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I hope this is OK to post. Was this your husband yesterday ?

186 replies

Anordinarymum · 07/01/2022 19:23

I took my dog for a walk in Goldenacre Park yesterday late afternoon. The weather was not good, sleet and snow and cold.
There was nobody else in the park. We walked round the lake and up by the cafe and back round again.
As we approached the lake there was lots of bird noise. I saw a man with a toddler in an all in one suit and a young German Shepherd dog wearing some sort of harness running free
The man was openly encouraging the dog to run at the Swans. It chased the ducks and kept running to the edge of the lake.
The birds were going crazy.
I watched the guy and then I shouted across to him 'Don't let your dog do that mate'
He replied ' I am fully capable of looking after my own dog'
I said 'clearly not'
He did it again telling the dog to 'go on'
I shouted 'put your dog on the lead, this is how the wildlife gets killed'
He shouted back 'Fuck off Cunt' 'Go on fuck off you bitch'
There was nobody else there.
I had no choice but to walk away in case it escalated

Was this your husband with your little tot there in the afternoon?

I was no match for an aggressive man and I had to leave and go home. He was well built and wearing a woolly hat. The dog looked about 18 months maybe a little older. hard to say from a distance but it was quite large and running wild.

To say I was upset is an understatement. To say I felt impotent is another. I felt threatened so had to leave the bird life to this moron and his dog. There were signs everywhere about avian 'flu. How horrible to set your dog on sick animals like that.

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unwicked · 07/01/2022 20:44

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whynotwhatknot · 07/01/2022 20:44

I would say best thin g to do is report him noones going to admit to knowing him

PinkButtercups · 07/01/2022 20:45

@unwicked

lol shouldn't this be on facebook. Why would anyone hear know him?
Lol, it's here not hear.

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Tobleroney · 07/01/2022 20:45

Odd way of framing it, like someone is going to claim their man! But thank you for standing up to wildlife, it sounds really despicable

ofwarren · 07/01/2022 20:45

@EmpressCixi

Ridiculous. He was not “threatening” at all.

OP started the shouting match in front of his child and then kept on harassing him after he’d said he was capable of managing his dog, so of course OP is going to get a “fuck off” from him.

Most people don’t react well to being shouted at in front of their children.

I think you have found the wife 🤣
Shehasadiamondinthesky · 07/01/2022 20:45

Quite honestly I never confront potentially violent men. Id have rung the local pice and reported that poor child having a nasty person like that for a father.

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 07/01/2022 20:46

Police even.

Toomanyradishes · 07/01/2022 20:48

Women are not responsible for mens aggression. Ffs you'll be asking if his mums on here next

BleuJay · 07/01/2022 20:49

OMG this is actually true!

Leeds police have released a photo of the incident that was captured by an undercover cop taking a leak in nearby bushes.

‘We are looking for a well built man wearing a woolly hat and his dog.......’

I hope this is OK to post. Was this your husband yesterday ?
br1anmay · 07/01/2022 20:49

Of course he was threatening. Telling her to F-off and calling her a C is completely unacceptable behaviour. I highly doubt he'd have responded to the request similarly to a man bigger than him.

rocky1914 · 07/01/2022 20:50

@ofwarren I think you have found the wife 🤣

Hilarious. You've made my night. Lol thank you 😆😆

Skiptheheartsandflowers · 07/01/2022 20:52

Bloody hell, people are snippy tonight.

I didn't see it as OP holding the man's wife (if there is one) responsible for his actions at all. I imagine she thought, reasonably in my view, that he wouldn't be that likely to be reading Mumsnet, whereas his wife or partner might and might appreciate a heads up that while he was taking their kid to the park yesterday, he was also behaving like a dick.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 07/01/2022 20:53

Report to the police, not Mumsnet!

Hoppinggreen · 07/01/2022 20:56

While I agree with the sentiment it’s a bloody stupid way of posting about it

Cuck00soup · 07/01/2022 20:59

Man is an aggressive bully & a complete dick. And a shit dad if he thinks that was safe for his toddler. Swans are bloody aggressive.

Nowt to do with his imaginary wife though,

Why2why · 07/01/2022 21:01

@EmpressCixi

Not my husband either.

But the dog didn’t actually try and catch or harm a bird. It was just running around to the edge of the lake. Perhaps barking a bit.

As there was a lake, the birds were perfectly safe on the water. Their reaction was instinctual and would have happened whether the dog was running about or not. Swans/ducks are going to give warning calls and take to the water the second they see a dog no matter how calm or run about it is. You wouldn’t want them calm around a dog anyway because that means they would be too stupid to avoid a fox.

You were the aggressor in the situation by shouting at him first and ordering him about and telling him to stop his dog running about and to put his dog on a lead. You assumed that his dog would “kill wildlife” but his dog did not, so I have to agree he is actually capable of managing his dog. Many working dogs are trained to herd and chase but not harm. I think you over-reacted and felt impotent because he refused to immediately obey your aggressive demands.

Agree and the “damsel in distress” poor intimidated little me complaining is just a way to detract from the fact that the OP is the aggressive one.

You created a big drama out of your idea of how this man should behave. He did not give into your hysterical behaviour and that leads you to imply that he might have attacked you. Then you’re asking women on here, whether the man who did not obey you is their husband?

You made so many assumptions about this man and his dog with no evidence other than what you think they might do or cause.

Eightmagpies · 07/01/2022 21:01

Ignore the goady posts, OP. I actually think this thread highlights some of the worst of Mumsnet and not because of the title, but because it's clear the OP is distressed and has posted for support. She hasn't asked the wife of the twat to sort him out, she's simply written a clickbait title on the assumption that most people on this site are women. I expect in hindsight she wishes she had titled it differently as that seems to be the focus. The poor lady is now subject to snobbery and bitchiness about Facebook drama and gaslighting her intentions. I would've asked him to put the dog on a lead too, Op, well done for saying something to him even though you were frightened.

br1anmay · 07/01/2022 21:04

@QuillBill

This is an international parenting forum. Not 'spotted Greenacre'. Phone 101 or whatever it is if you felt threatened.
Yes, it's a parenting forum. However, many people enjoy reading parking threads, complete with diagrams, etc. The OP posted this in the chat section - I don't see the problem with that.
Wolfcub · 07/01/2022 21:05

If you totally ignore the fact this is an appalling thing for him to do it's a Pretty stupid thing for him to do at golden acre at the moment as there is bird flu in the park and dogs are strongly advised to stay away from the birds

Bluebluemoon · 07/01/2022 21:05

Not my husband either.

But the dog didn’t actually try and catch or harm a bird. It was just running around to the edge of the lake. Perhaps barking a bit.

As there was a lake, the birds were perfectly safe on the water. Their reaction was instinctual and would have happened whether the dog was running about or not. Swans/ducks are going to give warning calls and take to the water the second they see a dog no matter how calm or run about it is. You wouldn’t want them calm around a dog anyway because that means they would be too stupid to avoid a fox.

You were the aggressor in the situation by shouting at him first and ordering him about and telling him to stop his dog running about and to put his dog on a lead. You assumed that his dog would “kill wildlife” but his dog did not, so I have to agree he is actually capable of managing his dog. Many working dogs are trained to herd and chase but not harm. I think you over-reacted and felt impotent because he refused to immediately obey your aggressive demands

I find posts like this bizarre. Why are you making excuses for this disgusting excuse for a man?
What "man" who was a half decent human being would ever speak to a woman like that? A lone woman? And when he is with his child.

I sincerely hope for her sake that this man doesn't have a wife coz you can bet your arse he speaks to her like that all the time, probably gives her a slap if she questions him too.

I get why you posted here OP. If someone recognised that as their husband or a family member you're thinking they might have a word? Unfortunately men like this rarely get anyone standing up to them as they throw their weight around and of course there's always the chance he'll set his dog on you.
I'd bet anything he wouldn't have spoken to a man similar in age and stature to him like that though - and I bet he's never without his dog for protection or to use as a threat either.

Bluntness100 · 07/01/2022 21:07

Op this is a very unusual and quite frankly odd way to write this. You can’t possibly think someone’s going to say yes that’s my husband, and even if they did, you’d firstly not know if it was true or not and secondly it’s an anonymous forum. You haven’t even said where in the world you are, never mind in the uk. And no one understands why you think the man was married. You do know people who aren’t married or even in relationships have babies right?

You’ve written it like you live in an episode of crime stoppers too. It’s hugely detracting from the issue you are raising because it’s so odd.

slashlover · 07/01/2022 21:07

I highly doubt he'd have responded to the request similarly to a man bigger than him.

Yes, men are never aggressive/violent to other men. Why do people on here keep saying things like this?

Yes, it's a parenting forum. However, many people enjoy reading parking threads, complete with diagrams, etc. The OP posted this in the chat section - I don't see the problem with that.

Weird, I've never seen a Is this your car blocking my drive? thread.

WonderfulYou · 07/01/2022 21:10

And if it was someone's husband then what? You want a MNer to take responsibility for the arsehole behaviour of her dh?

If it was my partner I would absolutely want to know and never let him around me, my child or my dog ever again!

HandWash · 07/01/2022 21:11

I hope you're ok OP.

It's obvious why OP posted on here rather than Facebook...it's anonymous. The husband remark because this forum is mostly women. When I've come across men like this I always wonder what would their Mum/Wife/ Sister/colleagues think.

I don't know why people are being so nasty OP. You've clearly had a horrible experience and it's completely unnecessary.

br1anmay · 07/01/2022 21:12

@slashlover

I highly doubt he'd have responded to the request similarly to a man bigger than him.

Yes, men are never aggressive/violent to other men. Why do people on here keep saying things like this?

Yes, it's a parenting forum. However, many people enjoy reading parking threads, complete with diagrams, etc. The OP posted this in the chat section - I don't see the problem with that.

Weird, I've never seen a Is this your car blocking my drive? thread.

I've seen parking threads with pictures of the cars included. I think you understood what I was getting at here...

I don't recall saying that men are never aggressive or violent to other men. To clarify, I meant that the man may have thought twice about responding in such a manner if the man who asked him to refrain from what he was doing was bigger and perhaps more likely to react in a different way than the OP did.