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Rubyupbeat · 2022-05-07T21:08:16+00:00

Has anyone heard of tattlelife, or am I out of touch? It was mentioned on the radio today, so I had to take a look. Wow! What a negative site, I could not believe the viciousness of the posters on there. Some of the vloggers, intagrammers I am aware of and don't particularly like, so I don't follow them, so don't understand the effort these people put into criticism and spitefullness. I most definitely won't be going down that rabbit hole again, made me feel dirty.

Classica · 09/05/2022 12:51

BetsHilton · 09/05/2022 12:49

If something is damaging my mental health I step away from it -be it a job, too much social media activity, a bad relationship/friendship. I don’t keep putting myself into that situation while rambling about victim blaming and not letting the bullies win and accusing random posters of spending their time online being cruel to posters on websites they’re not even members of 🙄 a bit of common sense online is required @peachgreen

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'rambling about victim blaming...'

have you always been like this?

Beefcurtains79 · 09/05/2022 12:52

So your husbands weird mate was the one harassing you and stalking you, and it wasn’t tattle that had a thread slagging you off, but a site like it? You don’t want to name the site, so you are instead naming a different site, where this didn’t happen?
OK.

peachgreen · 09/05/2022 12:52

@tomatoandherbs Yes, the police got involved. This was not an isolated incident, as I said in my first post. They had also targeted me directly via email and made threats. They weren’t prosecuted but they were able to identify who it was and caution them.

I am not lying. That’s all I can say, really. Although I’m happy to provide proof to MNHQ if you want to report my post rather than troll-hunting.

MarineOva · 09/05/2022 12:54

peachgreen · 09/05/2022 12:49

Please re-read my posts. I never said I was spoken about on Tattle. It was another similar forum. I am not prepared to give it traffic or reveal my personal details to you, so if it makes you feel better to believe I’m lying, go ahead. I’m not, but that’s fine.

You really are a charming person.

Then why is it relevant to talk about it here?

Tattle wouldn't let you be spoken about if you're not a public figure and they woudn't let anywhere near the hate filled messages you posted be posted.

It's all a moot point

peachgreen · 09/05/2022 12:55

Jesus fucking Christ, you lot are something else. What a hill to die on.

Yes, it was an old friend of my husband’s. Yes, it was not Tattle but a similar forum, not based on the UK, which I will not give traffic to because it’s vile. I said that from my first post! But my point was that having been targeted by a similar site gave me an insight into how damaging it can be and I now wouldn’t take part in such threads as a result.

MarineOva · 09/05/2022 12:56

Beefcurtains79 · 09/05/2022 12:52

So your husbands weird mate was the one harassing you and stalking you, and it wasn’t tattle that had a thread slagging you off, but a site like it? You don’t want to name the site, so you are instead naming a different site, where this didn’t happen?
OK.

It's bonkers. Nothing to do with tattle. Disingenuous.

Their ex had a weird friend. Nothing to do with this topic quite frankly.

Stopyourhavering64 · 09/05/2022 12:57

Exactly! 🙌🏻....whatever happened to you was not because of Tattle was it?
my eyes have been well and truly opened to "influencer culture/Insta families " since reading Tattle....there are some very astute posters on the site and healthy discussion

MarineOva · 09/05/2022 12:58

peachgreen · 09/05/2022 12:55

Jesus fucking Christ, you lot are something else. What a hill to die on.

Yes, it was an old friend of my husband’s. Yes, it was not Tattle but a similar forum, not based on the UK, which I will not give traffic to because it’s vile. I said that from my first post! But my point was that having been targeted by a similar site gave me an insight into how damaging it can be and I now wouldn’t take part in such threads as a result.

But it's not a similar site! It sounds totally different to tattle.

That's the point.

Tattle wouldn't allow hateful vile comments like that and wouldn't allow someone that wasn't a public figure to be spoken about.

It's dishonest for you to keep pretending it's anything related to tattle.

Classica · 09/05/2022 13:02

It’s weird how invested how some people are in defending Tattle. Fully grown adults acting like 12 year olds defending their favourite pop star. It's a gossip website, not your dear old mum.

peachgreen · 09/05/2022 13:03

Please don't refer to my late husband as my ex. He's not my ex. We did not break up.

And his "weird friend" used a site like Tattle (same purpose but not UK-centric) to encourage strangers to criticise and insult me. That's why my story is relevant to this thread, in my opinion. You disagree and that's fine. You are free to continue posting on Tattle just as I am free to continue to believe that it's a horrible way to spend your time with potentially damaging consequences.

FirstFallopians · 09/05/2022 13:07

I think the last few posters are missing the point of what PeachGreen is saying.

You can nitpick around who is and isn’t a public figure, but there’s no defending some of the comments on Tattle.

Yes, there’s A LOT of interesting and entertaining content- particularly around grifters like Jack Monroe etc. But there’s also a large amount of content which is indefensible- I’m thinking of the Bowel Babe thread, calling Stacey Solomon’s toddler boy Mick Hucknall and tearing strips off her family members’ physical appearance because they don’t like her social media style.

Just because someone has an online presence doesn’t mean they deserve some of the abuse they get on Tattle.

MaryAndHerNet · 09/05/2022 13:08

peachgreen · 09/05/2022 13:03

Please don't refer to my late husband as my ex. He's not my ex. We did not break up.

And his "weird friend" used a site like Tattle (same purpose but not UK-centric) to encourage strangers to criticise and insult me. That's why my story is relevant to this thread, in my opinion. You disagree and that's fine. You are free to continue posting on Tattle just as I am free to continue to believe that it's a horrible way to spend your time with potentially damaging consequences.

So you have an issue with people's language and you've an issue with a site that isn't on any way related to the topic of this thread?.

One of the rules of tattlelofe is if you don't like it, scroll on.. and another rule is don't police people's speech.. maybe this is why tattle isn't for you..

MarineOva · 09/05/2022 13:09

peachgreen · 09/05/2022 13:03

Please don't refer to my late husband as my ex. He's not my ex. We did not break up.

And his "weird friend" used a site like Tattle (same purpose but not UK-centric) to encourage strangers to criticise and insult me. That's why my story is relevant to this thread, in my opinion. You disagree and that's fine. You are free to continue posting on Tattle just as I am free to continue to believe that it's a horrible way to spend your time with potentially damaging consequences.

Your story is about a stalker and the internet.

Nothing to do with tattle no matter how much you keep saying a site totally different to tattle is a similar site.

It applies to reddit, twitter, fb and everyother site as much as it applies to tattle.

veronicagoldberg · 09/05/2022 13:09

Peachgreen, your situation has nothing to do with what we're discussing here. Kindly desist.

Classica · 09/05/2022 13:13

MaryAndHerNet · 09/05/2022 13:08

So you have an issue with people's language and you've an issue with a site that isn't on any way related to the topic of this thread?.

One of the rules of tattlelofe is if you don't like it, scroll on.. and another rule is don't police people's speech.. maybe this is why tattle isn't for you..

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Maybe this is one indicator that someone has spent too long on Tattle type websites. When they start making snide comments to a woman who takes issue with her late husband being referred to as her 'ex'.

But as long as you get to stick the boot in.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 09/05/2022 13:16

peachgreen · 09/05/2022 12:03

I was targeted by a similar site once - I was submitted by an old friend of my late DH’s who is weirdly obsessed with me and likes to stalk me around the internet. As a result all my profiles are heavily locked down but I started a public blog after DH died, mostly to keep friends and family up to date on how our daughter and I were doing. So this guy made a post about me on this site and a bunch of people who knew nothing about me said the most vile things imaginable about me at a time when I was incredibly vulnerable (I had literally just been widowed at 36 with a 2 year old to take care of). It was unbelievably traumatising and painful, it left me feeling so unsafe and at the time I didn’t know who had started the thread so I felt I couldn’t trust anyone in my life (he had taken one of my wedding photos from my private Facebook in order to make fun of my weight).

Anyway, it was awful, and since then I have been very careful about what I post about online, even when it’s a “celebrity” or blogger or whatever, because I’ve directly experienced how much pain the words of strangers can cause, and also because I now understand how dangerous it can be to say horrible things about someone when you have no idea what’s going on in their lives. These kinds of sites are vile and irresponsible IMO and anyone who posts on them needs to take a long hard look at how they’re expending their energy.

That sounds a completely different situation during an incredibly difficult time and I'm sorry for your loss.

However, Tattle calls out the absolute bullshit that is presented to the general public on a daily basis as truth.

peachgreen · 09/05/2022 13:21

This thread is a fascinating insight into the lack of humanity Tattle users must have.

"Kindly desist", fuck me. However, I shall, because there is no getting through to people who are this far gone down the rabbit hole.

Thank you @classica for your kindness, it's greatly appreciated.

MarineOva · 09/05/2022 13:28

peachgreen · 09/05/2022 13:21

This thread is a fascinating insight into the lack of humanity Tattle users must have.

"Kindly desist", fuck me. However, I shall, because there is no getting through to people who are this far gone down the rabbit hole.

Thank you @classica for your kindness, it's greatly appreciated.

Plenty have been perfectly polite in pointing out your husbands friend posting on the internet and messages that would never be allowed on tattle is nothing to do with tattle.

We haven't been rude enough to say things like "there is no getting through to people who are this far gone down the rabbit hole" because you don't share the same view.

peachgreen · 09/05/2022 13:37

No, you just accused me of being disingenuous, a liar, "out for freebies and fame" and a bad mother. Not rude at all.

MaryAndHerNet · 09/05/2022 13:44

peachgreen · 09/05/2022 13:37

No, you just accused me of being disingenuous, a liar, "out for freebies and fame" and a bad mother. Not rude at all.

Desisting by insisting.

Well done.

MarineOva · 09/05/2022 13:58

peachgreen · 09/05/2022 13:37

No, you just accused me of being disingenuous, a liar, "out for freebies and fame" and a bad mother. Not rude at all.

No one has called you a bad mother, we've no idea who you are.

I would suggest you're an unreliable witness, but it's probably not needed to point that out.

I was talking about bloggers in general and their motivation to start a blog, if you took that to heart then that's on you.

You can hardly blame people for being hostile when you've been equally as hostile.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 09/05/2022 14:02

I've looked back and the new layout is a bit confusing but I can't see anyone calling anyone a bad mother.

Polkadotties · 09/05/2022 14:40

One of the good things about tattle is posters aren’t allowed to moderate threads, especially if things aren’t going their way. Would be a good function on here

PansyPetunia · 09/05/2022 16:57

Tattle is very astute

I personally know one of the celebs they talk about on there. I don't contribute to her thread but they are spot on about almost every aspect of her life

Things that are so tiny are picked up on. Quite fascinating. My friend (more acquaintance) hates the site because it's accurate about her but she has definitely calmed down and re focused on what she posts

Sometimes it's fun to plant something to see if it's picked up on though, I know she's done this before

tomatoandherbs · 09/05/2022 17:54

peachgreen · 09/05/2022 12:52

@tomatoandherbs Yes, the police got involved. This was not an isolated incident, as I said in my first post. They had also targeted me directly via email and made threats. They weren’t prosecuted but they were able to identify who it was and caution them.

I am not lying. That’s all I can say, really. Although I’m happy to provide proof to MNHQ if you want to report my post rather than troll-hunting.

So it was just one unhinged person? One person?