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Do you enjoy staying at peoples houses?

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Cleopatra2022 · 28/12/2021 13:08

Or having people to stay at yours?
Personally, I dislike both! If I have to stay at someone’s house I can’t stay more than 2 nights max. I very rarely invite anyone to stay at ours and if I do it’s for no longer than 3 nights.
MIL on the other hand will stay with us for a week at a time. It drives me crazy and always causes rows with DH and I. It’s just too long and feels very intrusive. Because of how long the visits are I end up making excuses for why she can’t come in order to put off her visit for as long as possible.
She doesn’t seem to have noticed that we are always putting her off with the flimsiest excuses. DH won’t talk to her straight and I tried once but was ignored.
I’m just so confused as to why she’d want to stay so long anyway? Why isn’t she desperate to get home to her own house and bed like I would be?!

So am I unusual in feeling this way?

OP posts:

20viona · 28/12/2021 15:41

No I hate it

shivermetimbers77 · 28/12/2021 15:46

2 nights max!

SparkleWhale · 28/12/2021 15:47

I'm just like you. I wouldn't like to stay at someone else's house even for a night if I'm honest and I really hate sleepover guests.

Forgotthespuds · 28/12/2021 15:55

Depends who it is. My mum usually comes to stay with me in the summer for 6 - 8 weeks. I love it she pitches in around the house, makes dinner a few times a week it's a pleasure to have her here I wish she would move in full time.

endofbluenight · 28/12/2021 15:58

No, dislike both, like you OP

Jinglebaubles · 28/12/2021 16:03

No, I like having my 'things'

Doggydoodah123 · 28/12/2021 16:17

God no, I absolutely hate staying at other people's houses and I don't want them at mine either. I've always needed my own space and for there to be a cut off to the hosting/socialising. I can't be dealing with having to entertain other people, it's just too much pressure and staying elsewhere means I can't do what I want when I want.

Angel2702 · 28/12/2021 16:19

Can go on holiday with immediate family etc but wouldn’t want to go and stay with friends etc. I can’t even stay in a B&B where the owners are there wait g on you on their dining room, I find it very awkward.

User2638483 · 28/12/2021 16:22

I don’t staying at other people’s houses at all.
I’d rather host than be hosted but don’t enjoy that for longer than 2 days.

CremeEggThief · 28/12/2021 16:23

No to both. Can't cope with either for much more than a couple of nights.

ImInStealthMode · 28/12/2021 16:26

I'm the same OP, unless it's someone I know very well and then only a night or two and depends on the situation. At my Brother's massive place there's a spare bedroom and adjacent bathroom just for us, perfect. My Mum's house is tiny so we book into a nearby hotel.

DP's Mum is currently staying with his Sibling nearby to us for a MONTH (she's visiting from their home country). She's lovely but there's no chance I could cope with that. Thankfully we're in a 1 bedroom flat so it's not even on the table that we could do the same.

I like to have my own space to retreat to and get very anxious without it.

Alwayswonderedwhy · 28/12/2021 16:28

Same. I never invite people to stay and always stay in hotels when visiting others. I find it exhausting having people round nevermind staying over night.

ImInStealthMode · 28/12/2021 16:29

Oh and same as a PP, would never stay in a B&B, far too much like staying in a strangers house. I don't mind small hotels but there's got to be enough rooms that you don't feel like your every move is being watched or noted.

deeplyambivalent · 28/12/2021 16:31

Hate it. Even with people I really like and an en suite bathroom.

CalamityJane2022 · 28/12/2021 16:34

Same. I am really lucky DH feels exactly the same.

Joystir59 · 28/12/2021 16:35

Three nights either way max. Except for very close friends.

Rainbowshit · 28/12/2021 16:39

No. Hate staying and hate having folk to stay.

SalcombeSunset · 28/12/2021 16:42

Going to sound like a total princess but I take my own pillow and towels when I stay with others! I really like visiting and do it often, but when you get into bed and the sheets smell of greasy hair or your host hands you a towel in the morning that smells of stale washing it totally grosses me out.

papayaorange · 28/12/2021 16:42

I have a friend in Scotland who owns a castle so yes I love staying there. She has 10 bedrooms all ensuite with a tv and tea and coffee making in all the bedrooms. 10 acres of land for walks. We all meet for breakfast in her huge dining room for breakfast then do whatever we want until dinner. Big open fires, and the heating is on. Yes it is a hotel at most times of the year but not at Christmas. It must cost her a fortune but she loves us to go and we love going.

ginslinger · 28/12/2021 16:48

it depends entirely on the house and the guest. If I can stay somewhere where the host is cool about me going for a bath or sloping off to read my book for an hour then that's lovely. If my guests are people who are happy to read the paper or their book or do something to suit themselves without needing input from me all the time then I love hosting. I don't stay with people who are 'on' all the time and I prefer not to host people who need my undivided attention

OhWhyNot · 28/12/2021 16:52

No unless I have my own bathroom

I would rather not have a drink and drive home very late than stay over

Im happy people staying here but we haven’t got much space

LoveGrooveDanceParty · 28/12/2021 16:54

MN is an absolute hot bed of reclusive, socially anxious hermits who hate other people.

It’s not typical of real life - where people have friends and actually genuinely enjoy spending time with them.

I’m with @Holly60 and @Kite22.

I really enjoy having people to stay and staying at other people’s house. It’s fun catching up, spending relaxed time with them.

MIL lives overseas, so when she comes to stay it’s for a month at a time. Likewise, when we go to stay with them, it’s for the same sort of duration.

DH and I are similar, in that we’re very much the more the merrier.

MolkosTeenageAngst · 28/12/2021 16:57

I hate having people come to stay at mine, but I think that is partially because I don’t have the space for them. If I had a nicer home I’m not sure I would mind.

I like going to stay with my closest friends and family, the ones where I genuinely feel like I can make myself at home, but otherwise not keen on staying with people I am not so close to.

WildHorsesRunInMe · 28/12/2021 17:03

Hate both but then again I'm very antisocial

Glowtastic · 28/12/2021 17:03

I don't like having family to stay here, it's stressful and demanding, I can't stay at my sister's due to the cramped conditions and the state of the house. I can't sleep there and the bathroom is filthy.

I like staying over just me at some friends houses, and enjoy the break. They understand my need for space and vice versa. However I can't cope with all of us staying at friends, it's tense and intense! If we do that we book into an air b&b or hotel. I recently went to stay with a friend in another country at her parents flat whilst they were there too. Hated it, felt claustrophobic and overwhelming and was desperate for my own space. So it really depends.

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