Things you're sad you'll never do again.

[BlueBloodedBlue]

For me it's horse riding. Haven't actually ridden in years but I used to love it and always thought I'd go back to it.

Now too old and scared of falling and it makes me really sad

Anyone else?

I'm sad that I'll never again be optimistic that there's still time left to do all the things I need to.

As Pliudev put it on the previous page - "that sense that life is just winding down"

Eat anything with gluten in it (it's really very limiting on your social life)
Have one of my daily chats with my dad. He was my bestie (past away in 2015)

@bloodywhitecat

Hearing my husband tell me he loves me. Going shopping/out with him Being able to ask for his help when I need it.

😢

@bloodywhitecat

Hearing my husband tell me he loves me. Going shopping/out with him Being able to ask for his help when I need it.

Sending love to you.

This thread has depressed me!

@badlydrawnbear

See my DH and be hugged by him. I miss him.

Sending love

Raw passion.

Unless I have an affair ......

Have another DC. Split with my EXDP last year not long after a miscarriage which I knew would be my last chance. By the time I meet someone new and lovely, and settle with them, I'll be at least 45, which is (for me personally) too old for throwing a newborn into the mix. I do have my two wonderful DC keeping me busy, which I'm very grateful for.

So many already mentioned …

-Pregnancy / having a baby for the first time and the wonder of it all
-My old loyal dog who died at the grand age of 19 - what I would give to see him one more time
-The freedom and spontaneity of teens / early 20s and the youthful body/ face! Deciding to go clubbing at 11pm, staying up all night, excitement of meeting a new guy and wondering what would happen… also first kiss/ first sex with a new partner
-Being a child and the sense of safety - feeling totally protected and without any sense of responsibility. Falling asleep at night in the car and being carried to bed by my dad.
-Squishing between my parents in their bed after a nightmare and the feeling of complete safety and relief. I feel very lucky to have had such a warm and loving childhood

@ThePlumVan

Have a little warm pudgy hand in mine

😭me too - my baby is 12.

Haven't RTFT but have a fair idea of the variety from the first few posts.

I don't miss being pregnant/BF/toddler years. My DC are much more amenable to me as they grow older and become more independent.
I work hard, too hard sometimes and they miss the best bits of me and vice versa. It is important that they have a good role model but ....

A wise woman once said to me, you will never ever lie on your death bed and wish you spent more time working. It's damn hard, especially when you are a single parent. You can't be everywhere, do everything and be anything but knackered. But try to be there for the little things. And try to listen more to your kids. I could have been a better mum. I also could have been a lot worse.

Appreciate your loved ones, but also yourself. You should not be second best.

My heart goes out to those of you missing your DHs. And all of you missing loved ones. I will try to be kinder to mine and remember how important it is.

I was going to say pregnancy, bf a newborn etc but reading the thread has left me feeling very grateful that I had these experiences three times, because that is so much more than I ever would’ve dared to hope for.

I realised I forgot the point of the thread lol!!

I miss being carefree. I also miss not needing to be home to feel safe like I did pre pandemic. I didn't realise how much it affected me because I was still working but I don't like going out anymore

@DDIJ

You are never too old. Today I was in the pub and a couple in their 70's were dancing to a heavy metal band!

Theatre is full of older people too

@Internaljukebox

I've just got in from watching a band, there were all ages there, up to around 80 or so (and a baby in a pram fast asleep!) we go every weekend to one of 2 pubs with live music

Go through pregnancy again, birth, nursing, getting to know this new little person.
I would have loved another child. I have one wonderful child and realize I am very lucky to have that, but it makes me sad to think I won't get to do it all again.

Give birth

Being pregnant and giving birth
Feeling young

To have my DD as she was at 4.

To hug my dad - I miss him still...

To eat anything and not put on any weight!

What does "feeeling young " mean?

I am much more stable and happy as a post menopausal woman than I was in my 20s.
I have reached the age of not giving a fuck what people think of me, not feeling I have to conform, look pretty for men, stay up when I would rather go to bed.
I wouldn't want to be in my 20s again.

What does "feeeling young " mean?
People on mn regularly ask this and I can't speak for everyone, but when I talk about feeling old or young it's more physical, I've arthritis in my knees now and a bad back and (now because of covid) chest/heart. I'm more tired, I'm slower, and I've less strength. if I eat the foods I didn't have to think about when I was younger I get stomach cramps, and feel like I was drinking. When I drink alcohol I feel like I've been battered the following day. I'm only 41 and I know not everyone feels like this at 41 but my mum is 70s and quotes similar issues (I don't moan about all of my stuff to her, don't worry!) so that's why I say I feel old (I'm okay with it all, most of my issues are from running, horseriding, working in a stables but also lifting the kids/playing football/chasing, going hiking with them and so forth, so I'm good with that )

Channel your inner Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth, OP and get back in the saddle with a hefty back protector.

You’ll never look back.

tayathomer

I am old enough to be your mother and I don't relate to any of that.
Those sound like symptoms of ill health and being unfit rather than age.

Cuddle my Nan

Have sex for the first time. I'd love to go back with the knowledge I have now and make it mind blowing. I would save myself at least a decade of unsatisfying experiences by being upfront about what I like and unafraid to say "this does nothing for me." (I'd love to be able to tell the lad who told me that my vulva was meant to just be a hairless barbie slit and what I actually had was "bizarre" that he was the one who should feel humiliated by that comment. )

Have another baby. I won't have another baby. I should have had one when my youngest was small. My older two grew up as playmates and my little lad is more lonely