Asked someone to move from the disabled bay

[AllThingsServeTheBeam]

No real point to the thread really. But today instead of us driving off and trying to find somewhere else to park in our town, dp stopped and told someone who was just sat in a disabled bay with the engine idling with no badge to move (nicely). The guy did move and pulled up further along. We were able to park up with a much shorter walk!

Why do people think it's ok to park in disabled bays when they don't need them? We would have normally just driven off and I would have possibly had to have stopped in the car if it was too far for me to walk. People don't seem to care their actions have concequences.

@FazedNotPhased

Why do people always bring up P+C spaces on these threads, as if your decision to have a baby is somehow comparable to being disabled

This. 100% this.

@Theremoresefulday

Was this on an on-street bay?

Yes it was an on street bay.

@iwanttobeonleave disabled people are allowed in the gym. Unless you really know her well you can’t 100% say she’s not disabled.

As for the op - there are threads on here of people parking on private driveways so it’s fair to say that since entitled people just don’t give a shit. That said, someone parked idling might have dropped off a disabled person to do something in the shops and is waiting for them. There’s a lot of assumptions here.

[quote Theremoresefulday]@JetRocket I park in parent and child bays when the disabled bays are full.

I have a blue badge.

I don’t have a fancy car though.

Does it make you feel good to inwardly rant?[/quote]
I park in P&C bays if there are no disabled bays too. I'd love someone to question me

[quote NeedAHoliday2021]@iwanttobeonleave disabled people are allowed in the gym. Unless you really know her well you can’t 100% say she’s not disabled.

As for the op - there are threads on here of people parking on private driveways so it’s fair to say that since entitled people just don’t give a shit. That said, someone parked idling might have dropped off a disabled person to do something in the shops and is waiting for them. There’s a lot of assumptions here.[/quote]
DP did ask if they had a badge and they said no.

I once pointed out to a woman parked in a BB space (in a very polite but concerned tone) that she had forgotten to display her badge. She told me she was only going to be five minutes and she'd left her children in the car (that's a whole other thread in itself). I then helpfully pointed out the P&C spaces that were empty. She moved her car.
The one that really galls me is at my local shop. Lots of people park in the BB spaces with no badge, bad enough in itself. But the shop now does it's own deliveries. The van is now occupying one of the BB spaces when not in use.

@iwanttobeonleave

I recently saw a mum from school who I had previously completely respected park in a disabled bay. It's completely changed my view of her. What reasonable person would do this?!

I’ve seen neighbours of ours do this, in a local supermarket car park. Unfortunately it’s completely in character for them to give zero shits about anyone else.

@JetRocket

I know it’s not exactly the same thing but I get really annoyed with people doing this with parent child bays. Because you don’t need a badge they’ll actually just park in them and go in shopping. Usually because they have massive fancy cars. With a toddler and baby, on my own, double pram and two bulky car seats its so hard to park in a normal bay as there’s a 99% chance I won’t be able to get them in/out upon return as people will pull up close to my doors. It makes an already hard task feeling so defeating and overwhelming.

Parking in bays that others rely on, just because you’re lazy, is never ok.

P and C spaces are the perfect example of lazy, thoughtless and entitled parenting. In no way do they compare to disabled bays. The fact that you think they are comparable is shocking.

@iwanttobeonleave

Margaret - no, it was at the gym, I recognised her car then watched her leave the gym and drive off. I was quite shocked tbh!

I took my friend to the local gym sometimes. She had terminal cancer and the aqua aerobics was very good for her. She still couldn't walk far.

The fact they moved on without getting arsey suggests they seem fairly reasonable. Perhaps they were waiting for someone who does have mobility issues and would struggle to walk further in case they couldn't get another space, perhaps they were being selfish. Either way, another goady disabled bay thread yay.

@Tabbacus

The fact they moved on without getting arsey suggests they seem fairly reasonable. Perhaps they were waiting for someone who does have mobility issues and would struggle to walk further in case they couldn't get another space, perhaps they were being selfish. Either way, another goady disabled bay thread yay.

Goady? In what way am I being goady?!

@Akire

I see this all time badge on display but driver sat in car whole time. Meaning no one can use it. If the driver is disabled but staying in the car they can park anywhere and wait. If it’s a passenger park further away and then pick up closer (even if they managed walk around whole shop but last 10 metre to a non blue badge space is beyond them) As a blue badge holder I’d say least 1/4 spaces are hogged by sitting people drives me up the wall.

I will do this because some days it takes me all my ability to get out of the car. Sometimes I just drive away again realising today is not the day for getting out the car but I may sit there for twenty minutes trying to build up the ability to get out the car. You shouldn’t always assume.

Some days I’ve come back to the car early and I’m sitting for 5 mins waiting for dd to finish paying and come out.

I might be using inhalers or waiting for my legs to stop misbehaving so I can drive.

@iwanttobeonleave

I recently saw a mum from school who I had previously completely respected park in a disabled bay. It's completely changed my view of her. What reasonable person would do this?!

Did she have a blue badge?

I dread someone seeing me like this and making this sort of comment. I have a blue badge. I actually have one of the highest PIP awards - highest rates on both elements, as an ongoing / indefinite award. I don’t tell ANYONE this. Only dh knows. I don’t appear to be disabled. I have chronic hidden disabilities including lupus, asthma and Addison’s disease. On a bad day I’m bed bound and on high strength Tramadol but people don’t see me on those days. They might see me park at Tesco or wherever in the disabled bay. They’d be shocked.

I have a blue badge. I go to the swimming pool. And I park on the disabled spaces. I wasn’t aware that going to exercise meant you weren’t disabled? My consultant and physio both recommended it to me.

I'm assuming the said woman didn't have a BB or it wouldn't be a problem. People sitting in bays with a BB could be waiting for someone who is disabled. I can't get worked up about it as they have a BB. The guy in question didn't and was just taking up the space.

Ive had it where Mr flash car ignored the extra wide chevrons at the side of the disabled bay and parked diagonally very close to the side of my car. Then came back while I was helping DH into his wheelchair and started fussing about his paintwork as the wheelchair was 1mm away from his car. DH became flustered and tried to rush, I loudly told DH not to rush and that the other driver could wait. What moron doesn’t understand the flashings next to disabled bays are for people to get equipment in and out, passengers in and out of chairs etc… he started huffing and puffing at how long we were taking and
I just turned round pointed to the empty bays and said ‘ you have a choice about where to park, we don’t!’. Some of the car park is not well sealed and pushing my DH on badly sealed walkways is nigh on impossible.

In Nz we rarely have full car parks ( outside Auckland and Wellington) and this idiot wanted to park very close to the shopping centre! I also notice there is little enforcement of the disabled badge/ blue badge scheme so it is widely abused. Drives me nuts, particularly because parking here is mostly free and a lot easier for non badge holders than it is in the UK.

Although despite my rant here, many times DH has got stuck halfway in or out the car and the amount of kind people who have stopped and offered some strength to help DH into or out of the car makes me very grateful and restores faith in human nature….

Entitled twats, OP, I’m sorry you have to deal
with them

@AllThingsServeTheBeam

Also whilst I would never have an issue with someone with a blue badge over flowing into parent child spaces I can’t help thinking this is exactly like the person who walked with a stick (but had no blue badge) using the disabled bays.
The car park provide spaces for a certain group of people, if you over ride that by assessing your own need and deciding it’s ok to bend the rules then so be it.

The difference did that a blue badge is a government issued document that entitles the bearer to use a specific type of space.

Non parents can use a parent and child space (and I do, on occasion).

I’m not “bending the rules” by using a parent and child space. I’m exercising my legal right to a reasonable adjustment.

@iwanttobeonleave

I recently saw a mum from school who I had previously completely respected park in a disabled bay. It's completely changed my view of her. What reasonable person would do this?!

How do you know that she didn't have a hidden disability?

@Moneypennysfreedomfund

Ive had it where Mr flash car ignored the extra wide chevrons at the side of the disabled bay and parked diagonally very close to the side of my car. Then came back while I was helping DH into his wheelchair and started fussing about his paintwork as the wheelchair was 1mm away from his car. DH became flustered and tried to rush, I loudly told DH not to rush and that the other driver could wait. What moron doesn’t understand the flashings next to disabled bays are for people to get equipment in and out, passengers in and out of chairs etc… he started huffing and puffing at how long we were taking and I just turned round pointed to the empty bays and said ‘ you have a choice about where to park, we don’t!’. Some of the car park is not well sealed and pushing my DH on badly sealed walkways is nigh on impossible.

In Nz we rarely have full car parks ( outside Auckland and Wellington) and this idiot wanted to park very close to the shopping centre! I also notice there is little enforcement of the disabled badge/ blue badge scheme so it is widely abused. Drives me nuts, particularly because parking here is mostly free and a lot easier for non badge holders than it is in the UK.

Although despite my rant here, many times DH has got stuck halfway in or out the car and the amount of kind people who have stopped and offered some strength to help DH into or out of the car makes me very grateful and restores faith in human nature….

This drives me insane. I am a wheelchair user so need the extra space for DH to get my wheelchair out and help me into it.

We went to our local supermarket a couple of weeks ago and this dickhead had parked next to the only disabled bay left.

DH ended up having to transfer me into the wheelchair in the middle of the car park, leave me sat in the chair before he could reverse into the now tiny and completely useless space.