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I'm waiting for the police to call.

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grecianurn82 · 25/12/2021 10:40

Sorry for bringing the mood down but i don't feel like i can talk to anyone in real life yet. To cut a long story short I haven't heard from my ex sunce Tuesday, we have 2 young children sonthis is very out of character. His phone appears to be off for the last 24 hours. He has adult children who text me this morning concerned as they hadn't heard from him. They've asked the police to call to do a welfare check. We're waiting for news. Its surreal, I'm here with the kids and their presents knowing that there's a good chance something awful has happened. Their dad wouldnt be in good health and has a history of addiction issues. I don't know why I'm posting, I've told my mum but I'm playing down how worried i am as she has family there and she's busy.

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grecianurn82 · 25/12/2021 10:40

Apologies for typos.

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FlamesEmbersAshes · 25/12/2021 10:41

Just holding your hand OP.

rifling · 25/12/2021 10:42

Oh goodness, you poor thing! Thinking of you and hoping you get good news.

inmyslippers · 25/12/2021 10:42

That's tough op

ladygracie · 25/12/2021 10:42

I’m so sorry. That must be so hard for you. Really hope it is better news than you are expecting.

Weenurse · 25/12/2021 10:42

I have no advice, but I am happy to provide a hand to hold until you get some news. 💐

Gooders1105 · 25/12/2021 10:42

That sounds awful. Waiting is horrendous. Be kind to yourself. X

LadyCampanulaTottington · 25/12/2021 10:42

Sorry you’re facing this OP. Have you got support around you?

Skiptheheartsandflowers · 25/12/2021 10:43

Hope they can go round and at least you get some news soon.

SadSplinter · 25/12/2021 10:43

Oh that must be so worrying. Praying for good news for you soon.

Seiheiki · 25/12/2021 10:44

Thinking of you. Sending love and strength.

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grecianurn82 · 25/12/2021 10:45

No support with me, I'm home alone with my (our) two young dcs. I'm going to mums for dinner in a couple of hours, collecting my older kids from their dad on the way. The police have said they want to wait another 2 days before they will firce entry?! I can't do this for another 2 days.

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Bonbon21 · 25/12/2021 10:45

So difficult. Try to keep busy with the kids. Hope you hear soon and its positive news.

Haggisfish3 · 25/12/2021 10:46

Oh how awful. Two days?! Seems lax on their part.

SlowBoiledFrog · 25/12/2021 10:47

Just sending you Flowers it must be very difficult to plaster a smile for your Little ones.

Sunbird24 · 25/12/2021 10:50

I’m so sorry OP, also can’t understand the 2 day wait - when my grandmother’s neighbour called us to say her curtains hadn’t been opened that day the police were round within hours. I get they could be thinking he’s just decided to go away for a couple of days but if it’s this out of character for him not to contact his kids for Christmas they really should be doing something now.

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grecianurn82 · 25/12/2021 10:50

@SlowBoiledFrog it feels bizarre, I'm playing with them and helping them put new toys together knowing that they might never see their dad again. I just can't get my head around it.

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Travellingraspberry · 25/12/2021 10:57

Have his adult children by any chance got a key? Is there someone who can just pop by and see if they can see anything? Sorry you're going through this today of all days.

Nailsbythesea · 25/12/2021 10:59

Don’t assume the worst - bad news travels fast.

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grecianurn82 · 25/12/2021 11:00

No, no one has a key and his adult kids are well over an hour away. None of them drive yet, they're late teens/twenty.

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LemonViolet · 25/12/2021 11:01

How worrying. Are your shared children old enough to be asking where he is today?

Would his own adult children do anything else than wait for the police for another 2 days? Some people would be breaking into their own dad’s place rather than waiting!

All you can do now is wait though it seems. Your focus is on distracting and entertaining the little ones.

PurplePansy05 · 25/12/2021 11:03

Who was he supposed to be spending Christmas with? Alone? Is it to do with his issues?

If not alone, have you contacted these people? Can neighbours check on him? Or can you leave your DCs for a bit after lunch and go and check? If he doesn't answer call an ambulance and explain?

Flowers500 · 25/12/2021 11:04

What the hell is wrong with the police??? So if he’s slumped out cold on a floor they want to leave it 2 days so he has no chance? I think it might be time to be a bit of a bitch about this

andysgirl22 · 25/12/2021 11:05

Just giving a hand hold op. Sending good thoughts and well wishes xx

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grecianurn82 · 25/12/2021 11:05

@LemonViolet no my children aren't asking, they both have autism and ID so today is overwhelming for them with visitors, new toys etc. I think they will start asking over the next couple of days though as they haven't seen him in a week now. His older kids don't know what to do. They're technically adults but still so young, this is massive for them to deal with.

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