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Ukraine Invasion Part 14

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MagicFox · 17/03/2022 14:49

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Ijsbear · 20/03/2022 14:56

Agnes, you're lovely but I think the hope has to be realistic. Otherwise it's a form of self-deception.

Ijsbear · 20/03/2022 15:00

If there is a (genuine, and held-to) peace deal that doesn't involve Ukraine giving up too much more land it would be wonderful.

Yeahthat · 20/03/2022 15:03

@herecomesthsun

Zelensky knows, I think, he can't make decisions for the West.

Tony Blair ciriticised Biden though for sounding as though the West had no teeth (I paraphrase) so maybe Zelensky is trying to sound as though they might act if Russia goes too far, as a protective measure?

Yes I posted some quotes from Blair's essay yesterday. We need to also remember that Blair has a horrible track record of deciding when and when not to rule out military intervention. He's arguably responsible for the worst foreign policy decisions made by this country since Suez.

There are various explanations possible for what Zelensky said, but none of us voted for him to make statements like that on behalf of our governments or NATO, nor would I do so. He should stick to Ukraine.

Yeahthat · 20/03/2022 15:05

@Ijsbear

About Russian shills targetting Mumsnet - Mumsnet is regularly mentioned and referenced in a number of places. It's one of the biggest parenting sites in the UK and who knows, perhaps further. It can be influential at times. It's not that small.

I've seen the work of paid shills elsewhere and I'm quite certain there's at least two on these threads, one of whom keeps coming back. Of a number I reported early on, Mumsnet directly hinted about several that they'd only registered at the time the invasion started.

Lol it's certainly given some people a new way of throwing their toys out the pram when they don't like what someone has to say. "Someone's disagreed with me, I detect dark forces at work."
AgnesWestern · 20/03/2022 15:17

I was actually called a Russian Bot on Twitter because I said there could be propaganda on both sides Confused

Ijsbear · 20/03/2022 15:17

Unfortunately it's a real thing Yeahthat and Mumsnet will say when they think someone's genuine. They'll also take action when they think someone isn't.

Shuuu · 20/03/2022 15:21

I’m hoping the peace talks come through too. It’s been a bit contradictory though, I think I’ve seen Zelensky saying Donbass is pretty much independent anyway so he’d negotiate there, NATO isn’t an option so that’s already sorted, I’m not entirely sure what Ukraine stands with joining EU?! Then now we are heading Ukraine will not give up any of their land. We’ve gone backwards. I personally don’t believe WW3 is coming. He barely had enough to take on Ukraine, so how would Russia fair against NATO. It doesn’t appear to me many countries are coming to the aid of Russia so unlikely to gain much support. But other than peace talks I can’t see any other option, Ukraine will not surrender, Russia will not give up we could be talking years here. I don’t think his own support system would let him use nuclear weapons in Ukraine it’d finish Russia. It’s also important not to over estimate the Russian people. A lot are outraged & bravely speaking up with there is still an awful lot of ppl staying quiet. It’d need to come from within his circle, I just can’t see that happening in the next few weeks/months

Ijsbear · 20/03/2022 15:22

@AgnesWestern

I was actually called a Russian Bot on Twitter because I said there could be propaganda on both sides Confused
Sorry Agnes, I was a bit harsh.
Tuba437 · 20/03/2022 15:26

My take would be that Zelenskey has said that so when he has to concede more than he wants he can say he was protecting the world from a world war. Not that I think he should have to save face

wonderfullife123 · 20/03/2022 15:28

Agree with all @ljsbear . Other potential rationale as a call to China/ others that peace talk failure would affect them and to apply any leverage.

Yeahthat · 20/03/2022 15:32

@Shuuu

I think you're right. I see Ukraine being an open wound for a very long time, perhaps becoming as intractable as Palestine/Israel. How about also the issue of the Ukranian militias which are now well armed, may have their own political goals, and perhaps see any deal reached by Zelensky as a betrayal or illegitimate?
Economic sanctions might cripple the Russian economy, but some of the longest standing regimes in the world are also operating under US sanctions. Although Russia can certainly be marginalised and the end of its superpower status hastened, they're no guarantee that Putin's regime won't endure.

RedToothBrush · 20/03/2022 15:36

[quote AgnesWestern]@RedToothBrush

Why does he say it’ll be a Third World War of peace talks fail? Surely it’ll only be a Third World War if more countries get involved in a military sense? I don’t quite understand. Sorry if I’m missing something here.[/quote]
Because of the theory that numerous observers are saying about seeing the west as weak or because he feels he can escalate each time without consequence. He is using a system which is cyclic.

And that at some point that WILL require intervention because he will eventually miscalculate the West's response and the West will feel they have to intervene. Each cycle the stakes get raised.

The idea here, that some of the smaller Eastern NATO countries fear, is that the rest of NATO will not fulfil Article 5 if they are attacked. Putin may also believe this. I can imagine there being a certain section of the British public and American public not wanting to get involved...

Zelensky is by no means alone in this view that unless we act to stop Putin now, he will stop, regroup and then go again in some way. Its part of a pattern which we repeatedly have ignored because of our squimishness and reluctance to go to war because it jeapordises our safe little lives.

Its what many in Eastern Europe and the Baltics are saying. Its also some senior British Military are on record as saying. Its definitely a course of discussion within Washington.

Maybe this thread might give a sense of this as a concept:

David Rothkopf @djrothkopf
To those who have called for an "off-ramp" for Putin, I have just one question. Don't you feel ashamed of yourselves? When you look at what is happening in Mariupol, where citizens are being rounded up and kidnapped to Russia, put in camps and forcibly relocated?

Or when you see the rest of the residents of that city suffering without food and water? Or a theater full of mothers and children being bombed? When you hear that the WHO says 44 hospitals and health facilities have been attacked? When you see nuclear facilities being shelled?

Thermobaric weapons being launched? When you see the devastation in city after city where residential neighborhoods are being turned to rubble, city centers into smoldering ghost towns? Why are we obligated to provide Putin with anything other than defeat?

Putin started this carnage without justification. He alone has made the decision to escalate. He has serially violated international laws and committed war crimes and crimes against humanity. He has lied about the threat posed by Ukraine and by NATO and the US.

At no point...at no point...has he responded rationally or given the slightest hint that he had any interest in serious negotiations. He has responded to every good faith effort to end this war with further brutality.

Why would anyone think the world owed Vladimir Putin anything other than prosecution and conviction? What could possibly make anyone think he can be reasoned with? Why would you assume a man who started a war for no reason would need a reason to end it?

I understand the fear of escalation. I understand the concern about further atrocities, further suffering for the people of Ukraine. But thus far the only thing that has spared Ukraine even greater devastation was the victories of Ukrainian soldiers on the battlefield.

Thus far, the only reasoning that has kept Putin from seizing Kyiv and destroying it as he has cities in the East is that provided courtesy of western weapons and the resourcefulness and skill of Ukraine's military.

If you want Putin to withdraw, make him withdraw. Continue to squeeze his economy. Continue to provide Ukraine with the military support it needs. There were only ever going to be two ways Putin would leave Ukraine--following a victory and the installation of a puppet regime...

...or following a defeat. We all should want this war to be over as soon as possible. We all should want the suffering of the Ukrainian people to end and the rebuilding of their country to begin. I understand why the idea of off-ramps are so appealing.

But they are rational ideas being offered to placate the madness of a war criminal. Putin is not the master strategist he was made out to be. He is certainly not the savvy statesman Mike Pompeo once described him as.

Putin is a bully and a sociopath. He thrives on the weaknesses of others. He thrives on their rationality and the fact that they are constrained by rules or inclined toward social norms like telling the truth or caring for other humans that mean absolutely nothing to him.

Yes, by all means, seek peace. But recognize that what will move us closer to a cease fire, an end to these horrors, is not offering up a diplomatic gift basket to a monster. He will negotiate seriously when he realizes the cost of this war is too great...

...when the possibility of his defeat is made real to him. The good news is that thanks to the strength of Ukraine's gov't, military & its people, that reality is being made more clear every day. Pres. Zelenskyy & his government have pursued peace diligently but realistically.

They have communicated that they are willing to listen to Russian proposals. But not only have they found those proposals to be outrageous, they have found that the negotiations are only being used as cover while further escalations and further wanton brutality takes place.

Finally, for those who seek a fig leaf, to provide some way for Putin to think he has won, know that his metrics and yours are different. And that time & time again, when he has violated int'l law, committed atrocities, slaughtered innocents, the world did provide him off-ramps.

It provided him with "settlements" and agreements signed at long negotiating tables. And each and every time...not some times...every time...he violated those agreements. And every time the world enabled him to emerge stronger, he used that strength to commit new crimes.

Chechnya was followed by Syria, Georgia was followed by Crimea. Look at the pictures of Grozny or Aleppo. Compare them to Kharkiv & Mariupol. Why do they look so similar? Because Putin sees every off-ramp provided to him by the world as an entrance on the road to his next target.

We must, after 2 decades, learn the lessons Putin has taken such pains to teach us. There are two choices. Either we stop him this time or he will do this again. Either he pays a price for these crimes greater than any he has known before or we will be right back here again soon.

It is possible to love peace and realize that the only lasting peace will come from the defeat of your enemy. That must be the case here. And if the people of Ukraine choose to reach a ceasefire (and we must support their decisions, they are the ones fighting and dying)...

...then it behooves the rest of the world to ensure that Putin for the rest of his life pays a high price for the crimes he has committed in Ukraine and before.

I do echo this. Why anyone thinks that someone will stop if they think war crimes are legitimate if, at some point in the future, they see what they perceive as an opportunity to gain more power?

And I ask, if Putin does see this as a war crucial to the survival of Russia (which in his head it is suggested he does), would he make peace with the intention of it being a permenant thing?

To him peace agreements have repeatedly been strategic moves merely to regroup for a future aggressive military attack. He does not make peace in good faith, this is kind of the point.

If thats the case, do we continue to let Putin push? At what point is our red line?

Meanwhile Ukraine are recognising Putin is an existential threat and its Putin's desire to end their nation. They don't think he is just going to change his mind about this.

Zelensky can't and won't make peace whilst he thinks that remains and he will seek assurances that Putin won't like. Zelensky has to get others to see things through this lens. I do think its a reasonable one tbf too.

Kamil Galeev has a whole thread on how Western pursuit of descalation as a goal is utterly flawed:
twitter.com/kamilkazani/status/1504103672019513345

He outlines the difference between goal- oriented and the system-oriented thinking.

Galeev's key point is that:
Wars are not launched for military goals. They are launched for political goals.

Kamil Galeev @kamilkazani
For example if you want to deescalate the war in Ukraine, what would your best strategy be? Goal-oriented people understand that the only person who could stop the war immediately is Putin himself. Thus they suggest focusing on negotiations with him and persuading him to back off

Sounds reasonable. And yet, this approach ignores the factor of human will. And goal-oriented people lowkey admit it. For example, when justifying Putin's actions they often point out that it was wrong for the West to "provoke a bear". They strip the other side of any agency

That's exactly the problem with the goal-oriented approach. This line of reasoning when applied to the human conflicts completely ignores the agency. Russia is not a "bear", China is not a "dragon", the same way the US is not an "eagle". Their policies are designed by humans

Paradox of the goal-oriented approach. Very often when you want to stop a dangerous situation, you assume you need to negotiate with the only person who has the power to stop it immediately. Unfortunately, that only person who can stop it, is usually the one who manufactured it

Humans have agency and agency works both ways. They can choose to deescalate but they can also choose to escalate. Acting on assumption that everyone around you wants peace and partnership is insane. To make a correct choice you need to figure out which choice the other side made

In other words: Putin CHOSE WAR. Why would he therefore do a 180 and decide that War = Bad?

Galeev continues
The constant cycle of Putin's policy has been:

1. Manufacture a conflict
2. Escalate, exacerbate
3. Come out as the saviour, collect payout
4. Scale up

So far it has worked perfectly. Why? Because the other side never escalated it

Agency works both ways. If Putin knows the West is determined to always and ever deescalate, always seek for compromise, it means his policy is working perfectly, why change it? So he repeats and scales up. And every time you'll have to deal with larger conflict he manufactured

Putin's policy is entirely based on assumption that the West will avoid the escalation. Ergo. It was a mistake to assure him of it in the first place. Paradoxically, it may sound for goal-oriented people, it makes total sense from the perspective of a system-oriented approach

In the system-oriented paradigm it works exactly the other way around. The other side has agency, too. They are not stupid. They know you have much superior resources and the only reason they behave such recklessly is that you assured them you'll never ever use the force you have

Under the goal-oriented paradigm, the route for deescalation would be make Putin feel as safe as possible. Under the system-oriented, the other way around. After each successful cycle he scales up, so you must break the cycle.

Thus at some point we will have to break the cycle. We only get a choice in terms of what point we do this. Each cycle becomes ever more dangerous.

We are at a point where Putin is somewhat on the back foot and has limited options. Yes he could drop nukes. But in the cycle theory, we understand that those nukes are still there in the next cycle and are a bigger risk.

Its the theory of the Domestic Abuser Escalating but on a national scale. Each time the abuser says they have changed and they won't do it again. But each time the abuser learns and gets ever more devious and makes it harder for his victim whilst getting more and more violent.

Its saying that abusers are cruel and wish to hurt as much as possible, but they are also generally ultimately more cowardly than they are credited when they are finally confronted and had the shit kicked out of them and then have their means of reoffending removed.

I think there are elements of this which are valuable to understand. And elements which continue to be very frightening.

A comment I saw today was: why if Russia are happy with isolation and think they can be self sufficient, do they continue to try and repay their national debt like they have this week? Why do you repay if you see no future within the rest of the world because you are planning to nuke it?

It poses an interesting point.

And again it needs to be stressed. Putin doesn't mind war. Thats why he starts them. Because they benefit him. You have to make them not benefit him. Peace has to be on the terms of others, not him and they have to be backed with consequences that he believes will be followed through on. The West applying pressure on Zelensky to make peace is therefore fundamentally not going to work.

Talking about The Hague doesn't matter to someone who doesn't value human rights and thinks they are the weakness of the West. Why waste the effectiveness of a scorched earth policy if it works to your strategic advantage on the battle field?

Shuuu · 20/03/2022 15:36

Does anybody have any knowledge regarding the anti-Oligarch law Zelensky passed November 2021. Apparently the oligarchs had their own political party in Ukraine & had a lot of power. Zelensky stripped them of this in Nov2021. Putin invades 2022 Hmm could this be connected? Also, I don’t understand the west, encouraging Ukraine to apply to join NATO knowing it wouldn’t have been an option with Ukraine facing a civil war. Happy to be corrected though, but from my view I can only see NATO encouraging something knowing it’d infuriate Putin

TheABC · 20/03/2022 15:37

[quote ScrollingLeaves]@herecomesthsun
Re civilians being forcibly taken to Russia
I wonder if Putin has intentions of moving swathes of populations like Stalin did at the end of WWII?[/quote]
It would fit in with Putin's depopulation mindset and the need to control the narrative. After all, the Chinese are doing the same successfully elsewhere.

Yeahthat · 20/03/2022 15:45

@Shuuu

Does anybody have any knowledge regarding the anti-Oligarch law Zelensky passed November 2021. Apparently the oligarchs had their own political party in Ukraine & had a lot of power. Zelensky stripped them of this in Nov2021. Putin invades 2022 Hmm could this be connected? Also, I don’t understand the west, encouraging Ukraine to apply to join NATO knowing it wouldn’t have been an option with Ukraine facing a civil war. Happy to be corrected though, but from my view I can only see NATO encouraging something knowing it’d infuriate Putin
It's worth remembering that Zelensky himself was named in the Pandora Papers and had looked increasingly unlikely to win reelection. There's a lot of analysis of the anti-oligarch law, not all of it positive. It's not easy to unravel.
ScrollingLeaves · 20/03/2022 15:55

herecomesthsun

@ScrollingLeaves

Was it RTB who put up a discussion piece about Russia wanting to recruit more populations of Slavs?

That would fit with the stories of deportations and relocations.“

@herecomesthsun
I am sorry, I just don’t know personally. Perhaps someone else can answer this.

I have read Kalim Galeev say how there has been a drastically falling birth rate in Russia and an older population. ( This was regarding the lack of young men to use as soldiers/canon fodder. At the start of the 20th Century families had 9 children often. The huge number of disposable young men was part of what had made Russia seem invincible. Those days have gone. Hence his wanting Syrians.)

But I don’t know the intentions behind these deportations of Ukrainians into Russia.

Onceuponatimeinalandfaraway · 20/03/2022 15:56

@AgnesWestern

All the mind games are stressing me out. I know it’s a part of war but it’s very confusing at the moment.

I remember the quote from Lavrov at the start of all this stating “World War Three will be nuclear and destructive” it’s stuck in my mind almost a month later.

I don’t see why Zelensky would want this either, as Ukraine would be destroyed even more or completely cease to exist if nuclear comes into play.

Maybe you’d feel better if you ignored the threads and Twitter? You can choose a news source and keep up to date with what’s happening each day that way. You did say you felt much better yesterday (day before?) after having been out enjoying the sun and doing normal stuff rather than obsessing over it all day.

Threats of ww3 or nukes are going to keep coming up, they’re not an issue if they don’t make the main news broadcasters ie bbc, sky, c4, do itv and c5 still have news? Or radio news bulletins.

Something to think about,
Getting yourself into a heightened anxiety attack or panic every time there is mention of the possibility of the rest of the world getting involved isn’t going to help your anxiety about it. What happens is not something you can control. However you can control how much attention you pay to it. If ww3 is going to happen then it’ll happen whether your paying attention and being anxious about it or not. Would your life carry on better by continuing to worry and obsess over what might happen or if you go about it as normal and don’t follow in-depth threads/non stop news until the chance of it happening is looking more likely according to the main media?

Ijsbear · 20/03/2022 15:59

Brilliant post RedToothBrush. Sums it up.

shreddednips · 20/03/2022 15:59

[quote AgnesWestern]@Ijsbear

I just don’t understand where “it will be world war three if peace talks fail” comes from.

It doesn’t sound like NATO want to get involved in that way, I just don’t see why they’d suddenly change their tune on that if peace talks don’t come to anything?[/quote]
I think Zelensky is trying to keep fresh in everyone's minds the ramifications for the whole of Europe if Ukraine isn't supported in every possible way. I'm sure he knows that he doesn't have control of the West's response, such as getting militarily involved. But I can see why he needs to point out regularly what the stakes could be if the west takes its foot off the gas with providing support.

Escalation into wider Europe is in nobody's interests, but I think probably when you're facing such existential danger, it's natural to focus on the most immediate threat.

RedToothBrush · 20/03/2022 16:00

In terms of peace/ WWIII you can't ignore Putin's underlying reasons FOR the war.

Putin made a speech on the 21 Feb, echoing an essay from July last year:

John Ganz @lionel_trolling
Putin's speech begins with the premise —"I will start with the fact—that Ukraine is not a real country but an artificial creation of Soviet nationalities policy

He blames Lenin for pushing a harder version of autonomy for the republics over Stalin, whose views are implicitly characterized as a more reasonable (!)

He gives a cynical reason why the Bolsheviks made "concessions" to nationalists with the nationalities policy — but this is not how Lenin articulated it: rather it was because of his concern with Russia's history of "great-power chauvinism"

As Terry Martin writes in The Affirmative Action Empire: Nations and Nationalism 1923-1939 — Lenin perceived the big threat to the USSR's project was Russian nationalism, the nationalities policy was meant partly as a kind of constitutional check on this

Of course Putin was not going to mention "a big reason they came up with this system was to prevent Russia from bossing people around as they historically did"

Basically the premise of the war is this "we are undoing a system that was very unfair to us and characterized us as potential bullies by invading a neighbor"

NATO etc. is a secondary question—it comes later in the speech—because the very premise here is that no one in Ukraine could legitimately pursue any other course than Russian vassalage

anyway i wrote more about Soviet nationalities policy here
johnganz.substack.com/p/goodbye-lenin?s=w

(I significantly undersold the Bolshevik Ukrainiziation in this piece however—it was much more radical, there was a period in which Ukrainian was declared the sole language for official business in the Uk. SSR, for signage etc. Officials were expected to learn it—fast.)

Stalin bloodily reversed course on this policy in 1930s

Fehlermaker @Fehlermaker
Agree with your piece on this. Would add that Putin conveniently ignores the fact that a large chunk of Western Ukraine was Austrian prior to 1917 and had never been part of the Russian Empire.

twitter.com/lionel_trolling/status/1505546492236468229
Thread with relevant quotes.

Why would someone who doesn't believe in the right to self determination of Ukrainians ultimately agree to recognise Ukrainian sovereignty.

Its a problem in terms of a settlement. And notably NONE of the public comments Putin has made since go back on this. Indeed, they arguably have only doubled down on it.

Until Putin's rhetoric changes, there's a huge issue. And I don't think any chance of meaningful peace talks.

MarshaBradyo · 20/03/2022 16:10

@AgnesWestern

All the mind games are stressing me out. I know it’s a part of war but it’s very confusing at the moment.

I remember the quote from Lavrov at the start of all this stating “World War Three will be nuclear and destructive” it’s stuck in my mind almost a month later.

I don’t see why Zelensky would want this either, as Ukraine would be destroyed even more or completely cease to exist if nuclear comes into play.

Was it Zelenskyy who said we were already in WW3

I think so iirc

So he’s dialled back a bit. But he’s got to use language and narrative to full force as his country is suffering hugely. I don’t think we are there, or necessarily will be but I can see why he says it.

Igotjelly · 20/03/2022 16:12

I think re Zelensky’s comments it’s also important to remember that this war is his entire existence just now. I imagine that fucks with your head somewhat and skews your sense of what the reality is. When he is speaking to western leaders he’s talking consistently about the war, never about the hundreds of other things going on in those other countries.

Igotjelly · 20/03/2022 16:14

And seeing your country bombed to oblivion and countless women and children murdered it must seem impossible that it isn’t a World War.

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