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I've just been invited on a three day/two night baby shower

184 replies

TheyCallMeJune · 25/04/2022 11:48

WTF?!

Travelling to another city; meal on day/night one, 'activities' on day two followed by another meal at another restaurant. Brunch on the third morning. Two nights in pricey hotel. Plus expensive gift list. Plus themes to have to dress for such as 'pink night'

I won't be attending. The 'Mama' as she calls herself on the invites didn't even invite me to her daytime wedding, just the evening do, so I'm clearly not that good a friend!

OP posts:
Mumontour85 · 26/04/2022 18:30

Thank you! This was exactly the giggle I needed today!

Your friend is off her pickle, firmly tell her to fuck off!

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 26/04/2022 18:39

Just when you think people can’t possibly get any more grabby, entitled, and zilla-ish, along comes someone to prove you wrong.

Mumontour85 · 26/04/2022 18:41

Thank you! This was exactly the giggle I needed today!

Your friend is off her pickle, firmly tell her to fuck off!

MakeMineABourbon · 26/04/2022 18:45

Eugh baby showers. Eugh hen dos. Eugh self-indulgent twots. She sounds like an utter nob.

coffeeaddict18 · 26/04/2022 18:49

I can't think of anything worse. Please dont let this be the next trend! I can just about put up with a family wedding, but hen dos/gender reveal parties/baby showers are just so OTT it's cringy and tacky now.

Bleachmycloths · 26/04/2022 19:21

Oh my God! What a bloody princess! Definitely give it a miss. She is ridiculous.

simplesooze · 26/04/2022 19:52

I have no words but hope this thread gets picked up my the (lazy) Mirror 'writers' and your friend reads it

wentworthinmate · 26/04/2022 19:55

Money saved imo, means you don’t have to buy a gift.

cherish123 · 26/04/2022 20:10

Sounds horrendous. I'll bet she is expecting presents and some of her events paid for. I would not be going.

chisanunian · 26/04/2022 20:15

simplesooze · 26/04/2022 19:52

I have no words but hope this thread gets picked up my the (lazy) Mirror 'writers' and your friend reads it

This thread is just the sort of thing I'd love Dave Gorman to turn into one of his 'found poems'.

Icandefinitelydothis · 26/04/2022 21:56

Yikes alive, this sounds hideous…. I’d be politely declining as well.

…..or just running for the hills!!

Pinkfluff76 · 26/04/2022 22:29

WTAF?!
just when I thought I’d heard it all!!!
if she’s paying then great, but funny how other people expect you to pay to have ‘fun’ celebrating their event!

WhackusBonkus · 26/04/2022 22:54

Changemaname1 · 25/04/2022 11:53

What fresh hell is this ?

fuck no . 🙄

😂

Mamanyt · 27/04/2022 01:37

Good God. That isn't a baby shower, it's a damned monsoon.

TinselTinsel · 27/04/2022 02:10

I don't even understand the point of a baby shower. Why do we need to shower gifts before the baby is born? I think they're a bullshit Americanism and I don't go to these, even to my best friends because, well it's just another bullshit made up pointless event.

gamerchick · 27/04/2022 06:51

TinselTinsel · 27/04/2022 02:10

I don't even understand the point of a baby shower. Why do we need to shower gifts before the baby is born? I think they're a bullshit Americanism and I don't go to these, even to my best friends because, well it's just another bullshit made up pointless event.

It's the same as wedding gifts. To give the couple everything they need to start off their own house and life. Basically the same principle.

Except now they're both used by grabby and entitled people wanting to cream as much from others as they can.

FridayBluezzzz · 27/04/2022 07:49

Amazing. I thought it was bad enough when people charge to go to the baby shower, it’s meant to be hosted and you bring gifts, that’s how it works. Although I also think that’s kinda awful enough.

I'm waiting for people to have a conception party, followed by a ‘gender’ reveal, a shower, I had a baby arent I amazing party, a christening - it could go on and on.

InTheCludgie · 27/04/2022 07:53

Her third baby?! What did she do for 1 and 2?

Macieb · 27/04/2022 08:53

Just wow!

I dislike baby showers, gender reveals, hen nights/days/week that cost the earth and/or full days of 'fun' activities aarrghhh. But this is new level.

Simply decline. I imagine most others invited are thinking the same....WT actual?! Eh nawh.

HelloBarkness · 27/04/2022 09:37

WhenDovesFly · 25/04/2022 15:11

In my day (she says, sounding all of her 50+ years) we didn't even buy a pram or cot before baby was born in case you were tempting fate.

I'm a funeral arranger by profession and, although in the scheme of things it's an extremely small percentage of those born, we do see a fair few baby funerals. Some not full term, others where the baby barely lived. My one last week the baby only lived two days. I don't understand why parents would do a baby shower, and be grabby about gifts, before their baby has safely arrived and they know it's ok.

Because if you have a dead baby, then at least you celebrated them once. Most people aren't assuming their baby will die, but if the worst does happen, at least you have one event about them which people were happy at.

The being specific/grabby/entitled about gifts is grim though.

BlackeyedSusan · 27/04/2022 09:58

Coastalcreeksider · 25/04/2022 13:06

Sorry, wanted to post this as new thread but obviously cocked up!! 😦

You missed a trick ..could have blamed the dodgy update...Wink

Imissmoominmama · 27/04/2022 10:49

I was knackered when I was pregnant; how do people have the energy for this??

I didn’t even want to know the sex of my baby- I needed something to spur me on through childbirth!

Dundonian · 27/04/2022 11:01

Oh good lord! Entitled, attention seeking and, in the current economic climate, almost crass.

I wonder if the mother-to-be will expect her share of the costs to be covered by the rest of the group, like brides seem to do with hen parties nowadays?

RishiRich · 27/04/2022 11:11

I wouldn't go either. It sounds fun but I'd prefer to spend my money on other things.

Daenerys77 · 27/04/2022 11:14

There ought to be a legal maximum: up to a day for a wedding, half a day or an evening for any lesser occasion.