What jobs would put you off a new partner ?

[Raonbowwatermelon]

Lighthearted and not meant to offend.

My friend's neighbour has recently asked her out. He's lovely.

But....he works as a funeral director and my friend says she finds this so , so off putting.

This kind of reminded me of an ex boyfriend who dumped me when I went for an interview as aa trainee dental nurse, ( he had a complete phobia of the dentist). I didn't get the job anyway...

But it got me thinking , are there any jobs that would be a hard no from you from prospective partners:

Think I would struggle with Tory MP, Boarder force or bailiff tbh.

Humour me, self isolating and bored, ( and also want to persuade my friend that her neighbors job really isn't that bad...)

It's not the actual job itself that would put me off -it's the impact on family or relationship.

So, for me, that probably includes anything with a long shift pattern. I don't care if you're a junior doctor, work on an oil rig, are in the merchant navy or do nights in care home.

I don't fancy picking up the domestic responsibilities, tiptoeing round the house in the daytime, or being unable to arrange dates because of your shifts. I don't fancy being with someone who is away for long stretches of time, then under your feet constantly for a fortnight!

I know lots of funeral directos, funeral operatives and crematorium workers etc and on the whole they are lovely people and certainly do have a good sense of humour.
On thw downside they have to be on call, someone still has to carr for people who die on Christmas die...and their salaries particularly in the large companies are unfairly low for such important caring roles.
The single ones I know would be a good catch I think!

Definitely couldn't date a butcher/abattoir worker, fish monger, influencer, celebrity, night shift worker, arms dealer, police man, or anyone obsessed with money/status. Or anyone long term unemployed for that matter.
Good job I'm not on the dating scene

Spy.

I've seen what happens to all James Bond's women...

@MadMadMadamMim

It's not the actual job itself that would put me off -it's the impact on family or relationship.

So, for me, that probably includes anything with a long shift pattern. I don't care if you're a junior doctor, work on an oil rig, are in the merchant navy or do nights in care home.

I don't fancy picking up the domestic responsibilities, tiptoeing round the house in the daytime, or being unable to arrange dates because of your shifts. I don't fancy being with someone who is away for long stretches of time, then under your feet constantly for a fortnight!

Exactly this. But also I still stand by no job which involves hurting people or animals. Or people who are unemployed with no motivation to get another job.

@NiceTwin

None. A person's job does not define them.

A person's job does both define and determine a person's present and future, right or not. So trying to pretend a person's job is irrelevant to who they are is just ridiculous however noble.

Your job, and how good they are at it in some cases, determines how much you earn (which affects much of what you do). Your job often makes or breaks your mental health. It determines your hours of availability. Etc etc.

I wouldn't mind anything like funeral director, abattoir worker etc. but I wouldn't date military, police, banker (in the city, not an ordinary bank worker in a branch), sex worker, quite a lot of corporate jobs, personal trainer; I would also be a bit put off by one of the identikit office jobs where the job title doesn't tell you what the job actually is ... I'm pretty picky so it's a good thing I'm not looking to date! Jobs I would like in a partner (now I'm not looking to have anymore kids and wouldn't mind if they worked odd hours): doctor or nurse, charity/NGO worker, church employee, lawyer (not corporate), farmer (like my family: small scale and caring).

Armed forces and exploitative role in the sex industry. I think that is about it actually...

The only jobs I would care about are ones that show the person has no real values like pimp.

Armed services
Bailiff

DJ

Santa. Hanging around at home, under your feet, 364 days of the year, then nowhere to be found on the busiest one.

Armed forces, sex work or anything like the police where leave could be cancelled at a moments' notice and where they're guaranteed to have to work stupid hours over Christmas, New Year and other big holidays.

But he should be brilliant at looking after kids.

A man who works in a slaughterhouse.

Any one working in the meat industry.

Absolute 100% deal breaker

Traffic warden
Tax inspector
Any kind of manual labour

Famous actor/musician - loads of travelling and time away from each other.
Pilot - same as first point
Police Officer
Doctor/Psychiatrist

Someone who worked in a laboratory doing experiments on animals.

Anything involving animal killing/butchering/butcher. Nope nope nope

@RoyalFamilyFan

But he should be brilliant at looking after kids.

Disney dad tho - relies on bribery.

@PieMistee

People that work shift work especially nights. (DH did for 15 years it's shit for family life). Anyone who worked in the police or army. Someone involved in the sex industry. Randomly a yoga instructor. Though I love yoga.

I really would date my yoga instructor.

I am OO line dating dating

I disregard any non professional outright

I am professional, all my family and friends are. It’s what I know

Anyone involved in the fitness industry , I dated a guy who aspired to be a personal trainer years ago and I was never so bored. Special diets, getting up at 5am to train before work 🙄🙄 he enjoyed it but it wasn't for me and I couldn't imagine spending my whole life dealing with that level of commitment to exercise. Thankfully my dp is a lazy sod like me 🤣🤣

Glad to hear not everyone is against dating a Funeral Director, I’d hate to think that if I ever ended up single (if husband talks to me about his bloody Tesla one more time i may have to kill him) I’d be an outcast in the dating world