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I hope this is OK to post. Was this your husband yesterday ?

186 replies

Anordinarymum · 07/01/2022 19:23

I took my dog for a walk in Goldenacre Park yesterday late afternoon. The weather was not good, sleet and snow and cold.
There was nobody else in the park. We walked round the lake and up by the cafe and back round again.
As we approached the lake there was lots of bird noise. I saw a man with a toddler in an all in one suit and a young German Shepherd dog wearing some sort of harness running free
The man was openly encouraging the dog to run at the Swans. It chased the ducks and kept running to the edge of the lake.
The birds were going crazy.
I watched the guy and then I shouted across to him 'Don't let your dog do that mate'
He replied ' I am fully capable of looking after my own dog'
I said 'clearly not'
He did it again telling the dog to 'go on'
I shouted 'put your dog on the lead, this is how the wildlife gets killed'
He shouted back 'Fuck off Cunt' 'Go on fuck off you bitch'
There was nobody else there.
I had no choice but to walk away in case it escalated

Was this your husband with your little tot there in the afternoon?

I was no match for an aggressive man and I had to leave and go home. He was well built and wearing a woolly hat. The dog looked about 18 months maybe a little older. hard to say from a distance but it was quite large and running wild.

To say I was upset is an understatement. To say I felt impotent is another. I felt threatened so had to leave the bird life to this moron and his dog. There were signs everywhere about avian 'flu. How horrible to set your dog on sick animals like that.

OP posts:
WhereIsMyGlasses · 07/01/2022 19:40

What a horrible experience for you, no excuse for his behaviour or language to you and in front of a child.

However, his wife, if he has one, is not responsible for his behaviour. Why are women always at the brunt end of a man's behaviour!?

CeleriacOfTheNight · 07/01/2022 19:40

But why not ? It could start a trend !

Tbf I think it falls in to the existing 'to the woman in the queue at Stevenage M&S today' trend

EmpressCixi · 07/01/2022 19:40

@BoodleBug51

Did you get him on camera OP?

I'd report him online to your local Police force, that's horrific. Fancy encouraging a dog to kill wildlife.

What a prize specimen he sounds Hmm

There is no proof this was his or the dogs intent. “Running at” and “chasing” are the exact same things that sheep dogs do to sheep with zero intent to harm.

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about this subject:

Dogs
Original poster
Anordinarymum · 07/01/2022 19:40

@titchy

And if it was someone's husband then what? You want a MNer to take responsibility for the arsehole behaviour of her dh? Hmm
I think what I posted like that for was every time someone has an incident like this the aggressor gets away with it. I can see I have wasted my time here.
OP posts:
Dinosauria · 07/01/2022 19:41

Whilst I understand and support what op wants to achieve (the protection of animals) this just deepens my despair from today. The behaviour of men is not the wives, sisters or mothers fault, nor their problem. The problem lies with the man.

QuillBill · 07/01/2022 19:41

This is an international parenting forum. Not 'spotted Greenacre'. Phone 101 or whatever it is if you felt threatened.

GingerScallop · 07/01/2022 19:41

You could have just reported him. May be he has a wife or husband or none of these. But your post has that deadly sin of misogyny. Sin no 7: Making women responsible for the sins of men.
Am off to dadsnet: there is this woman who has posted xxx on Mumsnet. Is this your wife?;

femfemlicious · 07/01/2022 19:41

I think we found his wife up thereSad

Bellyups · 07/01/2022 19:42

@Anordinarymum ignore the goading responses on here.

Sounds horrible for you(and the wildlife), and the man is clearly just a piece of shit.

FWI to anyone questioning the op’s title…it made you click and read didn’t it Wink

ArtfulTodger · 07/01/2022 19:43

Both the dog and man sound like twats. I agree this is more a facebook thread if you want to corner him Grin.

Backstreetsbackalrightdadada · 07/01/2022 19:43

Just to say even sheepdogs kill sheep - even if you think they’re well bred, even if you think you’ve trained them. And those sheep don’t know that dog. No breed of dog is anyway allowed to bother wildlife - report him. And he was threatening to you! I hate this sort of thing Sad

WorraLiberty · 07/01/2022 19:46

@RosieGuacamosie

Why are you assuming this is someone’s husband? What are you expecting the wife (if she exists) to do about it? Why are you involving a woman in a man’s appalling behaviour?
This ^^ It's very odd.
Ohisitreally · 07/01/2022 19:46

[quote Bellyups]@Anordinarymum ignore the goading responses on here.

Sounds horrible for you(and the wildlife), and the man is clearly just a piece of shit.

FWI to anyone questioning the op’s title…it made you click and read didn’t it Wink[/quote]
Agree with this I think it was really brave of you to challenge this vile guy!Not sure why people are being so sarcastic and antagonistic..obviously not so bothered about wildlife and your thread title definitely got people reading your post!

BleuJay · 07/01/2022 19:47

I do hope the man’s wife reads this and then makes him sit on the naughty step for half an hour.

user1469544430 · 07/01/2022 19:47

He was wearing a woolly hat! Shock

BleuJay · 07/01/2022 19:48

Maybe his wife doesn’t like swans.

Maelstrom23 · 07/01/2022 19:52

Hope you're ok OP, not nice to be spoken to like that; god knows what the toddler is exposed to at home.

EmpressCixi · 07/01/2022 19:54

Ridiculous. He was not “threatening” at all.

OP started the shouting match in front of his child and then kept on harassing him after he’d said he was capable of managing his dog, so of course OP is going to get a “fuck off” from him.

Most people don’t react well to being shouted at in front of their children.

tootyfruitypickle · 07/01/2022 19:58

My ex was rude to some people at a school event and the next day one of the mums confronted me about it ! I made it clear nothing to do with me.

Even if he's married - nothing to do with his wife!

BleuJay · 07/01/2022 19:59

I once gave a woman a piece of my mind after she kicked an obviously injured pigeon.

Shall I make a virtue signalling thread about whether any of her relatives might recognise her?

No, I think not.

MrsXx4 · 07/01/2022 19:59

Why is this for the wife to sort out?!?!

SmallPrawnEnergy · 07/01/2022 20:01

@EmpressCixi

Ridiculous. He was not “threatening” at all.

OP started the shouting match in front of his child and then kept on harassing him after he’d said he was capable of managing his dog, so of course OP is going to get a “fuck off” from him.

Most people don’t react well to being shouted at in front of their children.

If you think an appropriate reaction to “shouting” please stop terrorising animals is to call someone a cunt and a bitch ^in front of their own children” then god fucking help us all, and your own poor children.
goawaystormy · 07/01/2022 20:04

You were the aggressor in the situation by shouting at him first and ordering him about and telling him to stop his dog running about and to put his dog on a lead. You assumed that his dog would “kill wildlife” but his dog did not, so I have to agree he is actually capable of managing his dog. Many working dogs are trained to herd and chase but not harm. I think you over-reacted and felt impotent because he refused to immediately obey your aggressive demands.

*Ridiculous. He was not “threatening” at all.

OP started the shouting match in front of his child and then kept on harassing him after he’d said he was capable of managing his dog, so of course OP is going to get a “fuck off” from him.

Most people don’t react well to being shouted at in front of their children.*

These two posts above are correct.

You were the one who engaged with him in the first place - aggressively by shouting at him

He politely told you he could manage his own dog (a polite way of saying mind your own business) which you sarcastically replied to

You then engaged him again (unprompted) ordering him about

Him, knowing you hadn't responded to him being polite, told you to fuck off - justified if someones yelling at you/ordering you around

You started it, you escalated it, this is on you.
Some people can't take a polite hint to leave others alone (you OP) so you have to resort to telling them to sling their hook much less politely in order for them to actually do so. I have no doubt that had he continued to respond to you politely you would've kept yelling at him. You antagonise people, you can't be shocked when they bite back.

GreenFridays · 07/01/2022 20:04

Oh yes, he’s my husband, with good old Freddie the dog. He’s scared of birds so we’re trying to help him overcome his phobia. Will give my husband a slap on the wrist for not explaining that.

Hope that helps.

slashlover · 07/01/2022 20:04

You could at least have posted the area in the title as 99.99% of MN will not live anywhere near there.