What secrets do you know that you wish you didn't!

[BubbleBathBitch]

I have a couple of secrets that I wish I didn't know, one of them has only transpired this week which has prompted this thread.

I know who the father of my friends child is. She doesn't know that I know. The child keeps asking who her father is and friend won't tell them. Now that I know I wish I didn't!

My other one is that (a different) friend of mine has 3 younger siblings. The 4 of them thought they all had the same dad - they don't. In fact there are 4 different dads. My friend knows this but her siblings don't.

It makes me feel so uncomfortable knowing MASSIVE things like this when the people involved don't know which got me thinking, just to lighten my load - what secrets do you know that you wish you didn't!?

I know my married sil is having an affair for the last 5 years and that the baby she had almost two years ago is the other man's child and not my bils.

A girl at school had an aunt who was actually her sister, I don't know if if she ever knew but I was told when I was about 11 - who the fuck tells a child something like that?

One of my relatives has a daughter he has never met, he is now married with a child, I don't know if his wife knows, I'm fairly sure his son doesn't know.

I know that a company I used to work for has a dangerous ingredient in its product. I am scared of the owner and worry they will harm my family if it comes out. Someone told me after l left. I wish they hadn't because I have to report it.

@RobertSmithsLipstick

I know that someone slept with his mum's identical twin sister.

Wow....this can't be true...can it?

@upset12

My mum made my dad cut off contact with his family. When my dad's dad was dying, my dad's sister contacted my mum's sister, asking her to contact my mum to arrange a final phone call between my dad and his dad. My mum refused and made her sister promise not to tell anyone. A few days later we found out my grandad had died and my mum pretended that was the first she heard.

My mum's sister told me this and I wish I had never known.

Aww this is so so sad

@Saracen

One of my friends (now deceased) turned out to have been a paedophile. DH speaks fondly of him. I'm not going to ruin DH's happy memories by telling him.

There are other mutual friends who may or may not know - but again, I don't want to make them unhappy by telling them if they don't know.

Out of respect for his victims I would have to say something. You are part of the problem, glossing over heinous crimes and allowing abusers to continue to be revered rather than having awkward and uncomfortable conversations. You are making a fool out of your DH.

@upset12

My mum made my dad cut off contact with his family. When my dad's dad was dying, my dad's sister contacted my mum's sister, asking her to contact my mum to arrange a final phone call between my dad and his dad. My mum refused and made her sister promise not to tell anyone. A few days later we found out my grandad had died and my mum pretended that was the first she heard.

My mum's sister told me this and I wish I had never known.

Why did your mum isolate your dad from his family?

I know someone who doesn’t know that her sister is her mum and that her “mum” is her in fact her grandmother and that her “niece” is her sister (half).

I am the result of an affair. My dad (as in the man raised me not the man who just provided the sperm), knew about it and loved me as his own. Both he and mum went to their graves not knowing that I had been told. I still have not told anyone IRL, even my siblings, nor do I ever intend to. I shall take this secret to my own grave.

@Kitsinthehood I'm so sorry that happened to you. My stepdad tried to sexually abuse me when I was 13, I didn't prosecute as he had stopped when I ran off and I just wanted to get on with my life. I watched him like a hawk after that though to make sure he wasn't around other kids. He's an old man who will die from cancer soon now. I know it's not your job, but don't you worry that your abuser will abuse his kids? You may be the only one who knows what he's like. In your shoes I would have to prosecute.

@SavBbunny

I know that a company I used to work for has a dangerous ingredient in its product. I am scared of the owner and worry they will harm my family if it comes out. Someone told me after l left. I wish they hadn't because I have to report it.

@SavBbunny

You do need to report it. They won’t know it’s you. Do it on Monday.

My SIL had a late abortion and told everyone she’d miscarried. My husband doesn’t even know.

One of Dh's friends is cheating on his girlfriend who we are sort of friends with. They met while he was still married but still. I hate knowing and I haven't done anything about it because of DH and his friendship.

[quote Twinkleylight]**@upset12

My mum made my dad cut off contact with his family. When my dad's dad was dying, my dad's sister contacted my mum's sister, asking her to contact my mum to arrange a final phone call between my dad and his dad. My mum refused and made her sister promise not to tell anyone. A few days later we found out my grandad had died and my mum pretended that was the first she heard.

My mum's sister told me this and I wish I had never known.

Why did your mum isolate your dad from his family?[/quote]
My mum believed that his family were bad people so my dad wasn't allowed to speak to them anymore. When my grandad died, my dad had spoken to him once in 25 years.

As an adult I have come to realise my mum finds anyone who doesn't agree with her is a bad person. It's actually her that's the problem. She has isolated my dad now from me too

So basically everyone in my family except my dad knows that his dad wanted to speak to him on his deathbed and my mum didn't allow it. My dad thinks his dad wasn't interested, and my mum goes along with it.

By chance I saw some creepy sexual messages (written to a child) on a relative's phone. Snuck screenshots of them and sent them to the police and Social services. Police weren't bothered, but social services spoke to the family and it came out that Sid relative had been sexually abusing some little kids in the family. I'm glad that my actions led to them being safe, but I wish they had never been out through that hell

@Sportycustard
No definitely don’t tell your aunts about your ring.
It will only serve to cause you no end of grief if you do and you might even end up losing the ring.

@Angrymum22

My DS’s ex girlfriend is spiralling into drug addiction and her parents have no idea - my current uncomfortable secret. I know lots of secrets but professional confidentiality means that I’m good at keeping secrets.

@Angrymum22 Why don’t you warn her mother anonymously? Surely that’s the right thing to do?

All I can say is please, if you know anything weird sexual has/is going in, report it. Know your best mate us cheating on his wife? Leave an anonymous note to her/or set up a temporary email address to tell her, as you may protect her (and any kids they go on to have) from suffering from undiagnosed STIs.

Know that your relative is a paedo? Make sure the police (you can report it via anonymous intelligence) , social services (or child line of you want to be anonymous), and any family and friends with kids are made well aware. It's embarrassing to do, but it keeps those babies safe

I know that my Mums Uncle sexually abused and raped her for years.

He died just before I was born - a truly deserved gruesome death.

My Grandmother talks about him like the sun shone of his arse and I’ve spent the last 20 years since I found out leaving the room as she soon as she brings him up because it’s so difficult not to scream the truth at her; but it isn’t my secret to tell.

I also know that my Dad isn’t my bio Dad, and that his brother actually is. Nobody knows that I know.

@Sportycustard keep the jewellery. Don't tell them. They should have given you the wedding ring.

From the other side. My mum had me in the 50s as a single parent . When I was two she married my stepdad and we moved to a new area for a fresh start. I grew up believing he was my father however our new neighbour’s sister had lived on the same street as our old address. She told her sister who in turn told her daughter who was my friend. My friend blurted it out when we were about 14 . I felt sorry for my mum who had spent years trying to be “respectable “ when the neighbours probably all knew as NDN was a real gossip.

A close cousin sexually abused me for months when I was 8/9. I've never told a soul, and this was 30 years ago. It ruined my trust in men and I've been afraid of them ever since. He's happily married with children and when we see each other at family events (not often) I pretend to myself that it never happened so I can act normally. I don't even know if he remembers

@kitsinthehood - it's not too late to report this to the police. In your place, I would definitely report it. As a pp said, aren't you worried about what he could do to his children, or someone else's children?

@Imonaspendingban

I know my mil had an affair but she doesn’t know I know

I know an ex friend cheated on her partner-and I covered up for her,unwittingly

I know my rock music loving partner owns a spice girls cd-I found it in one of our moving boxes

The spice girls cd has made me scream with laughter!!!!

Can I just say to anyone reading, that would NOT have been a nice way for the cat to go.... and is NOT a good alternative to euthanasia, which is fast and painless. Please nobody do this.

Ah was supposed to have quoted the cat painkiller overdose story.