Things you're sad you'll never do again.

[BlueBloodedBlue]

For me it's horse riding. Haven't actually ridden in years but I used to love it and always thought I'd go back to it.

Now too old and scared of falling and it makes me really sad

Anyone else?

Have a kiss on the cheek from my great nanna

Change career. So old I'd be lucky to get any job anywhere never mind start again.

Be pregnant again. I mean I could but I had my first at 20 and I'm now 30 and things are only just starting to get easier now that my youngest is getting more independent. I struggle being a parent sometimes, I don't have much money and couldn't afford another child. I also don't want another child but I do miss pregnancy and the baby stage.

Have a baby and breastfeed.
Be in love and have a life partner.
Live in mild and balmy climate.
Do the school run.
Go to baby and toddler groups/days out when DC were little.
Family holidays when I was little.

@BlueBloodedBlue my mum is still riding in her 70s! Have you looked into it at all? There might be a local school with a completely bombproof horse you could ride to get your confidence back.

Give birth.
It's extraordinary... a spiritual awakening, meeting your child for the first time.

Fall in love
Kiss someone for the first time
Be pregnant
Have a newborn
Be truly carefree

Go to bed with my tiny baby snuggled in the crib next to me.

(I've blanked out the bit about them waking for a feed a hour later!)

Pretty much everything to do with my own tiny babies tbh - well past childbearing age and they morph into manic toddlers far too quickly for my liking anyway (couldn't do toddlers full time again!)

I'm sad that I'll never be small enough to be carried by my parents. I still remember what it felt like. Wonderful.

See my DH and be hugged by him. I miss him.

Quite a few saying give birth, breastfeed, be pregnant, etc. Meanwhile I'm counting down the days until DC2 (6mos old) will get to about 2yo where things will get easier. And that's hoping dearly that he'll follow the same trajectory of behaviour/development that DC1 will. It's already not turning out that way 🙃. Maybe I'll look back on this all with rose tinted spectacles.

I miss being able to do anything carefree. I now have growing anxiety and heightened health anxiety since the pandemic.

See my mum
Play the clarinet - wish I had kept it up
See my beautiful but very old cat again
Be thin
Fall in love

Sorry to read of those missing their much-loved DHs.

Have a baby.

Do creative things in a medium-crap way. A thing I never really appreciated as a schoolchild/student is how many opportunities there are to sing, act, play an instrument. Etc etc without actually being all that good. Once you’re out in the world, people expect actual talent! No one wants to hear grade 4 piano from a 40yo

I came to say many feeble and shallow and needless things. Then I read the thread. What a humbling and good thread op. for all that have lost so much.

Swim properly. I used to be really good - it was the one sport I was actually any good at. Two frozen shoulders later and I can only bob about in the water.

Breastfeed
Probably ski/snowboard

I can’t really think of much else. I hope I can relive the fun parts of babies, toddlers and small children through grandchildren or other relatives.

I’d still go clubbing etc. if I wanted to regardless of age

Same as others on this thread as I'm a widow. Be with late dh

Own a pet, fly long haul, horse riding.

@CorneliusVetch

Have my tiny baby strapped to me in a sling

This! One of the most wonderful parts, I vowed to sling my second more but for some reason I didn’t! I miss it already!

Breastfeeding. I don't want anymore babies and I don't want to be pregnant but I did love breastfeeding so sad I will never experience that again.

I miss being able to do anything carefree. I now have growing anxiety and heightened health anxiety since the pandemic

Also this. I adore my children but it does change your life. I’m also now scared of going places alone (without dh), I need to build that confidence again.

Hug my grandparents.

Everything else still seems possible!

Talking to my DM
Being with my first love and being in love
Run (busted knee/back)
Playing and running like a kid without a care in the world