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What secrets do you know that you wish you didn't!

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BubbleBathBitch · 21/01/2022 12:46

I have a couple of secrets that I wish I didn't know, one of them has only transpired this week which has prompted this thread.

I know who the father of my friends child is. She doesn't know that I know. The child keeps asking who her father is and friend won't tell them. Now that I know I wish I didn't!

My other one is that (a different) friend of mine has 3 younger siblings. The 4 of them thought they all had the same dad - they don't. In fact there are 4 different dads. My friend knows this but her siblings don't.

It makes me feel so uncomfortable knowing MASSIVE things like this when the people involved don't know which got me thinking, just to lighten my load - what secrets do you know that you wish you didn't!?

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goingback · 21/01/2022 23:30

my niece has an OnlyFans

upset12 · 21/01/2022 23:33

My mum made my dad cut off contact with his family. When my dad's dad was dying, my dad's sister contacted my mum's sister, asking her to contact my mum to arrange a final phone call between my dad and his dad. My mum refused and made her sister promise not to tell anyone. A few days later we found out my grandad had died and my mum pretended that was the first she heard.

My mum's sister told me this and I wish I had never known.

immersivereader · 21/01/2022 23:35

Brother has a secret child. SIL and niece/nephew don't know.

Mossstitch · 21/01/2022 23:38

Decades ago when I was very young I worked in a hospital. I recognized a patient's name and struggled with the fact that I knew they had terminal cancer before they had their clinic appointment to be told. It just didn't seem right that I could see them and have that knowledge and they didn't know themselves.

TooManyPJs · 21/01/2022 23:38

@RobertSmithsLipstick

I know that someone slept with his mum's identical twin sister.
What!?! Someone slept with no someone who looked identical to their mum!?! And was their aunt?!?. That is fucking both weird and grim.
Totalwasteofpaper · 21/01/2022 23:41

That my uncle repeatedly raped my cousin (his daughter) and his wife was complicit in it.

I hate that I know.
I hate that my mum knows all this and still talks to them both.
I hate listening to my cousin talk about what a sweet pet her poor excuse for a mother is.

RobertSmithsLipstick · 21/01/2022 23:42

Yep.
It is, even though it was over 30 years ago.
I don't know too many details, but what I do know make it even more grim.

Lemonopolis · 21/01/2022 23:44

Two men in my immediate family potential have fathered other children in secret. Really wish I didn’t know. Why does it not surprise me these kind of secrets are a bit of a running theme…

RobertSmithsLipstick · 21/01/2022 23:45

It makes me wonder if anyone knows secrets about my family and friends, too.

TequilaShot · 21/01/2022 23:47

Growing up my BFF's dad kept a stash of porn magazines in the wardrobe in their spare bedroom.

Grasping · 21/01/2022 23:47

My cousin has been unable to conceive.
She has always wanted children and has had many years of counselling. My Aunt ( her DM) conceived accidentally at 45 during her menopause, and had the baby terminated

NoRaceInThisHorse · 21/01/2022 23:55

Honestly I'd rather people didn't tell me secrets about affairs etc. I don't need to know, and the only benefit they seem to get is to get it off their chest. Then I feel bad for the people who do deserve to know, and don't.

getsanta · 21/01/2022 23:56

@RobertSmithsLipstick

Yep. It is, even though it was over 30 years ago. I don't know too many details, but what I do know make it even more grim.
I can't think of any details that would make it more grim!! Holy hell. And 30 years ago was the 90s. Hardly the dark ages. Wow.
Mookie81 · 22/01/2022 00:00

@RobertSmithsLipstick

I know that someone slept with his mum's identical twin sister.
Almost as gross as the person who admitted sleeping with their brother on another of these threads! Shock🤮
Craftgirlx · 22/01/2022 00:04

A bit confusing but when I was really young I moved away from my hometown. A boy I went to school with was adopted into a family in my new town but was originally from my hometown. Everyone knows he’s adopted - it’s not a secret. But he doesn’t know anything about his birth family. His biological dad happened to marry a family member of mine and told his wife about his child that was adopted by a family in my new town. It’s a small town so was quite obvious who it was. Then when the couple had children, their DS is the mirror image of his older half brother. Neither of them know the other exists but I do. I find it all very strange!

SarahAndQuack · 22/01/2022 00:04

Someone in my family was adopted as a baby. As an adult, she discovered that her birth mother had been in her early teens, and had been raped by her father. Sad Her oldest child knows, but the younger children don't know. I worry about them not knowing because it's a big thing not to know, especially if they're imagining some kind of 'happy families reunion' story coming out of the adoption.

RobertSmithsLipstick · 22/01/2022 00:04
Shock
Creamcrackersandricecakes · 22/01/2022 00:06

I know someone who has been married for 20+ years and has had a girlfriend for 15 of those years. He has the sort of job which takes him away a lot, so he's deliberately vague to his wife about his movements, meaning he spends 2-3 nights a week at the flat he rents with the GF. He has a wardrobe full of clothes there, books, records, the works. His wife and young daughter have no idea.
I absolutely hate him - he's lower than a snake's belly, and thinks he's so bloody clever. Angry

Kanaloa · 22/01/2022 00:12

@Sportycustard

My grandmother always promised me her wedding ring but she didn't leave a will and someone else took the ring.

I was handed a bag of granny's jewellery which was thought to be not worth much...except one of the pieces is worth around £7k. I only found out when it went in for repair so I could wear it. It's a very famous jewellery brand.

No one else knows. I don't know whether to spill the beans.

My aunts would probably sell it and take the money. I wear the item and will hand it on to my daughter.

Sometimes I feel guilty, sometimes I don't.

Don’t tell them! And don’t feel guilty. They gave it to you, it was their lookout to check it over if they only wanted you to have cheap things.

And an item like that being treasured by you, then your daughter, then her children is worth so much more than 7k!

SantaClausIsAtTheDoorMum · 22/01/2022 00:15

@RobertSmithsLipstick

I know that someone slept with his mum's identical twin sister.
That would make her his aunt?
SkiingIsHeaven · 22/01/2022 00:15

My friend is shagging her boss and her husband is the nicest man alive and doesn't deserve this.

SantaClausIsAtTheDoorMum · 22/01/2022 00:23

@upset12

My mum made my dad cut off contact with his family. When my dad's dad was dying, my dad's sister contacted my mum's sister, asking her to contact my mum to arrange a final phone call between my dad and his dad. My mum refused and made her sister promise not to tell anyone. A few days later we found out my grandad had died and my mum pretended that was the first she heard.

My mum's sister told me this and I wish I had never known.

That’s sad that a father and son never got to say a final goodbye before the father died.
Saracen · 22/01/2022 00:24

One of my friends (now deceased) turned out to have been a paedophile. DH speaks fondly of him. I'm not going to ruin DH's happy memories by telling him.

There are other mutual friends who may or may not know - but again, I don't want to make them unhappy by telling them if they don't know.

DerAlteMann · 22/01/2022 00:27

Once had to arrange some pension calculations in respect of a redundancy exercise. The client was a local firm. Thee were the names of 5 people I knew on the list. Couldn't tell them.

HonestwithHope1 · 22/01/2022 00:28

A friends mum admitted that she didn't like her daughter because my friend looked so much like her grandma (the mums, mum)

Feel guilty about that one, never spoke to my friend about it as it's an awful thing to confirm....

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