What jobs would put you off a new partner ?

[Raonbowwatermelon]

Lighthearted and not meant to offend.

My friend's neighbour has recently asked her out. He's lovely.

But....he works as a funeral director and my friend says she finds this so , so off putting.

This kind of reminded me of an ex boyfriend who dumped me when I went for an interview as aa trainee dental nurse, ( he had a complete phobia of the dentist). I didn't get the job anyway...

But it got me thinking , are there any jobs that would be a hard no from you from prospective partners:

Think I would struggle with Tory MP, Boarder force or bailiff tbh.

Humour me, self isolating and bored, ( and also want to persuade my friend that her neighbors job really isn't that bad...)

Organised Crime member.
Otherwise, I don't know. Someone mentioned abbatoir?
I think it's not the job but how people do it. I once met a guy on a date who had some job he absolutely hated, and wanted to become a painter just like that, he never did painting before or had no clue what to start, and I just though, thanks, but no thanks. That I find offputting, the sort of "I can't make up my mind about what I want to do so I'll just fuck around instead".

Feel like I’m jumping on the bandwagon, but as a vegetarian I couldn’t be with a butcher, abattoir worker, chicken factory worker or any other meat process type worker. My DH once went for a retail interview where they said that if he was successful he’d be trained as an apprentice butcher. He isn’t veggie and fancied the idea of a new skill, but I was very glad the job wasn’t offered to him because I’d have felt very strongly about it and asked him not to take it anyway.

Also Forces, or any other jobs that take someone away from home so often. I don’t care about the military aspect or believe that it only attracts aggressive people, but I wouldn’t want a part time partner who spends months at a time abroad. The ex-forces people I know tend to find jobs that keep them away from home even when they leave too.

I would be put off by, but not totally rule out, people with shift patterns that don’t fit in with mine. I work shifts and my husband doesn’t. If we both worked shifts, or if he had hours that were so different that we couldn’t spend much time together, I don’t think it would have worked so well when we were dating.

Professional athlete

I'm a vegetarian I think anything like butcher, abattoir worker, I once let something with potential fizzle out when I found out he tested products on animals

A farmer. They work a crazy amount of hours.

I wouldn't like them to have a job that was dangerous as it would worry me, otherwise I wouldn't care.

I think i'd find other reasons as to why someone was unsuitable rather than their job but that might mean i limit a group of people whose personalities are inclined to some jobs, so it wouldn't be the job per se if that makes sense?

As in, someone mentioned an influencer and i'd be unlikely to consider them as they might be a showy, or generally a lively & outgoing person and i prefer someone quieter. Nothing necessarily wrong with them or the job but really not for me.

Anything with animal cruelty eg
Abattoir worker
Livestock farmer
Butcher
Jockey
Greyhound racer (?)

Also anything that involves them working away a lot eg
Military
Oil rig
Diplomatic service
Management consultant

I told my adult DS that if he ever got involved with drug dealing I'd throw him out and go NC .

Oddly as a long term vegetarian the thought of an abbatoir worker doesn't horrify me , but I guess they wouldn't get to the actual dating stage with me once they knew ?

Police.

A lot of honest and reputable public service jobs on here.

Those who are prepared to do public service are far likely to be better people all round.

And at the end of the day an honest living shouldn't be sniffed at.

The person I'd turn down would be a business owner who didn't pay or treat employees well. Or anyone working in the 'glamour' industry.

Abattoir worker

@The6thSanta

Being married to someone in a job with lots of traumatic incidences, I’d say I would avoid similar if I had to. i.e. police, fireman, paramedic, mental health nurse, a&e nurse, doctor, armed forces etc. might make me shallow, but PTSD is bloody hard to live with (from all angles).

Well my BIL and SIL are screwed then, he’s in the army and she’s an A&E nurse! They are actually more chilled and less stressed than me and I work in an office 😂

Police or army. So many women I've met who have been the victim of domestic violence their spouse was army/ ex army or police

Stockbroker

@WonderfulYou

Maybe not being able to take holidays in term time? It costs a fortune to go away in school holidays.

Oh yes that’s true.

But if you have children anyway, or want to?

Also MPs and anyone who doesn't pay their tax

Butcher or any jobs to that effect.
Police officer.
Any work around rubbish.
Fisherman.
Army job unless permanently based at home.
Bailiff.
Bar man.
Actor.
Dancer.
Prison officer.

I’m sure there are more..

I'd love a funeral director. Thought about becoming one but you have to be good with cars apparently. I'd also quite like a seafarer or similar as a partner who was away half the time would suit me quite well.

I would avoid anyone whose job implied different values to mine. No vicars etc. as I'm an atheist. No armed forces as I'm mostly pacifist. No UKIP staffers or similar although I might be able to tolerate a moderate Tory IF there was excellent sex reasons to.

No police as they have terrible reputations as partners. Domestic abuse rates higher than average as is adultery. Unable to rely on them getting off shift on time or getting leave cancelled.

No one whose career would mean I'd have to move all the time to be with them. Especially if moving abroad.

@Tinylittlecabbages

Police or army. So many women I've met who have been the victim of domestic violence their spouse was army/ ex army or police

Do you work in domestic violence?

It’s about the whole package. If someone is genuinely gorgeous then literally nothing will put me off except being a sex/porn worker. Whereas an average looking guy probably needs a good job to tip the scales in his direction.

Clergy,
police
military
MLM worker

Police.

I’ve never met a married male police officer who hasn’t had an affair.
(Disclaimer, I KNOW there must be some, but I’ve never met one).

i couldnt date an abbatoir worker , as a previous poster has already said also , any kind of sex work would also be a big huge no from me m any kind of work involving testing on animals , but those are the only three , im pretty easy going , funeral director even someone that worked in a mortuary , it wouldnt bother me at all

Why not a prison officer?

Abattoir worker, pest controller, butcher, livestock farmer. Basically anything that involves killing animals or anything peripheral to it.

Oh yes, vicar too or anything to do with religion - just because we really wouldn't get on.

Funeral director would be no problem.