What one single word describes your mother to you and sums up what she means to you?

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I'll start 'distant'

Cruel.
Dead now though.

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Generous

Cold

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Nurture

Gentle

Complicated

Dependable

Selfish

[quote smorgasbords]@HandScreen My children have the right to look back on their own upbringing and experiences however they choose. No one owes anyone else compassion.[/quote]
Yes, they have the right to, it's just exceptionally nasty and a sad thought. Would you not feel hurt, after all you put into being a parent, if they dismissed you so horribly? Mothers are human beings.

[quote smorgasbords]@HandScreen My children have the right to look back on their own upbringing and experiences however they choose. No one owes anyone else compassion.[/quote]
And I completely disagree with you about the compassion. What a horrid sentiment. I think we all owe each other compassion, and if you don't even "owe" your family compassion...what kind of a monster are you?

@HandScreen
You know what the sadness is here?
A lot off us did not experience compassion from out mothers. Not a drop.

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@HandScreen at the age of ten the daughter of the head of the local primary took over housekeeping duties. Doing the washing, by hand. Shopping, cooking, cleaning. She had limited money but managed okay. Made sure her siblings got to school okay. She didn’t get Christmas presents, but the others did. She got school uniform for birthday.
She got a beating in the hospital loo whilst in hospital for showing her parent up by crying for an injection. She got a beating for forgetting to put the salt in the bread. She got regularly beaten for the most trivial of excuses. She would gaslight her daughter and deliberately set her up to fail. When she left home her Mother asked ‘well who’s going to babysit tonight?’
That woman is 85 now, only one of her children speaks to her. I have scars from her. She should not have been allowed to have children.
I am not a monster. I am the daughter of a monster.

Self centred

Do these mother's not owe their children compassion?
Where was that while they were abusing and neglecting their children?
Now the children have grown up, scarred, the woman who did this to them deserves their compassion? Because she's their mother?
She should have been a person worthy of the name mother while they were children

Manipulative.

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@WouldIwasShookspeared

Do these mother's not owe their children compassion? Where was that while they were abusing and neglecting their children? Now the children have grown up, scarred, the woman who did this to them deserves their compassion? Because she's their mother? She should have been a person worthy of the name mother while they were children

This in spades. I’m genuinely glad that some of you are so pissed that some of us are using negative words because it means that you had better mothers. However you don’t seem to be able to grasp that not everyone was so privileged, maybe you should show us some compassion?

@HandScreen

I think I just mean, I wonder how your own kids will look back at you, and I'm sure you're all doing your best. Might be nice to look at people with a little compassion.

So @HandScreen what compassion are you showing to those who have been shown none by their own mothers? Your posts indicate that you really don't understand what compassion means.

I totally agree with this. Whilst my mum's a bit brilliant, her own mother was... Complicated to say the least. She only told me as an adult of the emotional abuse she suffered as a child, and throughout life. Made me respect her even more. Full respect to those of you whose parents fell well short, and turned out well anyway xxx

@ladygindiva

I totally agree with this. Whilst my mum's a bit brilliant, her own mother was... Complicated to say the least. She only told me as an adult of the emotional abuse she suffered as a child, and throughout life. Made me respect her even more. Full respect to those of you whose parents fell well short, and turned out well anyway xxx

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