Things I learned too late in life

[Spiceup]

No one anywhere has ever had their life improved by me wearing high heels. I now wear comfy shoes for every occasion and life is immeasurably better. I can move quicker, get more done in a day and never miss any fun because my feet hurt or I don't have suitable footwear. I don't know what on earth possessed me for so long.

What's yours?

Wear sunscreen and protect the skin on your chest from burning. You can never get it back.

Learning to self invest might well save you more than compound interest will save you. Fees on many financial products are astronomical and very few people realise.

BLACK KNICKERS! 😂 I've just had that conversation with my 13 year old.

on the compound interest...look at mortgages..every pound you overpay saves you a lot more! I paid my mortgage off fast ( thanks to my parents being obsessed with it when I was a child) Overpay early and reap the rewards of not paying the interest.

*compound interest will make you.

Not saying compound interest isn’t an excellent thing though.

• people really do not notice whether you have shaved your legs or not.
• work friends are not real friends.
• some people really are arseholes and bullies. It's not you.
• bad men don't change.
• bad relationships don't change.
• it's okay if not everyone likes you. Not everyone will anyway.
• it's okay to put yourself first sometimes.

Never chase a man, if he is interested you’ll know about no excuses.

Save and invest

Just go for it, don’t worry about doing the right thing or what others think of you for doing it!

At work, take time to chat to people as well as getting your work done, they will think more of you even if you’re less productive!

@BruiserWoods

I understand compound interest but it's a slow process and you'd need to be starting with a lot of money in the first place to get excited about it. about 8 years ago I put 9k in a high rate savings account, the kind where I need to give them a month's notice to take out the money. It's still nowhere near 10k yet. So, unless you have a huge amount of money to put in one of these High rate Interest savings account, it's a slow process and not life-changing.

You need a better savings account. I suggest a stocks and shares ISA.

That women are more generous lovers than men

That it's ok to ask for what you want

Use your body to move every day; dance, walk, stretch, run, swim, garden, climb... Doesn't matter what... Just don't sit and let it get old before it's time, you'll have plenty of time spent sat in a chair when you get old!

Teaching's a rubbish job

Never undersell yourself. Ask for a raise. Make sideways moves to increase your salary. Negotiate up - even by a few hundred pounds a year, when you are offered a job.

If you fancy living in another area or country, don't just sell up and go. Rent first.

If you're good at what you do, work for yourself.

Learn to enjoy being alone. That way, you'll only let people into your life who truly belong there.

That it is not compulsory to get married and have children. Stick to what your instinct is telling you, to avoid being shackled and to prevent your freedom being taken.

That energy vampires are real and walk among us!

That friend that constantly talks at you instead of to you and only about herself. Energy vampire.

The new partner that makes little self-deprecating jokes so you have to constantly reassure them. Energy vampire.

The person that offloads all their problems on you. Energy vampire.

You do not have to listen politely to someone that is mentally draining you in order to fill their own cup. Back away!

Also, the hobosexuals. Men that fall in deeply in love with you to get their feet under the table, meals cooked, washing done and sex on tap. Winter is coming, hide your houses ladies!

That you’ll meet so many people in life and you’ll never really know when the last time you see them will be. It’s weird to think I’ve spent a massive part of my life with some work colleagues, sitting with them day in day out for years then they leave or retire.. you kind of say see you later, our paths will cross again and so on … but mostly they don’t.. and that was the last time you see them. The same goes for family, relatives. Have family in USA, they are not old but each time they go home after a visit I wonder if it’ll be the last I see them. Well that was quite depressing eh ? 🤣

@BruiserWoods yep bang on ..I mean if you don't like me , just say so.. honestly I'd hate to be in their brains , it must be a hideous place ... why don't women just accept them selves .. you don't have to be a better , thinner, funnier version of yourself , you are fine as you are 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

@Chunkymenrock

That it is not compulsory to get married and have children. Stick to what your instinct is telling you, to avoid being shackled and to prevent your freedom being taken.

This. I remember collecting a delivery from B&Q years ago, the lady at customer service asked if I was Miss or Mrs, when I said Miss she looked me right in the eye and said you lucky lucky girl, enjoy your life. She totally meant it!

@Ritascornershop

Men will tell you all manner of lies to get you into bed. Sometimes they even believe their lies, sometimes they are just good actors.

Your job is very unlikely to reward you for effort. Stand up for yourself, or better yet, become self-employed.

I could have written this myself. All so true!

To drink more water - would've meant much better skin in my 20's.
To work at seeng things as they really are. feels like sh*t sometimes but honesty with yourself is the best policy.

Never, ever, put your partner's career before yours because he says he'll look after you.
Never give up your own bank account.
Trust no one (too right Mulder).
Being quietly competent and hard working will not get you noticed or promoted.

To not put yourself down. All it does is give other people the opportunity to agree with you.

Also (and in the same vein) to stop giving a fuck what other people think.

My forties have been, by far, the best decade of my life because I stopped with all the people pleasing crap.

To treat people, as they treat me, taken 50 years of being far too generous & giving to realise this though.

That we are not all meant to be in an attached relationship as adults.
You can thrive, be the person you are meant to be and remain very happily single. For ever!
Such a relief when I finally accepted that concept.

1. How few things are worth going into debt and paying interest.
2. That I don’t have to eat carrots if I don’t want to.

Those who mind don’t matter….those who matter, don’t mind….

@GoodnightGrandma

When I was in my 40’s I didn’t realise how old I would feel in my 50’s.

This. I was worried about turning 40. 40 is nothing and my early forties were probably the happiest years of my life. But then peri menopause hit and I started to feel bloody ancient.