I was out with a group of middle aged men last night

[DetailMouse]

And I had a nice evening. We went to see a band in a pub and just by a fluke of who was/wasn't able to make it, I ended up being the only woman.

The youngest was 49 up to 57, I'm at the lower end. One single the rest either married or living with a partner. Two I've known since school although seen little of them in recent years, two I know through a hobby and two I didn't know at all until yesterday.

We all had a lot to drink, they were good company, but not overly charming (which I hate) they are all (I realised afterwards) in surprisingly good shape, not a beer belly between them, especially considering the beer that was consumed last night and had made an effort to be pub smart for a Saturday night.

No one did or said anything inappropriate and no one even came close to making any kind of move on me.

There's no point to the post, except that this is my experience of most men. Have I lead some sort of charmed life or is the picture often painted on here reality for the majority?

What's your point exactly?

I think we can all agree that not all men are aggressive, sexist, misogynist, abusers with beer bellies....But these type of men do exist too unfortunately.

So lucky you for having decent mates. Not sure what else you expect people to say...

@wingscrow

What's your point exactly?

I think we can all agree that not all men are aggressive, sexist, misogynist, abusers with beer bellies....But these type of men do exist too unfortunately.

So lucky you for having decent mates. Not sure what else you expect people to say...

Well quite.

Ok then, MN HQ. We can’t swear now?

@Betty000

Yep, me too. This is mumsnet though so we have to hate all men

What a disgusting thing to say.

Just because you've never experienced the damage men can do, please don't belittle the voices of women who have.

@wingscrow

What's your point exactly?

I think we can all agree that not all men are aggressive, sexist, misogynist, abusers with beer bellies....But these type of men do exist too unfortunately.

So lucky you for having decent mates. Not sure what else you expect people to say...

Totally agree.

@Frumpypigskin

I experienced horrendous behaviour from men from my teens through to early 30s, the older I got the less and less this happened. I'm now a similar age to you and it never happens. I'm not sure that this is because I'm surrounded by different men.

Well said.

@Lookingoutside

Ok then, MN HQ. We can’t swear now?

No you fucking can’t

RufustheFloralmissingreindeer

Lookingoutside
Ok then, MN HQ. We can’t swear now?
No you fucking can’t

😂

Seriously, I have seen much much worse than, ‘Were you f**k’, written on here. Is it a new thing? 🤷🏼‍♀️

Maybe they misread it looking and thought you were calling them a fuck

I mean you obviously weren’t but its the only thing i can think of

Normally you can fuck and cunt away with wild abandon on here

‘Normally you can fuck and cunt away with wild abandon on here’.

Right? @RufustheFloralmissingreindeer

It’s happened once before. So twice now. Both times I was calling out misogynistic nonsense.

So you are at the lower age range so 50?
Sorry to say you would have probably had a different experience at 25.
I’m in my 60’s and generally men are perfectly pleasant to me or just ignore me.
My dd in her 20’s regularly gets hit on my so called nice middle age men.

@Fairyliz

So you are at the lower age range so 50? Sorry to say you would have probably had a different experience at 25. I’m in my 60’s and generally men are perfectly pleasant to me or just ignore me. My dd in her 20’s regularly gets hit on my so called nice middle age men.

This thread is daft and fascinating at the same time. It's why I keep coming back to it.

Here's a question - 'What if these 'charming' men didnt fancy you'? It's like thats not even a factor to most people posting on this thread!! They may not find you attractive and hence them not making a move on you.

I used to get hounded by men, all ages, married or not. Some of it forceful and abusive. Now I'm 48 and still rather attractive it happens so much less. Most men love young women with shiny skin, fuller lips, open eyes, rounded boobs up there, a taut slim bod e.t.c.

Your experience would likely have been different if you were a gorgeous young filly.