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Asked someone to move from the disabled bay

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AllThingsServeTheBeam · 12/12/2021 15:11

No real point to the thread really. But today instead of us driving off and trying to find somewhere else to park in our town, dp stopped and told someone who was just sat in a disabled bay with the engine idling with no badge to move (nicely). The guy did move and pulled up further along. We were able to park up with a much shorter walk!

Why do people think it's ok to park in disabled bays when they don't need them? We would have normally just driven off and I would have possibly had to have stopped in the car if it was too far for me to walk. People don't seem to care their actions have concequences.

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Theremoresefulday · 12/12/2021 19:52

@Hospedia

Disability is a protected characteristic, parenthood is not.
This and your precious post.

Disability is protected in the Equality Act 2010.

That’s the crucial difference. And the provisions of the equality act are why I’m allowed to use P&C spaces and a parent isn’t allowed to use a BB space.

christmaspombear · 12/12/2021 19:52

@JetRocket

https://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2010/15/section/20

Hth Biscuit

User135792468 · 12/12/2021 19:53

Oh come on @JetRocket, I thought better of you with all of your legal expertise and all that Grin. Don’t worry Op, @jetrocket is on the wind up today.

I agree, only absolute knobs park in disabled bays. I’m glad you said something. I must admit though, I do also find it extremely irritating when people with no children or with teenagers use the parent and child bays as it’s just inconsiderate to people for whom they really do make a difference. When my dc were tiny and I had a car seat that clipped into the base, it was stressful.

Twatforaneighbour · 12/12/2021 19:54

Ive had issues with DS school parking, he has a BB and walks with crutches. Some days are worse than others and he can be really struggling but the amount of parents with no BB who think its ok to pull into the disabled spaces (there are only 2) because they will only be 10 mins, drives me crazy.
Its the knock on effect - if they are there when we arrive, I cant wait 10 mins for them to move because I will be blocking all the other cars which means we either have to keep doing laps until they leave or park much further down the hill and it will take poor DS ages to walk up.

Why do people not work this out? They are still blocking the space when people arrive even if it is 'just' 10 mins.

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AllThingsServeTheBeam · 12/12/2021 19:58

@Twatforaneighbour

Ive had issues with DS school parking, he has a BB and walks with crutches. Some days are worse than others and he can be really struggling but the amount of parents with no BB who think its ok to pull into the disabled spaces (there are only 2) because they will only be 10 mins, drives me crazy. Its the knock on effect - if they are there when we arrive, I cant wait 10 mins for them to move because I will be blocking all the other cars which means we either have to keep doing laps until they leave or park much further down the hill and it will take poor DS ages to walk up.

Why do people not work this out? They are still blocking the space when people arrive even if it is 'just' 10 mins.

This is my point. That just 10 minutes could have really changed my day unless we asked the person parked there if they really needed to be there. If there was a BB I wouldn't have said anything even if there was a person sitting in the car. But people's inconsiderate attitudes have a real impact on others even if they don't mean to
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iwanttobeonleave · 12/12/2021 19:59

Guys, the mum from school I saw using the disabled bay IS NOT DiSABLED, there is no blue badge. She runs with the running group, she has no hidden disability. I know her!!

She used the space because it was the closest to the gym and not being used.

I'm not 'judging' her, it's fact!! I used it as an example to prove that able bodied can be selfish enough to use disabled bays, which, as I said, I find it very difficult to understand. Good lord!! Confused

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AllThingsServeTheBeam · 12/12/2021 20:09

@iwanttobeonleave

Guys, the mum from school I saw using the disabled bay IS NOT DiSABLED, there is no blue badge. She runs with the running group, she has no hidden disability. I know her!!

She used the space because it was the closest to the gym and not being used.

I'm not 'judging' her, it's fact!! I used it as an example to prove that able bodied can be selfish enough to use disabled bays, which, as I said, I find it very difficult to understand. Good lord!! Confused

I thought this would be the case
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TheVolturi · 12/12/2021 20:23

We have a blue badge for our son, but I hate the badge police if I'm honest. I've noticed so many people peering in our window to see if we have a badge when we're parked up, and I don't know why but it pisses me off!

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AllThingsServeTheBeam · 12/12/2021 20:24

@TheVolturi

We have a blue badge for our son, but I hate the badge police if I'm honest. I've noticed so many people peering in our window to see if we have a badge when we're parked up, and I don't know why but it pisses me off!
Because so many people don't have one. I understand why people check.
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Theremoresefulday · 12/12/2021 20:25

I check as I’m going into the store if I’ve had to park elsewhere coz they’re full.

TheVolturi · 12/12/2021 20:28

Comes across as quite aggressive though, which I don't appreciate when I'm out with my son.

LadyCleathStuart · 12/12/2021 20:28

I also hate the badge police, I've taken my Mum out places and had people coming over ranting and raving at us because neither of us 'look disabled' and because I we don't drive about with my Mums badge stuck to the window so it does take a few seconds to take it out of the glove box and stick it up but thats all it takes for someone to decide that they are more deserving of the space.

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AllThingsServeTheBeam · 12/12/2021 20:30

@TheVolturi

Comes across as quite aggressive though, which I don't appreciate when I'm out with my son.
Glancing into a windscreen? I don't approach anyone. In fact this is the only time we have ever ever questioned someone parked in a bay with no badge. I could do it most times I go to my local supermarket.
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AllThingsServeTheBeam · 12/12/2021 20:31

@LadyCleathStuart

I also hate the badge police, I've taken my Mum out places and had people coming over ranting and raving at us because neither of us 'look disabled' and because I we don't drive about with my Mums badge stuck to the window so it does take a few seconds to take it out of the glove box and stick it up but thats all it takes for someone to decide that they are more deserving of the space.
People like that are just pricks and I have been at the receiving end many a time. Including by a parking attendant.
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Theremoresefulday · 12/12/2021 20:31

How would you suggest I check @TheVolturi? I have reported cars in the past that were parked on bb spaces without a bb. I’m sure people check mine too. I really don’t mean it aggressively - it’s just that they are abused and I’d like the people who ARE abusing them to be held to account.

Theremoresefulday · 12/12/2021 20:32

I’ve been ranted and raved at as well. Including by a store security guard.

Sideswiped · 12/12/2021 20:33

@JetRocket, awww, thank you for the biscuit, hun!
Have another yourself.... Xmas Biscuit
And, in the meantime, do trot on until you know what you're talking about.
Disabled spaces have laws protecting them. P&C spaces do not.
And, as I'm feeling generous, I'll give you one more Xmas Biscuit.

TractorAndHeadphones · 12/12/2021 20:41

@TheVolturi @LadyCleathStuart
I get that people checking for blue badges seem ‘judgy and aggressive’ but what’s the alternative?
If not for the risk of being reported abuse of space will continue, which is why proof of eligibility is needed in the first place. If you want people to not judge then accept that there’ll be nothing you can do to ensure the likelihood of there being a space when you need one.

TheVolturi · 12/12/2021 20:45

I think it's just a few people seem to take it as their personal mission to hunt down the ones abusing the spaces. And love a good scrap about it. There is a difference in casually glancing into a car window to check, and marching over when you see a woman with young dc park in a disabled space and stand about waiting for her to display the badge.

Theremoresefulday · 12/12/2021 20:48

I don’t go over to anyone. I just look as I go past.

Sirzy · 12/12/2021 20:49

I don’t mind people politely looking and politely saying something if the badge isn’t up. A couple of times I have had to rush back when I have realised I have forgotten Blush

But nobody should be rude about it

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AllThingsServeTheBeam · 12/12/2021 20:52

@TheVolturi

I think it's just a few people seem to take it as their personal mission to hunt down the ones abusing the spaces. And love a good scrap about it. There is a difference in casually glancing into a car window to check, and marching over when you see a woman with young dc park in a disabled space and stand about waiting for her to display the badge.
No that's no acceptable at all. But calling people out who move away from the car without the blue badge is totally ok. I wish I had the guts to do it.
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LadyCleathStuart · 12/12/2021 20:53

@TractorAndHeadphones For me it's more the agressiveness that can be encountered. You want to walk casually buy and have a look in, fine, but you want to approach me and demand to see the badge, or sound your horn at me for daring to go into the space before I have even turned the engine off, then that is not ok.

One we had parked, badge displayed and were getting out when someone came and stopped behind us and started shouting 'excuse me!' very loudly and pointing at their badge (taped to their windscreen) - we were parked legally, they couldn't even see the front of my car to see whether I had a badge or not but obviously in their heads they were the only disabled people allowed to park that day.

People can be right arseholes about it.

Same with p&c, when I was early pregnant with my second DC I had to leave DH and DS to finish the weekly shop in the supermarket as I felt so sick and went to sit in the car only to get a mouthful over being in a p&c space 'with no child', despite the obvious massive car seat in the back.

MissTrip82 · 12/12/2021 21:00

Hahahaha person with very strong feelings about parent and child spaces turns out to be a bit of a dick in other ways.

Sirzy · 12/12/2021 21:06

The worst we have had was before DS had his blue badge we parked in a P and C space. He was about 8 at the time, when we got back to the car with him in his SN buggy a woman gave us a barrage of abuse about how he was too old to be in a buggy and how I was just lazy using a p and c space Hmm