I've just been invited on a three day/two night baby shower

[TheyCallMeJune]

WTF?!

Travelling to another city; meal on day/night one, 'activities' on day two followed by another meal at another restaurant. Brunch on the third morning. Two nights in pricey hotel. Plus expensive gift list. Plus themes to have to dress for such as 'pink night'

I won't be attending. The 'Mama' as she calls herself on the invites didn't even invite me to her daytime wedding, just the evening do, so I'm clearly not that good a friend!

That sounds horrendous. Do not go!

What an absolute CF! And her nearest and dearest will probably feel duty-bound to play along. I hope someone calls her on this, though.

FFS this is really ridiculous. I think 'fuck off' is a good rsvp but in all reality would opt for the asinine, so sorry, can't make that. Have a fabulous time fleecing your friends

Wait, what?! Baby showers are just tea and cake for a couple of hours aren't they? I do hope this weird mutated version doesn't become a thing.

This. I really don't get the sneering. Just don't go if you don't want to. How is this different from a girls' bday trip kind of thing? Neither are my cup of tea for myself, but if I could afford it of course I'd go have fun with my friend who wishes to celebrate a happy thing this way. If I couldn't afford it I would tell her, send a card and onesie and say congratulations I am so happy for you. Done.

I hope you have declined already. Perhaps include a link to donations to a food bank or Ukraine in your reply if you have yet to give one, to hopefully give 'the Mama' a sense of perspective.

I did actually attend a baby shower with a gift list several years back. Saying that, it was just a tea party at her home type-thing, but the gift list had some rather pricey items. My eldest was only about 1 at the time so I gifted her a pack of white vests and some long sleeved vests for sleeping in, as I'd found those items so much more useful than some of the shit gifts we were given for ours that weren't to our taste etc.

See, pre-MN I'd have thought "fuck that" and been mysteriously busy that weekend.

NOW I'd be absolutely thrilled to receive such an invitation, not because I wanted to go, but for the hugely entertaining thread I could post on MN detailing all the most outrageous demands

Wow. The entitlement is astounding.

If my friends wanted to go away for their birthday, demanded I bought them an expensive present AND provided a dress code I would be as equally sneery. This is grabby, insta batshit.

A 'friend' recently had a baby shower / hen do (what?). Except, she got married in 2020. Nah.

Baby showers are just an excuse to force people into buying you presents for a baby you chose to create. I wouldn't dare. These kind of fuckers also expect gifts once the baby is here too. Grabby af.

Let us know the response, would love to know

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This is the most extravagant baby shower I have heard of yet😂 I didn’t have one and was bloody glad having lock down babies as I know friends would have liked to organise one, especially at work but personally they are not my thing and make me feel really embarrassed 😂😂😂

If they are 27 and 29 then surely you remember when they served a purpose? Mums were younger and baby shower gifts were largely useful things - wipes, creams, muslins, and came with advice from women who’d had babies before.

This!!! Please God nooo

You have to go, she’s clearly the first woman to have a baby, this must be celebrated 😉

Can we have a whip round so OP can go and we can all hear about the entitled 'mama' and ridiculous baby shower - some people literally think they're the centre of the universe 🤣

Is she a cast member on Selling Sunset?

I'd actually love to have the chutzpah to demand people (especially ones I'd demoted to the B list for my wedding!) spent so much time and money on me just because I'd got pregnant.

Baby showers were almost unheard of in this country until the 2010s I think. And the gender-reveal thing is an even more recent US import. Hadn't heard of either when I had my dc.

My MIL wouldn't even let us take the pram into the house before our first baby arrived 20 years ago as it was considered bad luck. Presents came only after the baby was born, and there certainly wasn't a gift list.

My dsis had a baby shower in 2011, but it was all a bit self-conscious. Even then it was only a little tea party with some presents.

What on earth!?

I wouldn't bother going, not unless her husband is a carpenter and the baby is due some time in December.

Then I'd go.

‘Thank you very much for the invitation. I’m afraid I cannot attend. Do have a lovely time ‘.

I take it the " mamas" friends are mostly single /child free/party animals who will do anything for a couple of days away ? I can't imagine anything worse or more self centred Maybe she has become confused by the proliferation of "babymoons" ?

Blatant placemaking because I NEED to know what becomes of this "invitation".