Is it rude to say that a gift for your child is the wrong size?

[Dora2168]

We recently had an early Christmas party with the family and the aunts and uncles gave out presents to the children. My sister and I had a discussion before the event and she said that she would prefer clothing for her two children, so I carefully set about shopping with care for the right products and size of clothing. On the day, my nephew was overjoyed when he opened his gifts and saw that he had received a new football kit, Adidas sports tracksuit and matching Adidas trainers
His sister had new luxury winter coat and cosy jumpers. Both children were delighted and overjoyed. My 8 year old then opened his gift, and I saw his face fall when he saw a bright neon yellow track top and joggers that were at least two sizes too big slide out of the gift wrap. I felt his disappointment, especially as I had taken the time to shop with care to give a useful gift. Should I return the items as it cannot fit my child or regift it? I don't think that I would let him wear a neon yellow tracksuit.
I later found the exact item online for £10 on sale.

@Hemingwayscatz

Clothes are always a dodgy present to buy unless someone has asked for a specific thing and you know their size. Not sure why anyone would buy a neon yellow tracksuit, really weird. My Uncle bought me a Minnie Mouse nightie in size 11-12 years when I was a 14 year old goth. I don’t know what runs through some people’s minds but it’s totally thoughtless.

I know tonnes of goths that love Disney... Disney does time burton stuff, I even knew a goth who went by the nickname Minnie after Minnie mouse lol.

• Tim Burton not time lol

It's fine, also can say not sure your child would ever wear it
Maybe. Sounds like it's more you're feeling a bit hurt the present is a bit thoughtless if your sister is financially as ok as you x

@LaChristmasBella i don't believe in all this joy of giving crap unless you choose to , if i choose to buy a gift for someone who can't then so be it
But if exchanging with family and i have spent a set amount ,and put some effort in , I would at least expect them to put some effort in to
mine and dh families we have max budget we go to for things if someone goes over thats there call( except sil)
But mine used to get cheap broken second hand toys from sil ( her own kids used toys ) and it was a piss take i had no joy giving her our thoughtful gifts when mine were left with nothing and no joy watching there faces when they opened them
Tbf she has got better since i suggested we stop presents , she now at least buys something they like

@Forgetaboutme she should know what age the son is though so why would you buy it a couple sizes too big
If your unsure then you ask, infact I would always ask with clothes

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I don’t understand the massive difference is gift costs - do you normally spend so much?? Seems OTT. Does your DS normally spend similar to you and a £10 gift is unusual from her? If so, have you considered she’s having financial problem? The fact she asked for clothing seems unusual you said. Perhaps she can’t afford to buy them next size up stuff for winter and would have preferred practical everyday clothes rather than luxury coats and football kits

I see your point but for example, if the reviews of the item stated to buy bigger she might have done so for that reason. I find it hard to give my kids sizes out when asked because it can be different depending where its bought and what its for. Safest option is usually to go slightly bigger.

I just think its rude to assume there was no thought process at all. My inlaws give my kids clothes I wouldn't pick for them all the time. Its stuff they think he will like and usually far too big. I don't think for one minute they are being 'thoughtless'.

@User762980

OP unsurprisingly hasn't come back

Neon track suit made me wounder if she would come back

Wind up surely

Yeah, and I bet there wasn't a single nanosecond when your faces fell upon opening it

Perhaps a nanosecond of confusion, but we covered it up quickly!

Of course I'd return it if it was from my DSis

@Ijustreallywantacat

Yeah, and I bet there wasn't a single nanosecond when your faces fell upon opening it

Perhaps a nanosecond of confusion, but we covered it up quickly!

This is making me think I’d probably have quite liked my own, personal toaster.

What a load of twaddle

Adidas? classy

I do think it’s rude to ask for the receipt, I h bad manners. Next year it’s much easier to say, no clothes please.

When giving clothes as a gift, it is idiotic not to include a gift receipt.

Adidas? classy

This crossed my mind too. I’m not up on fashion or labels etc, but I always thought Adidas was a “chav” brand.

I'd just say hi. Dc loved the gift however its far to large unfortunately so could you possibly exchange it for a smaller size. Alternatively I can exchange it if you would send me the receipt.
Many thanks.

@BoredZelda

Adidas? classy

This crossed my mind too. I’m not up on fashion or labels etc, but I always thought Adidas was a “chav” brand.

This thread reminds me of a quote from a thread the other day about someone overbuying sports wear for their boyfriend... paraphrasing as I don't have time to directly find and copy but:

'what are your going to do when your sat watching him open half of sports direct'

I find OPs clothing description quite 'chavvy' too, the only people I know who would say 'luxury coat' etc... tend to mean shiny black and gold faux, cheap or knock-off 'designer' brand name (possibly with the Channel logo or something embroidered on) puffer jackets etc...

Her sister asked for clothes (no mention of 'designer' clothes), which often means one of three things:

1. she broke and her kids need clothes (so cant pay £100s in return)

2. she is minimalist, downsizing, doesn't have space etc...

3. her sister has form for showing off buy overbuying huge crap... we have this issue with a family member and at least clothes pop in the drawer and don't take up half the room like a battery powered ride in car or giant customised dolls house.

This did not happen.

Just send her this thread, it’s outting enough?

Weirdly a neon green Adidas kids tracksuit has just been listed in my local FB selling page.

@IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads

Weirdly a neon green Adidas kids tracksuit has just been listed in my local FB selling page.

How much for? Cos Ops sister got it for a tenner in the sale

@IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads

Weirdly a neon green Adidas kids tracksuit has just been listed in my local FB selling page.

Buy it!!!

Definitely would not let my son wear neon yellow! Why should he stand out in a crowd wearing neon yellow like a high vis suit. I'd prefer you don't give anything at all than give cheap tasteless tat.