I've just been invited on a three day/two night baby shower

[TheyCallMeJune]

WTF?!

Travelling to another city; meal on day/night one, 'activities' on day two followed by another meal at another restaurant. Brunch on the third morning. Two nights in pricey hotel. Plus expensive gift list. Plus themes to have to dress for such as 'pink night'

I won't be attending. The 'Mama' as she calls herself on the invites didn't even invite me to her daytime wedding, just the evening do, so I'm clearly not that good a friend!

WTAF? Is this a thing now? Judging by the responses, I am not the only one who thinks this is bat shit! No, just no!

Never come across a pregzilla before. I suspect there won't be many attendees.

How far off would I be if I assumed the Mama valued her own presence on Instagram quite heavily?

That would be an instant decline

You should politely decline. Perhaps "Is this a fucking joke?" would be a suitable reply.

Dear God. That is utterly ridiculous. How many people does she think care so deeply about her pregnancy that they're willing to spend precious time and finances celebrating it for 3 fucking days?!?

Genuine question - I've never been to a baby shower or one of those wretched "gender reveals" - do people also give gifts once the baby is born, or has that stopped now?

😆oh fuck no

I think you're busy that weekend aren't you?

Nah, there'l be mahoosive all-day Christening with evening event, a similarly vast first birthday event, and if she gets pregnant again the next Baby Shower will demand at least a week of celebrations.

You were only invited to her evening wedding party? So this Event includes the B list friends!

Exactly . A healthy baby is much more likely these days but it still isn't guaranteed. My sons are 27 and 29 and things were bought but put away in the spare room until they had safely arrived. I have just become a granny and it's very different now .All the celebrating before the baby was here made me very nervous.

Sounds a nice weekend away but not for a bloody baby shower it’s taking the P if I was going to spend that kind of money it would be for my/boyfriend/kids
not some random because she’s having a baby. Glad when I was having my 4 it wasn’t a thing I’d have hated a baby shower thrown for me. Each to their own I guess but I’d certainty decline

Same. But we didn’t even have a leavers disco. I don’t think I’d heard of baby showers much more than 10 years ago though. Deffo not a thing when dd was born 13 years ago.

Is she and the lucky A lister attendees of this 2 night break, with all inclusive enforced merriment, well off?

Mine are about the same age as yours, @AngelinaFibres , and I think I have a similar attitude - certainly no gifts were given until the baby was born.

Thins was kind of what is was thinking up to the bit about the expensive gift list and theme nights!!
It’s just so cringe and tacky.
Who the hell has advised that this was a brilliant idea!

This is batshit. Surely you’d rather spend that money on a nice pre-baby night away with your partner if you’re inclined to go away.

Expecting others to spend a fortune on ‘forced fun’ because you are having a baby is peak selfishness.

If we can crowdfund the costs, would you promise to Live Tweet the whole disaster as it unfolds event?

I hate this. I have to be in the mood to go out, but if you're on a stay over and you just don't feel like it then it's so noticeable and others can get upset you leave early or aren't seeming to feel it. What are you meant to do? Feign enthusiasm?

I'd only do something like this if I absolutely could not get out of it.

Gift list for a baby shower is an increment I've not seen before.

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I've recently finished a bottle of Tanqueray Seville Orange gin but saw this today whilst shopping.

It's much cheaper than Tanqueray but not sure about buying it in case it's not very nice.

Thanks 😄

WTF? That would be excessive even for a Hen never mind a baby shower!

I hope your reply is just a couple of dozen laughing emojis.

WTF? That would be excessive even for a Hen never mind a baby shower!

I hope your reply is just a couple of dozen laughing emojis.

Sorry, wanted to post this as new thread but obviously cocked up!! 😦

I don't get why you would feel annoyed by it

Because the expense will be horrendous. The ‘Mama’ is expecting her friends to pay for all of this themselves in addition to choosing a baby gift for her from an expensive list. What I don’t get is why people insist on putting their friends through this.

Dear god is this a thing?

I did a baby shower of sorts for my friend. Bit of food, a nappy cake, a proper cake, some balloons and a handful of us at my home. It was lovely and more than enough!