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Original poster

I hope this is OK to post. Was this your husband yesterday ?

186 replies

Anordinarymum · 07/01/2022 19:23

I took my dog for a walk in Goldenacre Park yesterday late afternoon. The weather was not good, sleet and snow and cold.
There was nobody else in the park. We walked round the lake and up by the cafe and back round again.
As we approached the lake there was lots of bird noise. I saw a man with a toddler in an all in one suit and a young German Shepherd dog wearing some sort of harness running free
The man was openly encouraging the dog to run at the Swans. It chased the ducks and kept running to the edge of the lake.
The birds were going crazy.
I watched the guy and then I shouted across to him 'Don't let your dog do that mate'
He replied ' I am fully capable of looking after my own dog'
I said 'clearly not'
He did it again telling the dog to 'go on'
I shouted 'put your dog on the lead, this is how the wildlife gets killed'
He shouted back 'Fuck off Cunt' 'Go on fuck off you bitch'
There was nobody else there.
I had no choice but to walk away in case it escalated

Was this your husband with your little tot there in the afternoon?

I was no match for an aggressive man and I had to leave and go home. He was well built and wearing a woolly hat. The dog looked about 18 months maybe a little older. hard to say from a distance but it was quite large and running wild.

To say I was upset is an understatement. To say I felt impotent is another. I felt threatened so had to leave the bird life to this moron and his dog. There were signs everywhere about avian 'flu. How horrible to set your dog on sick animals like that.

OP posts:
Imissmoominmama · 07/01/2022 19:26

Are there any cameras there?

NewMessageFrom · 07/01/2022 19:26

Why do you think he had a wife? More likely to be an ex

Are you expecting her to deal with him?

ArblemarzipanTFruitcake · 07/01/2022 19:28

Not my husband, I'm glad to say - no children, no dog and no idea where Goldenacre Park is.

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Santaisstilleatingmincepies · 07/01/2022 19:29

Surely you should have rang the police? Sounds a nutter!!

Yummayumma · 07/01/2022 19:29

What an odd thread.

justbegoodforme · 07/01/2022 19:30

Didn't you report him?
Photograph him even?
Odd thread this!

TooMuchToblerone · 07/01/2022 19:31

Photograph and report would be the right thing.

BoodleBug51 · 07/01/2022 19:31

Did you get him on camera OP?

I'd report him online to your local Police force, that's horrific. Fancy encouraging a dog to kill wildlife.

What a prize specimen he sounds Hmm

TheHoptimist · 07/01/2022 19:32

@ArblemarzipanTFruitcake

Not my husband, I'm glad to say - no children, no dog and no idea where Goldenacre Park is.
North Leeds
Original poster
Anordinarymum · 07/01/2022 19:33

There are no cameras in the park at all. There are lots of incidents like this down by the lake where people think it is fine to encourage their dogs to chase birds and go in the water.
There have been instances of Swans being ripped apart by dogs here. I just wish people would stop and think instead of being cruel and rude to passers by who voice an objection
I'm not expecting anyone to do a thing, but someone knows him don't they!

OP posts:
RosieGuacamosie · 07/01/2022 19:33

Why are you assuming this is someone’s husband? What are you expecting the wife (if she exists) to do about it? Why are you involving a woman in a man’s appalling behaviour?

DotheConga · 07/01/2022 19:33

Very odd to post this. As if anyone is going to say "yes, that's my husband"

ArblemarzipanTFruitcake · 07/01/2022 19:33

North Leeds

Oh, not very far from me then!

Stiffcondomhat · 07/01/2022 19:34

Facebook is that way ------>

DietrichandDiMaggio · 07/01/2022 19:34

@Yummayumma

What an odd thread.
Yes. Fair enough to start a thread about the awful man the OP encountered, but weird to title it 'Was this your husband yesterday?'.
CeleriacOfTheNight · 07/01/2022 19:34

I think you're allowed to post about encountering a dick without dressing it up as a 'is this your husband' question.

Well done for challenging him, sounds like a twat.

scully29 · 07/01/2022 19:36

The birds wont have had avian flu or theyd have been culled dont worry about that. Yes its horrid to chase birds and swear at people. He sounds horrid.

Original poster
Anordinarymum · 07/01/2022 19:36

After the aggressive way he spoke to me and realising there was nobody else there I left before I had the chance to think clearly.
I wish they would install a camera by the lake so this sort of abuse could be recorded.
Phoning up is a waste of time. Nobody wants to know. Nine times out of ten the number goes unanswered.
Shaming these louts would be the best deterrent IMHO

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EmpressCixi · 07/01/2022 19:36

Not my husband either.

But the dog didn’t actually try and catch or harm a bird. It was just running around to the edge of the lake. Perhaps barking a bit.

As there was a lake, the birds were perfectly safe on the water. Their reaction was instinctual and would have happened whether the dog was running about or not. Swans/ducks are going to give warning calls and take to the water the second they see a dog no matter how calm or run about it is. You wouldn’t want them calm around a dog anyway because that means they would be too stupid to avoid a fox.

You were the aggressor in the situation by shouting at him first and ordering him about and telling him to stop his dog running about and to put his dog on a lead. You assumed that his dog would “kill wildlife” but his dog did not, so I have to agree he is actually capable of managing his dog. Many working dogs are trained to herd and chase but not harm. I think you over-reacted and felt impotent because he refused to immediately obey your aggressive demands.

Original poster
Anordinarymum · 07/01/2022 19:37

@CeleriacOfTheNight

I think you're allowed to post about encountering a dick without dressing it up as a 'is this your husband' question.

Well done for challenging him, sounds like a twat.

But why not ? It could start a trend !
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titchy · 07/01/2022 19:37

And if it was someone's husband then what? You want a MNer to take responsibility for the arsehole behaviour of her dh? Hmm

DamnShesaSexyChick · 07/01/2022 19:37

Yeah it was him, I’ll have a word.

Original poster
Anordinarymum · 07/01/2022 19:38

@EmpressCixi

Not my husband either.

But the dog didn’t actually try and catch or harm a bird. It was just running around to the edge of the lake. Perhaps barking a bit.

As there was a lake, the birds were perfectly safe on the water. Their reaction was instinctual and would have happened whether the dog was running about or not. Swans/ducks are going to give warning calls and take to the water the second they see a dog no matter how calm or run about it is. You wouldn’t want them calm around a dog anyway because that means they would be too stupid to avoid a fox.

You were the aggressor in the situation by shouting at him first and ordering him about and telling him to stop his dog running about and to put his dog on a lead. You assumed that his dog would “kill wildlife” but his dog did not, so I have to agree he is actually capable of managing his dog. Many working dogs are trained to herd and chase but not harm. I think you over-reacted and felt impotent because he refused to immediately obey your aggressive demands.

Fair comment but the dog was not just having fun, I can assure you as I watched before I challenged him.
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Footnote · 07/01/2022 19:38

This is the kind of drama local FB groups live for. Don’t deprive them of it by posting bere.

Summerofcontent · 07/01/2022 19:40

@Stiffcondomhat

Facebook is that way ------>
I was thinking the OP has mistaken Mumsnet for Facebook 😂