Things you're sad you'll never do again.

[BlueBloodedBlue]

For me it's horse riding. Haven't actually ridden in years but I used to love it and always thought I'd go back to it.

Now too old and scared of falling and it makes me really sad

Anyone else?

To carry my son up the stairs to bed again. I had to stop when I was heavily pregnant with his sister (he was 5) and now I can’t lift him. It makes me feel very sad.
Also taking my Nan shopping. She was a pain in the arse and sometimes I’d dread our weekly supermarket trip, but I’d give absolutely anything to have her back, just for a an hour.

kiss, chat, hug, hold hands, sit comfortably with my husband. talk to my mum dad aunty all of whom i loved deeply , sadly no longer here.

@stayathomer

What does "feeeling young " mean? People on mn regularly ask this and I can't speak for everyone, but when I talk about feeling old or young it's more physical, I've arthritis in my knees now and a bad back and (now because of covid) chest/heart. I'm more tired, I'm slower, and I've less strength. if I eat the foods I didn't have to think about when I was younger I get stomach cramps, and feel like I was drinking. When I drink alcohol I feel like I've been battered the following day. I'm only 41 and I know not everyone feels like this at 41 but my mum is 70s and quotes similar issues (I don't moan about all of my stuff to her, don't worry!) so that's why I say I feel old (I'm okay with it all, most of my issues are from running, horseriding, working in a stables but also lifting the kids/playing football/chasing, going hiking with them and so forth, so I'm good with that )

The alcohol one is truly an age thing. I can remember being in my early twenties and thinking people were just exaggerating about hangovers. Now I'm mid-thirties and drinking isn't even worth it anymore. Something happens around 31-32.

I am old enough to be your mother and I don't relate to any of that.
Those sound like symptoms of ill health and being unfit rather than age.
It probably is but I just meant that that's what I think people think of when they think 'feeling old.' That just makes you young really!!

Have a newborn

@katepilar Ooh a fellow skater! I still skate but I will never be able to get into the Biellmann position again. My back just doesn't bend that way anymore.

I also miss being a child. Will never have that feeling of freedom again, playing outside with my friends without a care in the world. The long summer holidays, when I lost track of what day it was and my time was my own. No responsibilities, just pleasing myself and looking for adventures.

Ice skating and roller skating. I enjoyed these when a child/teenager - but I have joint problems now and would not be able to do either without pain and/or risk of injury if I fell.

Walking or cycling DC’s to and from school. Feeling so proud of them all clean and smart in their uniforms, hair nicely brushed, having a little chat with other parents, attending school events, (productions/sports days/anti bullying etc), reading with them plus taking them to the library on a Saturday afternoons and getting a cheeky McDs on the way back. going out on family walks to the forest, etc etc.

My oldest is 25, youngest 11, with two in between so I did the school run and was involved with primary school for 20 years. I hated it at the time but it really hit me hard when youngest moved to secondary school in September. I drive him to school and he walks home with friends mostly. Never even been in the school as tours were cancelled due to Covid and we haven’t even had a parents evening yet. No chatting at the school gates either.

Makes me feel very sad it’s all over and very old!

Mine are both pretty sad.

First is see my mum. She died 17 months ago, very suddenly and unexpectedly, it's altered every aspect of my life but to know I'll never see her again is something I'll never get used to. I don't think my heart or brain will ever truly accept that.

Second is to be in good health. I have arthritis and whilst it can be managed well with the right medication (I've had a period of remission for 3.5 years) it's a life long condition and even when "well" life is a constant cycle of fatigue, flares, remissions, medication and managing all my other demands - work, kids and all that comes with those. I've also gained a lot of weight (due meds - mainly steroids and inactivity, my arthritis manifests in my feet and I have periods when I can barely walk let alone exercise).

I was diagnosed with arthritis at 38 and lost my mum aged 40. I feel too young for both.

I have many, many good things in my life but I will always but I'll always be sad about not having my mum and not having good health.

Talk, hug, see, kiss my eldest son. He died nearly 8 years ago aged 18. I miss him with every beat of my heart.

I am so sorry to those who long for another moment with a loved one, truly x

Run, skate.
I always wanted to learn to ski but never got the chance.
Knees now completely fuffed.

Have sex

Reading bedtime stories to my daughters, it was the best time of the day. They are both in their twenties now but I still miss it.

See my toddler who died - I wouldn’t mind if I couldn’t hold him, I’d just like to see him again running around. Witness any more of his ‘firsts’ - he would be starting school this September which is going to be so hard.

A contrasting shallow one - have youth on my side and turn heads when I walk into a bar or pub. I took for granted the impact of being attractive as a young woman. There are some positives with ageing of course.

Live in the same town as my parents. We moved abroad 11 years ago and despite his efforts, DH can't manage to find work to move us back. To be fair, I left home when I was 18, to go to uni, but I never imagined I'd end up settling somewhere so far away.

@acquiescence I remember your thread about your little boy, it brought me to tears. I’m so sorry and I hope you are managing to find some peace. X

Go hiking. Have sex. Work.
I have ms and am pretty disabled by it.

@stayathomer I meant the Actual feeling of being young ,excited about the future and what it holds for you ...physically I still feel young I'm in my 50s but still do hot vinyasa and yin classes 5/6 times a week .. and still,feel strong and attractive when I put the effort in.. but know I now have now less day in front then behind me

I love this thread! For me:

The sound of my Nan’s voice when I used to wake up in the night. She would always hear me stirring or moving around and check on me. She did it until I was 26! She was the loveliest.

Eating marmite on mighty white in her kitchen

Having two young babies close together and pushing them round the park snuggled up in their double buggy while asleep on a frosty morning

The freedom of sixth form and university, of endless days created with friends, the silliness, nicknames, tangents, adventures.

Falling asleep in the same bed with my H in that first couple of years together knowing it was a peaceful relationship

That special relationship only you as a mother have with the newborn baby in those first early days. Breastfeeding.

Walking long distances (I have been told I can no longer do this without affecting my ability to move in general) I am looking at cycling as an alternative

Stroking my dead pet’s ears

You're never too old to horse ride - Queen did into her 90s. I do in my 50s.
I'm too old to ice skate or roller blade though!

Oh and I'm a bit sad to not have children anymore - they're adults now. Bring on the grandchildren (but not quite yet!)

newfriend05
The classes sound amazing! Ah ok, I get it, I think I always jump for the physical thing because I miss not having to figure out if I'm able for everything!!

Go to school (as a pupil)
Speak to a relative (who died)
Idolise grandparents
Be pregnant
Bottle feed my baby (too grown up now!).

Chat late into the night over a bottle of red wine with my much-loved and very much missed Dad.