Asked someone to move from the disabled bay

[AllThingsServeTheBeam]

No real point to the thread really. But today instead of us driving off and trying to find somewhere else to park in our town, dp stopped and told someone who was just sat in a disabled bay with the engine idling with no badge to move (nicely). The guy did move and pulled up further along. We were able to park up with a much shorter walk!

Why do people think it's ok to park in disabled bays when they don't need them? We would have normally just driven off and I would have possibly had to have stopped in the car if it was too far for me to walk. People don't seem to care their actions have concequences.

In our local Asda it seems they also double up as “nipping to the cash point” spaces.

I don’t think the people that misuse them realise the impact that their few minutes has on people who need them

@iwanttobeonleave

I recently saw a mum from school who I had previously completely respected park in a disabled bay. It's completely changed my view of her. What reasonable person would do this?!

What reasonable person would not stop to consider that maybe the mum has hidden disabilities? You have judged this women, when you have no idea if she is disabled and holds a blue badge or not.

According to you @JetRocket I shouldn’t have a blue badge then because I’m seriously disabled after a freak accident that was my own doing. Charming.

I worked at a place where one of the switchboard operators had a named disabled bay for her near to the switchboard external door. The chief exec changed it to his own personal parking spot. It lasted about a month before it reverted back. It was appalling especially considering it was a hospital!

[quote JetRocket]@AllThingsServeTheBeam

Also whilst I would never have an issue with someone with a blue badge over flowing into parent child spaces I can’t help thinking this is exactly like the person who walked with a stick (but had no blue badge) using the disabled bays.
The car park provide spaces for a certain group of people, if you over ride that by assessing your own need and deciding it’s ok to bend the rules then so be it.[/quote]
Don't be so ridiculous. No one NEEDS C&P parking. They are helpful that is all

Even if you have a hidden disability you need a BB to park in a disabled bay. Again I am assuming the woman at the gym didn't have a BB.

I didn’t choose to have a life changing accident. The clue is on the word accident. Hth.

*in

@AllThingsServeTheBeam

Also I got locked out of my car several times during my complicated pregnancies because people parked so close I couldn’t get in my car. I struggled to walk never mind climb over seats.
But obviously I was pregnant (not always a choice for a woman btw- whole other issue) so obviously I deserved to be stranded and humiliated.
I’m not sure mumsnet is the best place to vocalise such anti parent opinions. I didn’t diminish for a second your need for disabled parking, simply agreed with you about how frustrating it is when someone uses a bay that’s reserved for people who need them

@JetRocket

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Not insensitive at all. I wouldn't begrudge a new mum who was obviously struggling a disabled space. Not at all. And as I said earlier on someone who I think would benefit from a disabled bay I wouldn't get worked up about them using it.

As far as I know, pregnant women are able to use parent and child spaces in most supermarket car parks. You should check this though b

@Theremoresefulday

so you’re not actually impacted by my comment then and are just kicking off for the sake of it?

@JetRocket

I know it’s not exactly the same thing but I get really annoyed with people doing this with parent child bays. Because you don’t need a badge they’ll actually just park in them and go in shopping. Usually because they have massive fancy cars. With a toddler and baby, on my own, double pram and two bulky car seats its so hard to park in a normal bay as there’s a 99% chance I won’t be able to get them in/out upon return as people will pull up close to my doors. It makes an already hard task feeling so defeating and overwhelming.

Parking in bays that others rely on, just because you’re lazy, is never ok.

I park in them from 9pm. I expect little children to be in bed by then

Well, I am. Because I did it to myself. Which was what your now deleted horrid post said.

@Theremoresefulday

I know pregnant women can use them now but I didn’t then.
I honestly came on this thread to agree at how frustrating people using bays when they don’t need them is but it’s just turned into an anti parent pile on

Parent and child parking bays are not remotely the same as disabled bays though @JetRocket. It’s a false equivalency.

[quote JetRocket]@AllThingsServeTheBeam

Also I got locked out of my car several times during my complicated pregnancies because people parked so close I couldn’t get in my car. I struggled to walk never mind climb over seats.
But obviously I was pregnant (not always a choice for a woman btw- whole other issue) so obviously I deserved to be stranded and humiliated.
I’m not sure mumsnet is the best place to vocalise such anti parent opinions. I didn’t diminish for a second your need for disabled parking, simply agreed with you about how frustrating it is when someone uses a bay that’s reserved for people who need them [/quote]
I don't know why you're directing all your bike towards me. A load of posters on this thread disagreed with you before me!

@daisypond

I know it’s not exactly the same thing but I get really annoyed with people doing this with parent child bays.

It’s not the same at all. Parent and child bays should be stopped.

This is also ridiculous. Sorry but babies and toddlers exist, and adults caring for them need more room to get them in and out of car seats. Not only that but when you have 2 2 year olds and you're alone you get one out then you carry them with you on the other side to get the other one out so that they don't run into the car park, you need more wiggle room.

People on Mumsnet have such an odd attitude to children.

Pointless thread. You asked him to move, he did. You got the space you needed.

[quote JetRocket]@Theremoresefulday

I know pregnant women can use them now but I didn’t then.
I honestly came on this thread to agree at how frustrating people using bays when they don’t need them is but it’s just turned into an anti parent pile on[/quote]
It was the fact you compared someone using a C&P space to using a disabled bay that got people's backs up. They are none comparable. Not everywhere has C&P spaces. What happens then? If there wasn't a disabled bay free I have to either stop where I am or go home. I can't drive so I am literally stranded in the car til DP comes back

@JingleJingleAllTheWay

Pointless thread. You asked him to move, he did. You got the space you needed.

Did you miss my question?

Or sometimes the person they are waiting for does qualify for a blue badge but can't sort them paperwork out, in our case they only issue one badge and Dp's ex has mislaid it. If you saw dsd you wouldn't question her eligibility

@SpookyScarySkeletons

Were you able to report that cerebrally deprived creature?

Our council also does mad things like not put a dropped kerb next to bays on the high street, so get dh out and then have to push him in the road facing oncoming traffic to reach the speed bump which allows me to push him up the bump and then is level with the pavement. Let’s not even go near sharply dropped kerbs that his electric wheelchair ( which is a serious bit of kit) cannot negotiate.

All town planners etc should spend one week in a wheelchair to understand the issues. I’d also remove the toenails of anyone misusing disabled bays, there aren’t enough of them and it is purely selfish behaviour.

P and C spaces are great if available. Very handy.

But the need For them is nowhere near comparable to the need for blue badge spaces.