I'm waiting for the police to call.

[grecianurn82]

Sorry for bringing the mood down but i don't feel like i can talk to anyone in real life yet. To cut a long story short I haven't heard from my ex sunce Tuesday, we have 2 young children sonthis is very out of character. His phone appears to be off for the last 24 hours. He has adult children who text me this morning concerned as they hadn't heard from him. They've asked the police to call to do a welfare check. We're waiting for news. Its surreal, I'm here with the kids and their presents knowing that there's a good chance something awful has happened. Their dad wouldnt be in good health and has a history of addiction issues. I don't know why I'm posting, I've told my mum but I'm playing down how worried i am as she has family there and she's busy.

Keeping everything crossed. Awful that the police won’t force entry. I had to call them once when I was with my ex as he sent me messages saying he was going to end his life, police managed to force entry to his work place (he was fine), this all happened in a matter of hours not days.

Fingers crossed he’s gone out somewhere on a bender rather than being passed out in his flat. Keep pestering the police, they should be doing more.

Surprised the police aren't doing a check. I would phone again and say he's vulnerable and this is hugely out of character.

I'm so sorry you've got this awful worry. I hope it is a positive outcome for you

Sorry you're going through this, OP. I hope it turns out better than you're thinking it might.

So sorry OP sending a hand hold. Surely the police must to a welfare check

Exceptionally poor performance from the police.

I work for the ambulance service and in this situation we would be pushing for an emergency response.

I hope it’s good news OP. Here for a hand hold

Its out of order to suggest the OP rings back and tells lies about him being suicidal to force the police to act. If there is literally noone at all to check on the ex, and none of his family or friends are willing or able to act, well, that says a lot, doesn't it?

Lie to the police if you like OP, but in my experience of alcoholics at Christmas, he will be snoring away and will probably just be abusive to the poor copper who has to go and wake him up.

🙏 for you OP. Can you see when the last time he was on line was? Have you tried insisting again with the police? I hope nothing sinister happened

I hope he's ok 🤞

Hoping for a good outcome for you OP

Fingers crossed all is ok OP!

He may have just sunk into a depression...not that that's good or anything but he might be feeling too low to speak to anyone.x

Someone who works for the ambulance service would pushing for emergency response? That's something to think about op if your worried he might try ending his life. Sorry but it's got to be said, you know him better then everyone here, is he currently getting mental health support? Crisis team? 111 for advice?

If it is any consolation, we called the police to do a welfare check on our neighbour who hadn’t been seen for 3 days around Christmas (car still there, dog in the house, we knew he hadn’t gone away because we have eachothers keys and if it was an emergency he’d have called us to see to the dog)

Police turned up and hammered on the door, called the landline. Turns out he was ‘just‘ very Ill with flu and couldn’t get out of bed. (Poor bugger ha been crawling round on the floor to tend to his dog, but not managed to look after himself)

Police ensured he was ok, other neighbour sorted him with,food and drink, we babysat the dog till he was better.

Hope it’s something benign OP.

no news is good news op

I'm really quite shocked that the police don't seem to be bothered enough to do a welfare check - I know it's Christmas Day, but ffs!

Yes, maybe he's just drunk himself into a stupor but a 4 day bender if that's what it is) and his phone being dead does seem like it really merits a knock up!

They'd be able to gain access to the building by buzzing another flat, surely? (assuming he's in flats) and then it's just HIS door they'd need to potentially break down.

Again, I'm shocked they CBA.

And pressed post too soon -
I really hope he's ok, and that you and your family, and his kids, don't have anything awful to deal with.

Really hope he’s okay op, and it’s that he’s had too much to drink and sleeping it off (not that that is a good situation but recoverable)

Op having a son with addiction problems it could be that he's been on an absolute bender and sleeping it off try not too worry too much I know it's easier said than done, hope all is ok and I haven't read through the full thread.

Sorry you’re dealing with this OP x

I'm sorry OP, this is a worry. Alcohol poisoning is a big problem with those with alcohol addiction. I hope you hear something soon. What is ID?

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I'm really quite shocked that the police don't seem to be bothered enough to do a welfare check - I know it's Christmas Day, but ffs!

Yes, maybe he's just drunk himself into a stupor but a 4 day bender if that's what it is) and his phone being dead does seem like it really merits a knock up!

They'd be able to gain access to the building by buzzing another flat, surely? (assuming he's in flats) and then it's just HIS door they'd need to potentially break down.

Again, I'm shocked they CBA.

Usually the police will tell you to go check for yourself that's what I got told a few times which is not great because if something bad had happened you would rather someone else found them than yourself.

Is there no way anyone else can go round to check if the police won’t act for two days.
What a nightmare for you op

Me and dh went to check on dh's family member that no one could get hold of and dh found the body. I wish we'd rang the police and they'd been the ones to go in the house first tbh. This should be a situation the police help with, I wouldn't want anyone else find someone they know like that.

I was wondering about hospital too, either a medical ward or a mental health ward. They may not give you info as he's your ex but they may give it to one of his adult children?