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What one single word describes your mother to you and sums up what she means to you?

547 replies

NETSRIK · 22/02/2022 18:14

I'll start 'distant'

OP posts:
Fluffyflowerpot · 26/02/2022 10:33

Hilarious (I miss her Sad)

bruce43mydog · 26/02/2022 15:59

Lovable💖

Duchess379 · 26/02/2022 20:33

@NETSRIK

Well said *@ljsbear* . A lot of people, including myself, who have put a negative word to describe their mother can probably not relate at all to those who have put a positive word. I listen to people around me talk about things they do with their mum and how much they look forward to seeing her and how much love she shows them and I cannot relate to it at all. I have spent most of my adult life thinking I am abnormal because of this. This thread makes me feel less so. I genuinely wish I did have a loving relationship with her but I don't. None of her children do and 6 of us can't be all wrong.

I totally get where you're coming from. I'm an only child & stuck 'caring' for my mum after several strokes & heart failure. She's always been hard work. Can't manage anything herself, uses people that can do stuff for her.
I get very envious of friends when they post online 'having a glass of bubbly whilst shopping with mum' and 'had a lovely lunch with my mum'. We never did that. 😶

Veryverysadandold · 26/02/2022 22:00

@JaneJeffer I know you're joking and that made me laugh, but in a metaphorical way yes she is useful in the dark! Grin
I can't believe some posters are judging others for negative words. I'm lucky to have a positive relationship with my mum but with my dad it's a very different story. You never know what others have been through!

Pedallleur · 26/02/2022 22:10

Loved

SnottyLottie · 26/02/2022 22:45

Comforting

Serena1977 · 27/02/2022 00:13

Bìtter

catinboots123 · 27/02/2022 00:15

Everything

IamEarthymama · 27/02/2022 00:31

Lovely!

MinglingFlamingo · 27/02/2022 00:33

Unique

Remmy123 · 27/02/2022 00:34

Glue

Holothane · 27/02/2022 01:56

Crap.

Lampface · 27/02/2022 01:58

Traumatized.

WeasilyPleased · 27/02/2022 02:58

Sharp

Folicky · 27/02/2022 03:17

Envious

Chisandbiscuits · 27/02/2022 03:32

Hateful.

allupsidedown · 27/02/2022 03:54

Everything. She was my everything.

Bibbitybobbityboo86 · 27/02/2022 04:25

Bi-polar

JBen9 · 27/02/2022 04:33

Growing up = "challenging"
Currently = "life-saver"

sharkyandme · 27/02/2022 04:39

Love

ABitBesotted · 27/02/2022 04:50

Bonkers

LadyEloise1 · 27/02/2022 06:37

Generous
With her time and money.

sashh · 27/02/2022 08:33

I feel the opposite. How hard it was to be pregnant and taking care of young children and waking up several times a night for young babies? All for your child years later to sum you up with a negative word. Ungrateful for the majority of people with negative words (there will be a small percentage of exceptions).

It depends what your mother has done to you, do you think Rose West's children think she is an angel?

Karen Matthews?

Tracey Connolly?

Not all mothers are good at being mothers.

Not all mothers even try to be.

Don't judge people because they don't like their mothers, have found them abusive or fear them.

aurynne · 27/02/2022 08:41

ambivalent

Libertybear80 · 27/02/2022 08:44

Oppressed