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I'm waiting for the police to call.

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grecianurn82 · 25/12/2021 10:40

Sorry for bringing the mood down but i don't feel like i can talk to anyone in real life yet. To cut a long story short I haven't heard from my ex sunce Tuesday, we have 2 young children sonthis is very out of character. His phone appears to be off for the last 24 hours. He has adult children who text me this morning concerned as they hadn't heard from him. They've asked the police to call to do a welfare check. We're waiting for news. Its surreal, I'm here with the kids and their presents knowing that there's a good chance something awful has happened. Their dad wouldnt be in good health and has a history of addiction issues. I don't know why I'm posting, I've told my mum but I'm playing down how worried i am as she has family there and she's busy.

OP posts:
SocialConnection · 25/12/2021 13:34

We're with you

PoshPyjamas · 25/12/2021 13:41

That must be so worrying, here’s hoping he’s just gone on a bender.

SirVixofVixHall · 25/12/2021 13:42

OP if you have any concerns about suicide then tell the police and they will force an entry now rather than in two days.
Or is your concern more that he is out on a bender and might be lying outside somewhere too drunk too move ?
Very much hope you get news soon.

bloodywhitecat · 25/12/2021 13:46

I am so sorry you are going through this today of all days.

Norano · 25/12/2021 13:51

Hope he is found safe and well

mummymayhem18 · 25/12/2021 13:54

Hope he is found soon and you can try and relax and enjoy the rest of the Christmas period

grecianurn82 · 25/12/2021 13:59

Sorry, I'm just at my mums. No news yet I'm afraid.

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RowsOfHolly · 25/12/2021 14:33

So sorry you have this worry. Very upsetting.

Are his older children together / with their Mum?

Fingers crossed for you OP. An extended bender, in hospital with no ID, depressed and refusing contact….

But of course your worry is acute.

dapsnotplimsolls · 25/12/2021 14:40

Sorry to hear this, keep hassling the police.

PriamFarrl · 25/12/2021 14:42

So sorry to hear this OP, Christmas is such a stressful time for so many.

lightnesspixie · 25/12/2021 14:53

Oh God hope it turns out to be nothing

TheOrigRights · 25/12/2021 15:44

Wow, I have asked for welfare checks twice and they were done very quickly. I am sorry you are having to wait so long and I am hoping he is found safe.

CPL593H · 25/12/2021 15:59

I would call the police again and really stress his ill health and addiction issues. Call the NHS emergency number too (111) and also say all that as they may have more leverage, give as much detail as you can.

Sorry that you are going through this.

Kezzie200 · 25/12/2021 16:06

I hope they are right and he sobers up and calls you when he does.

How worrying. You'd think the services would help to try and find out if he needs help.

grecianurn82 · 25/12/2021 16:09

The police just called. He's gone. They forced their way in and found him. Thanks so much forbthe hand holds today. I appreciate them more than any of you will ever know. I'm just in shock atm.

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 25/12/2021 16:11

Sorry to hear that @grecianurn82.

Em1151 · 25/12/2021 16:12

So sorry @grecianurn82

BingoandBluey · 25/12/2021 16:12

@grecianurn82 I'm so sorry to hear that, that's awful news to bear on Christmas Day of all days. Are you still with your Mum have you got someone to look after you? Xx

MrGruber · 25/12/2021 16:13

So very sorry

RampantIvy · 25/12/2021 16:14

How awful Flowers

Arghlife · 25/12/2021 16:14

Omg, I'm so sorry to hear that

LemonViolet · 25/12/2021 16:15

So sorry to hear this OP. It’s an odd kind of grief for an ex that is the father of your children. Be kind to yourself now. What a day for this news.

www.winstonswish.org/ is an amazing child bereavement charity if you are looking for support for the children as well

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youvegottenminuteslynn · 25/12/2021 16:16

Oh OP I am so, so sorry. Sending so much love to you and your children Thanks

PineappleTart · 25/12/2021 16:16

Oh OP I'm so so sorry to read this

bearlyactive · 25/12/2021 16:17

Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry OP Flowers

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