Fiancé has called off our wedding in 8 weeks time and has now given our venue and date to his daughter and partner 😭

[Kimbers2022]

My ex fiancé and I were together for 6 years, and were due to get married in may. The wedding has now been called off due to his continued reluctance to commit to me (we live separately due to his reluctance to sell/rent his house and move in with me and my 4 children and will not merge finances etc) His reason behind this is so we could of kept it for a holiday home/ retreat. I had my dress, the venue, the flowers, everything all booked but he was continually reluctant to buy his suit, arrange the notice of marriage etc and kept making excuses like il do it next week. it feels like he wanted a wedding but not a marriage? Or was he planning on cancelling it and lying to me along about what he wanted from me ie a causal relationship?

I have been trying to keep busy being a mum to my kids, focus on work and healing my broken heart over the last 3 weeks until yesterday when he sent me an email saying he has now arranged it for his daughter and parter to use our wedding date, venue, flowers the lot!! I feel devastated and humiliated! I can’t stop crying, I feel hurt and betrayed, lied to and used and unable to understand beyond belief how he can do this to me. His last sentence in his emails reads “at least something good will come out of all this” I can’t bear the the thought of him using what would of been my wedding day to now celebrate this with his daughter and family . I’m hurting behind repair.

Neither she nor her father agreed to “donate” their half of the deposits paid for use for his DD’s marriage. I am reasonably sure there must be some kind of receipts to show that DF paid some of these, and of course would have no interest in funding some random’s wedding. He should apply to the small claims court to get his half of the deposits back.

Can I just clarity something?

The OP will NOT get her deposits back. That is what a deposit is, you don't get it back.

So the event/flowers/cake have been cancelled. The bastard ex fiancee has used the same slot for his own daughter.
he is paying the balance. He has probably done some quick footed negotiation with the venue to reduce the price by the amount of the deposit, since he knows that they have already received the deposit. But he is not necessarily 'taking' the deposit. He is taking the slot.

I am not sure that the OP is entitled to anything, frustratingly.

I would be contacting the venue asap and clarifying, making it clear that you want a return of every penny possible, and that the contratc was in yoru name etc etc. But you might not get anything.

@Fraaahnces

Neither she nor her father agreed to “donate” their half of the deposits paid for use for his DD’s marriage. I am reasonably sure there must be some kind of receipts to show that DF paid some of these, and of course would have no interest in funding some random’s wedding. He should apply to the small claims court to get his half of the deposits back.

So no specialist knowledge of what claim to bring in the small claims court then.

I’m in agreement with @steppemum and posted similar.

From my understanding of the OP @steppemum has it correct. It sounds like OP cancelled and lost her deposit (deposits are rarely refundable in this context as if defies the point of having one). Twatty Ex fiancé immediately rang to rebook the vendors.

In this instance ex fiancé has behaved atrociously but I can’t see what legal come back there is against either the ex fiancé or the vendors.

If he was a decent person he’d give you the deposit as he has likely negotiated a lower rate due to short notice booking and knowing they have your deposit.

The whole thing is weird all round but reckon your best rid of him.

To all those people saying OP should take them to small claims court, on what basis are you proposing she does so?

If the wedding is cancelled - OP loses her deposit.

If the wedding is moved to someone else’s name - she loses her deposit.

If she went ahead with the wedding, she still pays her deposit!

There’s no legal basis for a claim whatsoever because in any scenario, the deposit is gone.

I am not saying that OP should take the vendors to the Small Claims Court, but the Ex. Surely there was a breach of contract between him and her father, as well as dodgy intentions. Perhaps this is what he wanted all along.

@steppemum you are entirely correct. Too quick footed negotiations, it’s as if he was ready to cancel and knew exactly what his plan was. He refunded my father the £1500 so at least my dad is not out pocket. Just me left with nothing but a broken heart and dreading the 27th may coming around. And for all those saying this almost sounds too outrageous to be true, I wish to god it was. I couldn’t make up this horrendous story if I tried. I just wanted to hear other peoples opinions and advice how I am ever going to get myself through this awful situation