Covid losses ( not deaths) you have suffered

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I wanted to vent a little but not on the Covid board because that tends to be very aggressive. I want to scream loudly about the unfair Covid losses that I have suffered that are not deaths ( though I have also had deaths), because these are so often overlooked.

My DD, for instance. I have lost her. Her entire personality has changed with online university. She used to be so confident and outgoing. Now she is timid and shy. She used to love studying. Now she hates it after she lost two internships to covid. She used to see a purpose in life. Now she looks at a decimated economy and can't see one. I may get her back eventually but it is very hard to see now.

Please don't say she needs to be more resilient. I am tired of hearing that two years into the pandemic.

This has to be one of the most depressing and heart wrenching threads I have ever read.
I am so sorry for everyone. Some people have missed experiences they will never have the chance to have again.
Loosing health, ones mental health, ones joy and hope really leaves nothing. Life is far too fragile, far too precarious, and this virus has robbed so many of the modicum of control many of us have over things that would have been difficult in any case.
Sometimes I wonder if the best thing would be for the whole world to fall asleep and never wake up again.

My relationship. Might have failed anyway but covid most certainly did not help.

We lost our wedding. We ended up getting married on go number 4 but as 40 somethings getting married for the first time we had been excited about celebrating with everyone that had been through all of the (many many) rubbish relationships with us as individuals, and the fact we had finally met 'the one'. Instead there were 10 of us, with several important and very close family members missing.

My step daughter 'lost' her 21st birthday, her last year at uni and her graduation

My health. It was a struggle anyway with chronic health conditions but covid has made things exponentially worse

Pretty much most of the last year of my Fathers life

bloodywhitecat

My sparkle.
I used to live my life with so much joy and wonder, just really looked forward to everyday and every new adventure. Now I feel like the same day is on repeat. No joy. No wonder. No real zest for life.

It really depressing. But I’m holding myself back all the time as if we get a massive disappointment again I don’t think I’ll be able to bounce back

Big financial loss, DP could not operate his business and has had to take another job, many friends have had to do the same.

Lost some holidays, and being able to celebrate my 50th with my family as planned.

Lost patience for many, many people. Lost out on F2F meetings with colleagues, time with friends, time with family. I do feel my mental health is suffering from this, usually I am more resilient but this is grinding me down.

@bloodywhitecat I am so, so sorry. Your situation is a heartbreaking one.

My new nephew is a stranger to me. Born just at the first lockdown, ive seen him for just a few moments, outside. His parents have health anxiety so have been strict beyond the covid rules whenever rules have relaxed.

Long covid. Loss of a job I loved. Future plans destroyed. Horrendous health anxiety but also real issues caused by covid. Chances of me exercising like I used to are pretty much zilch, was previously very physically fit.

Dd dropped out of uni. Well, technically she's deffered her 3rd year but I wouldn't be surprised if she didn't go back and I don't blame her. I'm just grateful she's still alive.

My freedom to travel to see my family abroad. Even when borders are open travelling is heavily discourage by how difficult they make it.

I live out of the Uk.
I can’t see me family when I wish.
My parents didn’t see their DGC for two years.
The rules for travel change all the time making it impossible to plan to visit the uk.
My best friend is badly vaccine injured. It makes me so upset and angry to see it as there is very little help for her.
I hate the atmosphere of fear
Covid dominates every conversation
If I hear stay safe one more time I will scream
The government changing the rules all the time
We have vaccine passports I hate them and they seem to make little difference as the numbers here go up and up
I could go on

My health. Last seen on 18th March 2020. COVID has aged me by about 20 years; not great when you are 50.

I lost my love of teaching too. I'm a lecturer and online teaching is soul destroying.

My DC's have also lost their hope and excitement because everything they look forward to gets cancelled. My youngest has rarely seen a stranger's face.

Some of these are heartbreaking, I’m so sorry for what you have all lost.
It makes my minor inconveniences very unimportant

@LadyCatStark

My mental health.

Same

My DP lost his job.

My elderly mum lost her will to live however this has return albeit she is now agoraphobic and anorexic.
My BIL had a nervous breakdown.
My other BIL lost his job.
My CEV sister has become housebound due to lack of treatment.
I lost the five years I'd stayed off anti-depressants.
@bloodywhitecat none of that compares to yours, I'm so sorry for your husband and your family.

My job. School going cashless rendered me unnecessary. Luckily I have found something else, but still... Grrr!

A lovely colleague who killed herself.
The time I would have spent with my family that live abroad, they’ve missed a huge chunk of seeing my young kids grow up. Can’t get that back. Losing the joy I used to have in my job as I’m still working from home with no clear date of a return to the office. Lost faith in peoples kindness and humanity.

@HyggeTygge1

My family! My daughter is in hospital and due to covid rules can only have one parent with her. She's been poorly for 7 weeks and there's still no end in sight. Currently in the house on my own whilst her dad is with her!

It's crap. I've been trying to persuade our senior management to let patients have two nominated people. Who can swap In and out as required. Only allowing one swap every 24 hours just isn't practical for families.

@Serenschintte

I live out of the Uk. I can’t see me family when I wish. My parents didn’t see their DGC for two years. The rules for travel change all the time making it impossible to plan to visit the uk. My best friend is badly vaccine injured. It makes me so upset and angry to see it as there is very little help for her. I hate the atmosphere of fear Covid dominates every conversation If I hear stay safe one more time I will scream The government changing the rules all the time We have vaccine passports I hate them and they seem to make little difference as the numbers here go up and up I could go on

So sorry to hear about your friend. What injury has she got?

I have lost confidence and become afraid of going out. It has made me isolated. I want to have an active retirement and I feel I can't go out and take painting lessons. My husband is feeling frustrated with me

Our grandson basically lost his last two years of high school (11 and 12). He is at uni but we feel he lacks the study skills proper classes could have given him.

I have lost my fitness related to lockdown and weight gain. My fault but isolation hasn't helped.

My husband and I have lost two years in seeing our grandchildren in England. We love to travel and can't. We could start a bit now but mask wearing really upsets DH.

I am sorry it has been so hard for everyone.

I lost my business, both my parents my beloved dh mental health and now my marriage, all in 12 months,

Oh, and I had to wait almost a year for surgery to remove an ovarian tumour. I was so so scared the whole time.