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What jobs would put you off a new partner ?

446 replies

Raonbowwatermelon · 30/12/2021 13:35

Lighthearted and not meant to offend.

My friend's neighbour has recently asked her out. He's lovely.

But....he works as a funeral director and my friend says she finds this so , so off putting.

This kind of reminded me of an ex boyfriend who dumped me when I went for an interview as aa trainee dental nurse, ( he had a complete phobia of the dentist). I didn't get the job anyway...

But it got me thinking , are there any jobs that would be a hard no from you from prospective partners:

Think I would struggle with Tory MP, Boarder force or bailiff tbh.

Humour me, self isolating and bored, ( and also want to persuade my friend that her neighbors job really isn't that bad...)

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Aroundtheworldin80moves · 30/12/2021 16:41

As an Army wife... I can see why people would find it off putting. It is an unusual lifestyle, and I don't judge people who want a more consistent life.
I honestly don't know how Navy wives put up with it, especially Submariners wives!

BoxingDayFoodHangover · 30/12/2021 16:43

Im genuinely interested to know why wouldn’t people date a bailiff?

Bananalanacake · 30/12/2021 16:43

It's only the unemployed I avoid like the plague.

2389Champ · 30/12/2021 16:43

Gynaecologist.

I’ve often wondered if they every sit in bed and say to their wives, “I’ve had such a busy day. The last thing I want to see yet another woowoo”

And I’d be worried that he might be comparing mine too!

Tangled123 · 30/12/2021 16:43

I talked my husband out of joining the army. I didn't want to spend long periods of time alone being worried about his safety. Not to mention he was considering joining the British Army. He's Catholic in Northern Ireland so that wouldn't have gone down well in the community or with family either.

chelle0 · 30/12/2021 16:44

@Excitedforthefuture I just couldn't be with someone who defended murderers and rapists. Child molesters. I couldn't do it. I get they are part of the system but it's just not for me.

Everydaydayisaschoolday · 30/12/2021 16:44

All these people saying they wouldn’t date a butcher because they are vegetarian- my ex was a vegetarian butcher!

He trained as a butcher when he left school and then he was about 21 saw the famous channel 4 documentary about the meat industry and never ate meat again. He had to carry on with his job because the money was good and we had financial commitments but he was able to separate his personal views from what he did to earn a living.

This went on for about 3 years until he retrained as a graphic designer ( a much better use of his talents) and was finally able to walk away from the butchers shop.

TurkeyRoastvBubbleandSqueek · 30/12/2021 16:44

Any job that meant they wouldn't normally be home every evening, or anyone working in a job that invoves any sort of cruelty to animals, or anyone that works in a job that has to severely exploit other people for him to get a wage.

In answer to a pp, I would have (I am very old now, and married anyway 😉) dated and married a vet if we were compatible and in love. If they were the type of vet who would put an animal down when it was healthy and could still have a good life, we would not be compatible in the first place.

RedCandyApple · 30/12/2021 16:45

@Everydaydayisaschoolday

All these people saying they wouldn’t date a butcher because they are vegetarian- my ex was a vegetarian butcher!

He trained as a butcher when he left school and then he was about 21 saw the famous channel 4 documentary about the meat industry and never ate meat again. He had to carry on with his job because the money was good and we had financial commitments but he was able to separate his personal views from what he did to earn a living.

This went on for about 3 years until he retrained as a graphic designer ( a much better use of his talents) and was finally able to walk away from the butchers shop.

So? The thought of it makes me sick, I don’t even like passing one
chaosrabbitland · 30/12/2021 16:49

@BoxingDayFoodHangover

Im genuinely interested to know why wouldn’t people date a bailiff?
i think its because they see them as hulking great bruisers chucking families out onto the street or taking away their possesions because they have fallen into debt on rent or council tax , but i did sometimes watch that eviction show that was on and i mean yes they are being filmed so maybe they were on best behaviour , but they seemed to be nice and courteous . they arent monsters loving making distressed mothers and crying kids homeless , but i think thats the impression people have of them
MyDcAreMarvel · 30/12/2021 16:50

Bailiff , traffic warden , any type of military/police ( for safety) Tory MP.

Excitedforthefuture · 30/12/2021 16:51

[quote chelle0]@Excitedforthefuture I just couldn't be with someone who defended murderers and rapists. Child molesters. I couldn't do it. I get they are part of the system but it's just not for me. [/quote]
That’s a rather simplistic way of looking at it

Imagine a justice defence where there was no defence lawyers for accused murders or child molesters? That they were arrested and then imprisoned without trial or could only represent themselves

Is that a legal system that appeals to you?

Excitedforthefuture · 30/12/2021 16:52

Justice system I meant to say

Animood · 30/12/2021 16:56

@2389Champ

Gynaecologist.

I’ve often wondered if they every sit in bed and say to their wives, “I’ve had such a busy day. The last thing I want to see yet another woowoo”

And I’d be worried that he might be comparing mine too!

There are an almost unlimited number of vaginas on the internet.

Any man can compare yours to them, so I wouldn't be worried about that!

RedCandyApple · 30/12/2021 16:56

There’s plenty that people are saying they wouldn’t date that doesn’t bother me, people can decide to date who they want, I would happily date a lawyer, police officer, teacher etc

MrsDoraDumble · 30/12/2021 16:57

Footballer, bouncer, nightclub owner, bailiff, prison guard.

userisi2 · 30/12/2021 16:57

I talked my husband out of joining the army. I didn't want to spend long periods of time alone being worried about his safety.

Imagine if a bloke admitted to talking a woman out of joining a career, I believe words like controlling would be used. There's probably a lot of underlying resentment, something like the armed forces isn't usually something that can just be "talked out" of someone.

Alicetheowl · 30/12/2021 16:58

I'm surprised that a lot of the people who would not want to have a military partner have mentioned time away as a reason. Not that the concept of thinking killing people as an acceptable job is a bit scary and odd...

evilharpy · 30/12/2021 16:58

Anything related to the Conservative party, whether MP or someone who worked in the office of an MP or whatever. Ditto UKIP, BNP etc.

Similarly if I was back home, anything related in any way to the DUP.

Anything religious, we would just be too incompatible.

I'd be wary of military if it meant having to move frequently, I'd hate that.

I would find a funeral director very appealing. Nothing weird about it at all, and the ones I've known (admittedly family friends, or friends of friends) have all been truly lovely, compassionate people with a fab sense of humour. I think it must be a hard job but am grateful to the people who do it.

Dixiechickonhols · 30/12/2021 16:58

Bocingday I’m also confused by the no baliffs. Steady job, public sector so sick pay, decent pension etc.
uk.indeed.com/m/viewjob?jk=11f9aa04455be646&from=serp
Requires enhanced dbs too - so not people with criminal convictions.
I think it’s one where public perception doesn’t match reality.

Beancounter1 · 30/12/2021 16:59

Car mechanic. The grease and oil goes right into the skin on the hands - fingernails and hands are never properly clean.

I would add coal delivery person and coal miner for similar reasons but you don't get so many of them around these days.

Lots manual workers, e.g. gardeners have similar issues with hands, but car grease seems so much worse than e.g. ground-in earth.

EveningOverRooftops · 30/12/2021 17:00

@CorrBlimeyGG

Police officer, army, anything that comes with a high level of aggression.
These.

There’s a very high rate of domestic violence against spouses , alcoholism of spouses and divorce rates are high amongst military personnel.

It’s a complete no go for me. Did it once before and that sort of job fucks them right up. My ex fell apart the second he couldn’t control something through routine or threats/physical control.

RiverSkater · 30/12/2021 17:00

Trader in the city as the lifestyle is full of drinking and shagging eachother.

evilharpy · 30/12/2021 17:01

@Ezydoesit

Also, anyone involved In woo medicine (eg homeopath, osteopath etc)
Osteopaths are woo? I see one fairly regularly, he's all about anatomy and very no-nonsense. So many times I've gone in hunched over when my SI joint is playing up, been given a few adjustments and left able to stand up straight. I've found him much more able to give instant relief during a flare up than physios have in the past.

Is there a different type of osteopath to mine??

Simonjt · 30/12/2021 17:01

@Alicetheowl

I'm surprised that a lot of the people who would not want to have a military partner have mentioned time away as a reason. Not that the concept of thinking killing people as an acceptable job is a bit scary and odd...
Lots of military jobs aren’t combat at all, my cousin and her wife were both in the military, zero chance of seeing any combat at all in their jobs.