I've just been invited on a three day/two night baby shower

[TheyCallMeJune]

WTF?!

Travelling to another city; meal on day/night one, 'activities' on day two followed by another meal at another restaurant. Brunch on the third morning. Two nights in pricey hotel. Plus expensive gift list. Plus themes to have to dress for such as 'pink night'

I won't be attending. The 'Mama' as she calls herself on the invites didn't even invite me to her daytime wedding, just the evening do, so I'm clearly not that good a friend!

Oh my lord that's mental!! I really am not a fan of baby showers anyway but I've never heard of such a thing!

Crikey what happened to tea and cakes and silly games? So glad baby showers weren't invented when I was preggers. Even if they had been, I had no money and no friends so I would have been the only ateendee 🤣😍😁

Do you all get a refund from the hotel if she goes into labour part way through and has to leave you all to it? All sounds a bit much, surely she’ll be exhausted, but each to their own

You think that's grabby, my ex-sister in law decided the hen do her sister organised wasn't sufficiently #makingmemories #princessfortheday so after it she got her friend to organise another at speed the following week with the exact same people invited just a different more flash venue and more stunts and yes gruesome themed costumes etc... so yes two hen dos. What on earth gets into people?! I didn't go to the second one, not least as the first one had cost a fortune.

I'm not the biggest fan of baby showers in general (I asked not to have them for either of my two) but this just takes the piss!! I think I'd almost be more accepting if the mum had said "look, I want to have one last trip away before baby comes and takes over my life, anyone up for joining me and we'll all book somewhere together?" But the forced activities and expensive hotel and 3 days of it all?? Nahhhhh. You've made a smart decision not to go OP.

Lol! I had a two hour affair in the afternoon, hosted with a nice meal and cake etc. so it didn't cost guests anything. I was thrilled that people came to celebrate.

If you weren't even invited to her wedding then you're probably just there to bulk out the numbers. Graciously declining is the way forward!

Sounds horrific. I’d politely decline 😂

Even apart from the entitlement, this:
All the celebrating before the baby was here made me very nervous.
As recent events have shown.

Baby showers are ridiculous, attention seeks, greedy and extremely grabby.

This just puts the tin lid on it though. Steer well clear.

Is this actually a real thing? Will anyone go? I would not!! I don't even want a baby shower I really can't be bothered.

I’m just here to find out how much it all costs and what gifts you’re expected to buy?!

What happened to NOT HAVING A BABY SHOWER IN THE FIRST PLACE? And just being grateful for any gifts people were kind enough to buy when the baby was born?

Nobody's even that interested in other people's kids. So self-indulgent.

This has to be made up. It really does.
There is no way that anyone would come up with something as ridiculous as this.

Guaranteed there is a stripper in a diaper and bonnet!!!

Wow that is one of the most batshit things I have ever heard 😂
I wouldn't go either OP - I thought the trend for days long hen parties etc was crazy but I've never heard of anyone trying to do something similar with a baby shower (which even a 'simple' afternoon babyshower is a weird grabby concept to me)

Sounds more like a hen do redux. How would you have the energy when heavily pregnant?

In my day (she says, sounding all of her 50+ years) we didn't even buy a pram or cot before baby was born in case you were tempting fate.

I'm a funeral arranger by profession and, although in the scheme of things it's an extremely small percentage of those born, we do see a fair few baby funerals. Some not full term, others where the baby barely lived. My one last week the baby only lived two days. I don't understand why parents would do a baby shower, and be grabby about gifts, before their baby has safely arrived and they know it's ok.

😂😂😂

I'm with you, @CharityShopChic .
As pp have said, a gift when baby is safely here is a lovely thing to do and used to be the practice.
I think people must have a much bigger disposable income nowadays. I could never have afforded all this malarkey.

Tell us how you get out of it…

Maybe there will be 3-day conception parties next year, any excuse the con one's friends into giving expensive presents.

Maybe the baby shower guests were the reason that there was no room at the bloody inn!

Gold, frankincense and myhrr?

Exactly, this. I’ve never had a problem with baby showers because sitting around someone’s living room eating cake is a pleasant way to spend an afternoon. This is insane.

Baby showers are hideous! This is a whole new level though. Mama indeed. Fucking hilarious 😄