What one single word describes your mother to you and sums up what she means to you?

[NETSRIK]

I'll start 'distant'

Heartless

@Notgettingbetter

My mother had a shit childhood. I have a lot of compassion for her. That doesn't negate the fact that she was abusive to me.

Yes. I am a BACP trained (& practicsing, pre ASD kids needing my time) Counsellor & Psychotherapist/ My Mother's 'story' is pretty compelling. she is very damaged. Unfortunately she was not prepared to do the work to ensure that she didn't damage her kids, at least the scapegoat one who she needed. So, as a person I have empathy. As a Mother, she was abusive.

It is what it is. But it is hard to explain unless you have 'been there'. Therefore it is also qutie isolating.

I am happy for those who have warm words about their Mothers.
I hope my children will have warm (er!) words for me in time.
None of us are perfect. But willingness to admit that & do better helps.

User

Unfit

Abusive

Difficult

Dead. Distant memory.

Selfless.

My world

Love - I know many have said it but it's true.

I'l always admire my mum from overcoming her own difficult relationship with her mum who was cold and distant. But my mum forgave her because she came to understan d it was due to tragedies her mum had been through. She could have become cold herself, or been overbearing, but she's just shown her love perfectly, always.

Stranger

Selfless

Amazing

Disappointing

Nothing

@HandScreen what on earth is wrong with you? Leave people alone. Who are you to "disagree" with people's personal experiences. @NETSRIK I hear you. I get it

Puritan

Amazing

Loved.

I'm so sorry so many have difficult mums, mine was my best friend and is very very much missed 😇

I was lucky with my mum for those that have put negative words will you be relived when their no longer here? Not miss them so guess you could say you grief and miss your Mum now when alive?

Lost both parents and do miss my dad too but not in the same way as missing my mum. Don't feel I have anyone to talk to now and tell my true feelings.

Creative

Thank you @Lndnmummy

@Ithinkimalonenow24

It's a really good question. For me, I am surprised how upset I feel that my Mum has Cancer, when she has never been a 'Mum' to me anyway? She birthed me, & kept me around (as I was useful) but has never been warm, kind, or 'had my back' which is what I am to be to my own kids. I suppose it is the Death of any hope of a real relationship, which I am surprised to realise I must still have, lurking somewhere, aged 54...

I think I will be devastated when my mother dies. I’ve never had a warm supportive relationship with her. I’ve always hoped things would change but have accepted they never will. When she dies it will really be too late.

Evil