What jobs would put you off a new partner ?

[Raonbowwatermelon]

Lighthearted and not meant to offend.

My friend's neighbour has recently asked her out. He's lovely.

But....he works as a funeral director and my friend says she finds this so , so off putting.

This kind of reminded me of an ex boyfriend who dumped me when I went for an interview as aa trainee dental nurse, ( he had a complete phobia of the dentist). I didn't get the job anyway...

But it got me thinking , are there any jobs that would be a hard no from you from prospective partners:

Think I would struggle with Tory MP, Boarder force or bailiff tbh.

Humour me, self isolating and bored, ( and also want to persuade my friend that her neighbors job really isn't that bad...)

@Dixiechickonhols

Bocingday I’m also confused by the no baliffs. Steady job, public sector so sick pay, decent pension etc. uk.indeed.com/m/viewjob?jk=11f9aa04455be646&from=serp Requires enhanced dbs too - so not people with criminal convictions. I think it’s one where public perception doesn’t match reality.

It's to do with the morality. I don't want to go out with someone who is fine with going to a destitute person's house and taking their possessions. I don't care how good the pension is!

[quote chelle0]@Excitedforthefuture I just couldn't be with someone who defended murderers and rapists. Child molesters. I couldn't do it. I get they are part of the system but it's just not for me. [/quote]
I've often heard people say this, yet I've never met anyone who turned down legal representation when accused of a serious crime.

If it were your son/brother/partner accused of rape or murder, presumably you'd expect them just to plead guilty and not contest the charge?

@RiverSkater

Trader in the city as the lifestyle is full of drinking and shagging eachother.

Not for the last 10 years or so.

Sex worker
Cold call sales
Political activist (even for a cause I support)
Any job that involved significant amounts of time working away.

@MissLucyEyelesbarrow
yes that was my point too

It’s a very simplistic somewhat childish view

@Fatherliamdeliverance battery farming is illegal in the UK and has been for some time so you’ll be fine.

Aside from military (hard dating given I live right next to a massive fuck off military base, I need to move, working on it but it’s the next best thing to joining a nunnery tbf)

I couldn’t date a salesman. The door to door/cold call kind.
pharmaceuticals reps aka salesman would be off putting too especially given recent major controversies.

I think it’s the earning money at any cost aspect of those jobs that turn me off. So there are probably other jobs that make unscrupulous tactics to ear big easy I’d want no part of.

Now, jobs that would be brilliant. Carpenters or mechanics. Dunno why but the smell of wood shavings, engine oil and what not works for me

Any job that involved exploiting, killing and processing animals.

I don’t think a particular job would put me off, but where they are in their career. Ie. A forty year old on a minimum wage job, who has no ambition to improve themselves (unless their was a valid reason). I realise this sounds shallow.

Forces
Benifits as a career/no job

@Riverlee I don't think it's shallow, lack of ambition wouldn't work for me either, our personalities would just clash. He doesn't have to be rich in a high flying career, but I want him to be proud of what he does and have a plan, aspirations for the future etc.

Waxonwaxoff But they only execute a warrant after an extensive legal process. Would you not date court officials too?
They also enforce on side of ‘good’. Court orders a company to pay you £. They don’t so enforcement action taken to get them to pay up. If you are desperate for your wages, compensation etc and shitty employer isn’t paying a bailiff can be only way you’ll get what you are owed.

I'd be more likely to be put off if a job seemed to always be the number one thing in their life and/or if they were a workaholic, than any specific career.

Any 'job' that doesn't have a positive purpose or one that we could do without, such as SM influencer

@RoyalFamilyFan

Pimp Drug dealer Porn star Dolphin trainer Bailiff

Mmmm, that's pretty specific - since you've clearly read the CV, does that mean my interview next week is cancelled?

@Minorissue

Seafarer, military, anything that means oh is gone for months at a time and an unequal home life. Dangerous occupations like divers etc as well as I’m anxious enough without additional worry.

Presumably you don't know, but statistically diving is a comparatively safe sport/occupation. Particularly deep sea technical diving (a) because they are experts and know exactly what they're doing and (b) closed circuit breathing apparatus is very much safer than open circuit used by recreational divers. You won't get the bends on closed circuit but it takes a bloody long time to come back to the surface due to 1 hr+ safety stops.

Qualification: my DH has dived with some of the worlds top divers who do depths of over 100metres, to wrecks, World War II sites etc, and they're all absolutely fine!

So meet up with a diver, you've got nothing to worry about

@Alicetheowl

I'm surprised that a lot of the people who would not want to have a military partner have mentioned time away as a reason. Not that the concept of thinking killing people as an acceptable job is a bit scary and odd...

My DH has been in the forces for over 2 decades and hasn't ever killed anyone. It is generally a last resort, most of what they do now is stopping stuff happening before you get to the point of having to kill someone... it's not like being a hitman, they don't email you a list on a Monday morning

Funeral director. Gynaecologist.

Stripper.

Oh and obviously a pimp, drug dealer or anything shady.

Tory MP

I was going to say binman but according to this site they are all on £80k and PHD educated unsung heroes so had to reconsider.

Anything very smelly. Bins/sewerage/pig farm. I just couldn’t bear it.

Police officer - so much risk of abuse and assault, unsocial hours. Anyone involved in marketing tobacco products. But on the whole, as long as my partner enjoyed their work, there isn't much that would put me off.

@chelle0

Defence lawyer. How they can defend some of the most awful crimes and then get on with their lives is beyond me.

Apart from the fact that barristers can and do, do both - defend and prosecute, the whole point of having a trial is to examine the facts and see whether the used is guilty or not, according to the evidence. Even 'confessions' are no guarantee of guilt.

As Blackstone famously wrote, ' It is better that 10 guilty men go free , than an innocent man is convicted'.The presumption of innocence until PROVED guilty is the basis of our law system.

Otherwise we would be back in the days of Henry VIII or the Ancien Regime in France pre 1789 Revolution, where if the King didn't like you , you could be imprisoned / executed at his whim.