. But it is obviously a larger number than the average size family. Its horses for courses really though. Personally, I find 2 children too middle of the road for who I am.

Only as a "fuck me, well done. I couldn't cope" type thought.

I'm one of four and always tell parents of 4 how much I love(d) being one of four, can't imagine only having 1 sibling. We have 3 but started late, I'd rather have had 4 than 2. People with 2 children seem to constantly be comparing and contrasting them, bigger families are a lot less intense for the children.

I'm one of 4, I have 4. I wouldn't bat an eyelid.

What a random post.
Why would anyone ‘raise’ there eyebrows

No-one elses business!

My friend has just had her 6th and i suspect she will have more - Super mum!

Well, I’m one of four so no. I don’t think anyone cares apart from a few judgey cunts on MN who think more than two = chav.

Two children should be enough for any couple in this overpopulated worl

But you do understand in much of the west the birth rates are low? Lots of couples have no dc or just 1. The UK population growth has been driven by more people living longer & immigration not people having lots of dc.

One family locally expecting baby no10. Four is nothing!