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What secrets do you know that you wish you didn't!

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BubbleBathBitch · 21/01/2022 12:46

I have a couple of secrets that I wish I didn't know, one of them has only transpired this week which has prompted this thread.

I know who the father of my friends child is. She doesn't know that I know. The child keeps asking who her father is and friend won't tell them. Now that I know I wish I didn't!

My other one is that (a different) friend of mine has 3 younger siblings. The 4 of them thought they all had the same dad - they don't. In fact there are 4 different dads. My friend knows this but her siblings don't.

It makes me feel so uncomfortable knowing MASSIVE things like this when the people involved don't know which got me thinking, just to lighten my load - what secrets do you know that you wish you didn't!?

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KloppsTeeth · 22/01/2022 00:39

My exMIL, who I have talked about on here before, is like an evil twin of Elton John. I know from her ex husband that she had a baby when she was in her early 20s and put him up for adoption. Her son, my ex, does not know this.
She doesn’t know I know.

Kitsinthehood · 22/01/2022 00:42

A close cousin sexually abused me for months when I was 8/9. I've never told a soul, and this was 30 years ago. It ruined my trust in men and I've been afraid of them ever since. He's happily married with children and when we see each other at family events (not often) I pretend to myself that it never happened so I can act normally. I don't even know if he remembers.

MimiDaisy11 · 22/01/2022 00:43

My sibling lives far away and our parents were going out to visit her. They were going to meet her current partner when there at some work function as the two worked together. Only they didn’t know like I did that my sister was having an affair and she was basically the other woman introducing her parents to the married man. It made me feel so uncomfortable. He also had about 4 young children which my parents weren’t told about until they were visiting her. I remember my mum on phone mentioning to me how they thought it wasn’t the best to be with someone with so many kids and responsibilities as she was young etc. If only they’d known the full story. Thankfully my sister has moved and not in relationship anymore. Though I still think badly of her for it.

SarahAndQuack · 22/01/2022 00:50

@Kitsinthehood

A close cousin sexually abused me for months when I was 8/9. I've never told a soul, and this was 30 years ago. It ruined my trust in men and I've been afraid of them ever since. He's happily married with children and when we see each other at family events (not often) I pretend to myself that it never happened so I can act normally. I don't even know if he remembers.
I am so sorry you've lived with this. How awful. I'm so angry for you.
pittameinhummus · 22/01/2022 00:51

I've got a secret brother, a result of my dad with his fathers much older sectary, he was about 18, it was all hidden at the time (conservative Ireland) my mum told me once when she was drunk, my dad has no idea I know

CleansUpButWouldPreferNotTo · 22/01/2022 00:53

My friend told me she deliberately gave her cat an overdose of its pain meds to kill it. The cat was terminally ill and was due for PTS at the end of the week anyway. She said she did it to save more suffering, I think she did it to save money. I wish she hadn't told me.

ShinyPikachu · 22/01/2022 00:54

I once found a text on my dad's phone after he let me use it when mine died one day that's made me suspicious he's been cheating on my mum for years, or at least was until my mum retired last year as she's always with him now. I don't have proof of anything but there was no other way to read the text I saw. Sad

CarlynH · 22/01/2022 00:55

One of my school friends was cheating on her then husband, with one of his best friends. She later found out she was pregnant, and told me it was highly unlikely her husband could be the dad. We have since drifted apart, but remain friends on social media. Her son, who is now 17, is the spitting image of his dad’s friend.

My ex-SIL confessed, on a drunken night out, that she and her brother (my ex) used to practice kissing in a cupboard when they were children. They were always a strangely close family!

Mamanyt · 22/01/2022 00:59

I know that my mother was married before she married my father, very briefly. I only found out when doing an Ancestry search. Apparently, none of her side of the family knows anything about it. She was living in Atlanta at the time, not in her hometown. Mom and Dad are long gone, now, and I suppose it doesn't matter that much, but it has certainly changed how I see her.

Pennythoughts28 · 22/01/2022 01:08

I had a party once in my house in my 20s before kids and found my partner's friend and my friend doing the dirty shall we say , he already had a partner and was with her years , I made the decision she should know and chicken out so was going to make a FB and explain what happened but I coudlnt tell her who I was awful I know , anyway she announced she was pregnant and looked so happy I just coudlnt , I attended their wedding a few years later and it still makes me feel absolutely awful , but apparently she cheats on him too and they are just like that

Hawkins001 · 22/01/2022 01:10

Reading with intrigue

Pennythoughts28 · 22/01/2022 01:10

I'm so sorry that happened to you , your very brave to share that ❤️

Ilovecharliecat · 22/01/2022 01:18

@Sportycustard

My grandmother always promised me her wedding ring but she didn't leave a will and someone else took the ring.

I was handed a bag of granny's jewellery which was thought to be not worth much...except one of the pieces is worth around £7k. I only found out when it went in for repair so I could wear it. It's a very famous jewellery brand.

No one else knows. I don't know whether to spill the beans.

My aunts would probably sell it and take the money. I wear the item and will hand it on to my daughter.

Sometimes I feel guilty, sometimes I don't.

I’d have to tell the fucker who took your grandma’s wedding ring just for the hell of it.
UpToMyElbowsInDiapers · 22/01/2022 01:52

My DF was adopted. He was never interested in finding his birth parents, and had an excellent relationship with his adoptive parents until their deaths.

My DB figured out who the birth father was, and sent me an article about the guy… there is absolutely zero doubt it’s him, and he was a terrible person. I can never tell my DF. He would be livid, so deeply hurt that we ever dug into it behind his back, so appalled by who the person is…

Catra · 22/01/2022 01:53

That a close relative who works for the police played a major part in the investigation that put my next-door neighbour in prison for a very long time. If the neighbour's spouse (who still lives next door to me) found out our lives wouldn't be worth living. The family has already driven the prosecution solicitor out of his home with threats of violence.

That my friend's elder sister is actually her mum.

That my best friend was unfaithful to her now husband on many occasions before they married - she made me cover for her countless times saying she was with me when she was with another man, and it makes me feel a bit sick, especially when I see all her happy family posts on Instagram.

oakleaffy · 22/01/2022 02:01

I know what happened to Shergar.

Actually I don't, but that would be the type of thing that would be a hard secret to keep.

oakleaffy · 22/01/2022 02:07

@CleansUpButWouldPreferNotTo

My friend told me she deliberately gave her cat an overdose of its pain meds to kill it. The cat was terminally ill and was due for PTS at the end of the week anyway. She said she did it to save more suffering, I think she did it to save money. I wish she hadn't told me.
Jeez...That's awful. What a batshit selfish woman.

That really could have caused the poor cat serious suffering...there is a reason Vets use the substance they do {it isn't a pain med} as it is very quick and painless.

Twinkleylight · 22/01/2022 02:11

I accidentally walked in on friend's wife snogging a guest at their house warming party. I quickly walked out straight away so they didn't see me. Friend called a few months later to say they'd split & couldn't understand why. He was heartbroken but I didn't have the guts to tell him his was was snogging someone else.

Rhannion · 22/01/2022 02:16

@Sportycustard

My grandmother always promised me her wedding ring but she didn't leave a will and someone else took the ring.

I was handed a bag of granny's jewellery which was thought to be not worth much...except one of the pieces is worth around £7k. I only found out when it went in for repair so I could wear it. It's a very famous jewellery brand.

No one else knows. I don't know whether to spill the beans.

My aunts would probably sell it and take the money. I wear the item and will hand it on to my daughter.

Sometimes I feel guilty, sometimes I don't.

Don’t say a word, & don’t feel guilty. I bet your grandma would be pleased that you have the piece to enjoy and hand down to your daughter.
AdriannaP · 22/01/2022 02:21

I know that an elderly relatives abused his sisters when they were children and he was a teenager. I really wish I didn’t know and always wonder if he abused his daughters too. His daughters were already grownups and married when I found out, so it’s not like I could have even done anything.
I so wish I didn’t know.

Pangolin44 · 22/01/2022 02:41

There was a period of my life where family members decided to unload their terrible secrets to me.

I absolutely refused to be the 'keeper of the secrets' so told everyone anything anyone told me.

It's very freeing.

If someone offloads to you, it's not a secret. Don't be someone's shit-litter tray.

You are absolutely not the repository of anyone else's issues.

1forAll74 · 22/01/2022 03:06

I have lived in quite a few areas in my life, and in each place, usually villages, I have known several couples in each of the villages,where either the man or wife have had affairs. That's quite a lot of people all told, so cheating is quite rife everywhere you go. But I wouldn't confront anyone about the cheating ways, as it's not my business, even if knew some people quite well.

Zoflorabore · 22/01/2022 03:34

My ex mil, my son’s dgm is a swinger and I have unfortunately seen far too many of the pictures ( online and available for all to see ) to try and erase the visions out of my head Grin

Also, I know that 2 of my neighbours have slept with another neighbour’s husband.

Daisychainsandglitter · 22/01/2022 06:18

That my dad is having an affair with his ex wife.
My stepmum is distraught and keeps ringing me but won't confront him and won't let me say anything. I wish I didn't know. Confused

JustJustWhy · 22/01/2022 07:03

@KloppsTeeth

My exMIL, who I have talked about on here before, is like an evil twin of Elton John. I know from her ex husband that she had a baby when she was in her early 20s and put him up for adoption. Her son, my ex, does not know this. She doesn’t know I know.
How does being an "evil twin of Elton John" manifest itself exactly? 😂