My sister hardly makes an effort with me, my mum and dad.
My family has had a lot of troubles, including mental health, other health issues such as dementia and also addiction.
My sister keeps away and is soon to be moving to a different city.
She hardly ever wants to meet up for holidays and birthdays, but always makes room for friends and her partner's family. I feel neglected and like it's all one way.
She tells me she is hoping to stay over one night a week after working in London at my mum's so she can see everyone still. From my pov this is to suit her since she will be working the next day and then going off home to her new city. What is she actually giving to the family? I don't think anything.
She rarely spends time with my parents yet they are aging and my mum especially craves company. My parents are eccentric and possibly have undiagnosed mental health issues, which I feel I deal with on a day to day to basis, and as they grow older they will need more help.
I don't feel like I want to even go and see her in her new city because I'm so fed up of her and her partner.
My parents go along with whatever she says more or less and I think my dad will want to go to her house for Christmas again because he loves the grandchildren.
I don't know how to talk to my sister about this because she obviously knows what she is doing. I don't really trust her or her boyfriend. I find them selfish and used to getting their own way and that they will only talk honestly with each other and maybe his family.
I feel like they think they are better than me, particularly her partner, who talks about himself non stop.
I am wondering whether just to tell her how I'm feeling but she tells him everything and I think it would come back at me.
My parents don't see things the same way and won't criticise or challenge them.
Any thoughts or advice please?
Thanks