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Why am I feeling homesick at home??

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StormInAGinGlass · 12/12/2021 21:01

I can't seem to stop this horrible homesickness feeling whilst I'm actually at home or around family etc nothing seems to make it better.

I don't know why I feel like this or how to make it better but it's this lump in my throat, pit of my stomach feeling that won't go away.

I've been to visit parents, family etc. Things are ok at home with my partner, I have a couple of friends and nothing has changed with them. I just feel very very strange, sort of lonely, homesick is the best way of describing it.

Has anyone else ever felt like this and how did it go away? I've tried talkjng to my partner about it but he seems to think it's because we have things on the house to sort out. I'm not convinced it's that.

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StormInAGinGlass · 12/12/2021 22:38

Is it just me being weird!

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RedHelenB · 12/12/2021 22:39

Are you called Stacey?

TiddlesTheTiger · 12/12/2021 22:40

I think it's the upsetting & unsettling covid situation, probably.

Changemaname1 · 12/12/2021 22:42

Do you think you are Unsettled or worried with Covid etc ? Maybe you are homesick for life pre covid sort of thing

Mummadeze · 12/12/2021 22:44

Are you worrying about anything specific. You might be confusing your feelings?

my8thMNusername · 12/12/2021 22:48

Previous life? Grin

ChittyChittyBoomBoom · 12/12/2021 22:48

I’m sorry you’re feeling that way, it sounds horrible and very unsettling.

To me, it sounds like anxiety. It might not be anything specific that’s triggering it but something more generalised.

NinaDefoe · 12/12/2021 22:50

Do you mean you feel homesick when you are in your own house? Or are you longing to be with your parents?

I feel REALLY homesick (for my hometown & Mum) when I am actually WITH her IN my hometown. It’s very strange.

NinaDefoe · 12/12/2021 22:52

@ChittyChittyBoomBoom

I’m sorry you’re feeling that way, it sounds horrible and very unsettling.

To me, it sounds like anxiety. It might not be anything specific that’s triggering it but something more generalised.

I agree it is definitely anxiety in my case.
ThePlantsitter · 12/12/2021 22:53

My mum always used to say you were thirsty if you felt like this.

I'm feeling like it too op, I think it's because everything's shit.

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StormInAGinGlass · 12/12/2021 23:16

@TiddlesTheTiger @Changemaname1 I think this might be something to do with it but I had COVID last year and had to isolate etc and didn't feel like this! It would make perfect sense though and maybe the thought things just won't be the same again and for my DC might be playing a part. It is unsettling isn't it!

@Mummadeze @ChittyChittyBoomBoom I also think this would explain it maybe. What is odd though I've been told I have anxiety disorder but this just feels different it is quite hard to explain so may well be a confusion of feelings and need for comfort but I don't know what that is. Thank you for understanding, it really is unsettling and the worrying part is that I just don't know how to shake it.
@ninadefoe that is interesting and I'm sorry you have felt like this too! I thought visiting parents and my hometown might help but it didn't so it sounds like a similar thing.

@my8thMNusername it may well be haha I have absolutely no idea and have never felt like this before apart from when I actually was homesick! Does make you wonder...

@ThePlantsitter do you know what is really strange I actually think this makes a lot of sense... So I'm constantly craving tea and sometimes feel outrageously thirsty. Not in a worrying way but now you've said that it weirdly fits?

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alienbaby · 13/12/2021 00:39

It's called hiraeth

mewe3 · 13/12/2021 00:56

I get this from time to time.. exactly how you describe except I always call it a feeling of pending doom, that's how it feels for me. Usually it's when I'm subconsciously worrying or anticipating something and I've learnt it's a part of my anxiety. It's weird because you don't necessarily feel like you have anything to be anxious about but anxiety can sometimes be general or without reason.

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StormInAGinGlass · 13/12/2021 02:42

@alienbaby it is definitely along those lines, but not sure what the longing feeling would be for, because being at home or even where I grew up doesn't seem to help or make me realise what would make it better. If I thought a few days at my parents house would help i'd do that for example.

@mewe3 yes absolutely the feeling of doom and nothing is going to make it better because it's inevitable, that is exactly it. I don't know exactly what that is but there are a few things going on causing stress. The odd thing is despite having anxiety for a while and stress sometimes which I can recognise the feelings of, this is just totally different.

It is really interesting that others have felt like this and everything around the uncertainty, anxiety is that and it must just be manifesting in this unsettled, unsafe feeling.

It has really helped to hear your replies and I don't feel quite so alone Flowers

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StormInAGinGlass · 13/12/2021 02:43

Sorry if that rambling post didn't make much sense, just realised the time and hopefully that says it all!!

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RosieLemonade · 13/12/2021 06:58

I'm going to try having a glass of water next time I feel like this. As PP I sometimes feel homesick for my mum. Especially when spending time with her. She's changed a lot in recent years and nothing I do is right. I miss my old mum.

BananaPant · 13/12/2021 07:09

Anxiety.

I have GAD. It's severe and it's utterly awful.

I feel this way a lot. Even more trapped as I can't work because of it

senorafridgidaire · 13/12/2021 07:13

I was going to say hiraeth too. It's also a feeling of nostalgia amd yearning for the past, which can't be recaptured, as well as missing home. I think more now than ever it's really relevant given we have all lost life as it used to be and are still getting to grips with the way things are now.

I get it occasionally and it can hit me out of nowhere, just driving home from work for example, it manifests as a physical feeling of emptiness and sickness low in my belly, sometimes it only lasts a few seconds, sometimes longer. Its like someone has told me some terrible news. Except they haven't. No idea what causes it.

Cooperjay · 13/12/2021 07:16

I know the exact feeling you mean. I had this in the days after having my first baby. It was really hard to explain to people but it was the exact same feeling/ sensation I used to feel when away from my parents as a child. I was told it was a form of anxiety.

Hen2018 · 13/12/2021 09:15

It sounds like depression.

MistySkiesAfterRain · 13/12/2021 09:16

Do you have seasonal affective disorder? It sounds very like the same feeling of dread/FOMO/pining that I get- like something is all wrong and I can't place it.

Knockoneofftheshelftowin · 13/12/2021 10:05

I have felt like this at different times but I wouldn't have been able to describe it as well as you op.

Awful, especially when you don't seem to have a 'proper' reason for it.

I hope you feel better soon.

Fr0thandBubble · 13/12/2021 10:07

So strange OP, I have exactly the same feeling at the moment and have never had it before. As a PP above said, it’s a mixture of homesickness (even though am at home) and nostalgia. I feel very discombobulated and unsettled.

And the comment about thirst also is really weird as I know I haven’t drunk much at all this weekend and am dehydrated! Will try that although that would be a very weird remedy if it works!

Ceramide · 13/12/2021 10:09

I've felt like this when heading for depression.

PumpkinCrumble · 13/12/2021 10:19

Sometimes I get homesick but for my childhood. Which is strange cos it’s wasn’t even the happiest childhood. My parents still live in the same house but they’ve decorated/modernised etc so it feels like a different place. I guess it’s just nostalgia?

Is it really just anxiety?