I hope this is OK to post. Was this your husband yesterday ?

[Anordinarymum]

I took my dog for a walk in Goldenacre Park yesterday late afternoon. The weather was not good, sleet and snow and cold.
There was nobody else in the park. We walked round the lake and up by the cafe and back round again.
As we approached the lake there was lots of bird noise. I saw a man with a toddler in an all in one suit and a young German Shepherd dog wearing some sort of harness running free
The man was openly encouraging the dog to run at the Swans. It chased the ducks and kept running to the edge of the lake.
The birds were going crazy.
I watched the guy and then I shouted across to him 'Don't let your dog do that mate'
He replied ' I am fully capable of looking after my own dog'
I said 'clearly not'
He did it again telling the dog to 'go on'
I shouted 'put your dog on the lead, this is how the wildlife gets killed'
He shouted back 'Fuck off Cunt' 'Go on fuck off you bitch'
There was nobody else there.
I had no choice but to walk away in case it escalated

Was this your husband with your little tot there in the afternoon?

I was no match for an aggressive man and I had to leave and go home. He was well built and wearing a woolly hat. The dog looked about 18 months maybe a little older. hard to say from a distance but it was quite large and running wild.

To say I was upset is an understatement. To say I felt impotent is another. I felt threatened so had to leave the bird life to this moron and his dog. There were signs everywhere about avian 'flu. How horrible to set your dog on sick animals like that.

The acceptance and excuses of this bloke's behaviour is disgraceful. And the person who called OP 'a Karen': misogyny in woke clothing

Very depressing to read all the behaviour excusers. If you think his behaviour and his reaction is ok, you deserve a man like that!

@NeverDropYourMooncup

There is no proof this was his or the dogs intent. “Running at” and “chasing” are the exact same things that sheep dogs do to sheep with zero intent to harm

And it is also what non-sheepdogs do to sheep and cause abortions, still births, suffocation from falling onto their backs and if they are fast enough results in the sheep having their faces and throats ripped apart, ending in dogs finding themselves perfectly legally at the business end of a 12 bore.

Absolutely correct.

@Anordinarymum

There are no cameras in the park at all. There are lots of incidents like this down by the lake where people think it is fine to encourage their dogs to chase birds and go in the water. There have been instances of Swans being ripped apart by dogs here. I just wish people would stop and think instead of being cruel and rude to passers by who voice an objection I'm not expecting anyone to do a thing, but someone knows him don't they!

Why not ring the police or RSPCA instead of expecting his wife to deal with it.

@EllaVaNight

Jijithecat I don't really understand what point you're trying to make. I've been in a very abusive relationship and nearly died at the hands of a man which has made me extra cautious (I realise you probably think that's pathetic but I don't really care). I'd shout across to someone if they were in danger or something. But I wouldn't shout at/across someone calling them mate then giving a snippy response because I'm well aware of how violent men can be. I wouldn't want the op or anyone else to put themselves in danger and would much prefer them to contact the appropriate authority.

@EllaVaNight with respect I think you're projecting, which is perhaps understandable given your history and no I don't think that's pathetic and I'm actually really hacked off that you think I would think that way. However, much like I know nothing of your life experience, you also know nothing of mine, nor the violence I have experienced from men, nor do you know about the OP's previous experience of violence. I abhor bullies. OP was trying to protect the wildlife. Several posters have pointed out that dogs should be on a lead in many areas of that park and IIRC OP was there walking their own dog so is likely to recognise how a dog is reacting and the areas that they should be on a lead. Your comments come across as though you are excusing this bullying man's behaviour.

Op, I think you're getting a hard time here. I can see why you posted - and why you were upset.

This guy sounds like a right tosser, aggressive and nasty.

If he has a partner, he's probably just the same with them, or even worse. The best thing would have been to film him or take photos with your Mobile, then report to police.

And for posters who said that dogs chase but don't catch birds, don't be stupid. Of course some catch some birds. Swans in our local park have been attacked and killed by dogs. Birds can also die of stress. It's a fucking horrible thing to do. That 'man' should be ashamed.

@Lou98 - I don't know what reaction you were expecting by shouting "don't let your dog do that" - you could politely explained about the swans being killed etc without phrasing it as telling him what to do

Are you being serious?? So now we have to be polite to tossers who are encouraging their dogs to harm wildlife?

I've heard it all now.

You should be ashamed of yourself and of excusing this man's behaviour.

@thetinsoldier I didn't excuse his behaviour with his dog - I've clearly stated I think his dog should have been on a lead.

I'm also aware that shouting over to someone saying "don't do this" is a great way to get someone riled up. Then after he already responded and clearly wasn't listening to the OP she decided to shout over again - it was clear he was going to keep doing what he wanted so why keep shouting over after he'd ignored her? As I said, shouldn't have swore but OP shouldn't have kept on at him after he'd already tried responding and also ignoring

Jijithecat I haven't excused his behaviour at all. Not sure why you would make that up when you can see I've clearly stated he absolutely shouldn't have done what he did.

EllaVaNight I can see what you stated and whilst you don't condone the man's behaviour you also use terms such 'as giving a snippy response'. You make it sound as though the OP brought this man's reaction upon themselves.
You wouldn't have done the same thing had you been in the OPs position and that's fine but it doesn't make what the OP did wrong.
Incidentally in a previous post you mention taking a discreet photo of the person. I've seen people react badly when they realise that someone is taking a photo of them, so it's not necessarily the safer option and relies upon someone being able/willing to identify the person in the image.

Some women are always scared even when they are the aggressor.

Remember that Central Park incident? Man ask woman to put her dog on a leash because of its potential impact on the wildlife. Woman calls police saying she is scared for her life. Many said the man was in the wrong.

Woman repeatedly shouts at man to put his dog on a leash. Woman is scared for her life. Woman is right and man is in the wrong.

Some women can do no wrong. Everyone else is bad and threatening to them. Oh the privilege!!