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Life isn't short!

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Bluepinkyellowcakes · 30/10/2021 21:13

Just thinking, I'm in my 30s so probably not even halfway through it yet. The thought of another 35, 40+ years... 😮 The time I've done already plus even longer on top?! It seems to stretch out like a never ending road. Anyone else feel like that? I know most people say life is short, but i disagree.

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Europilgrim · 30/10/2021 21:17

But the older you get the quicker it seems to pass! Also it is a mistake to think oh I am halfway through. You don't know how long you've got. Nobody does.

BrilliantBetty · 30/10/2021 21:18

Nope. I'm early 30s and there's still so much I want to do! Don't know how I'll squeeze it all in

SandraOhh · 30/10/2021 21:20

Yep. It's terrifying and makes me feel very trapped. I'm 28 and already had enough.

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Bluepinkyellowcakes · 30/10/2021 21:21

Yes, sorry, I meant to write assuming I'm average Smile
It's like when you just suddenly realise how vast the sea is, I kind of think the same about the time that may be stretching ahead of me, like its just huge.

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DramaAlpaca · 30/10/2021 21:22

I'm in my late 50s and each year just seems to go by more quickly. In 23 years, assuming I'm still here, I'll be 80. It doesn't seem very long at all. I've loads to do yet!

megletthesecond · 30/10/2021 21:23

It goes SO fast. I'm 47 and I've not achieved anything and don't have much time to either. I'm still hoping I can get something done in my 50's.

Kitkat151 · 30/10/2021 21:23

Time goes faster with each passing year....I was a bit like this when I was 30 with 3 small children....I’m now 56 with 3 small grandchildren who are growing up far faster than my own 3 did

Port1aCastis · 30/10/2021 21:24

Life is precious you really don't know how much life you've got to live, having recently lost a very dear friend at 35 I've come to realise that

PiggyPlumPie · 30/10/2021 21:25

You just don't know though. My very healthy, non smoking, non drinking sister died a year ago tomorrow from oesophagal cancer. This was six weeks after being diagnosed with cancer.

Make the most of it.

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Bluepinkyellowcakes · 30/10/2021 21:26

Time is a funny thing isn't it. I look back and remember staying with my cousin and aunt, and now I'm the same agey aunt was back then and myself and my cousin have children of our own. That doesn't seem that long ago but also seems like it was much longer than it really was... Does that make sense?! Say that was 25years ago, that's a quarter of a century! That quarter of a century has both flown and dragged, and I'm sat here thinking I could have another quarter of a century to go, plus more... Seems so long its hard to comprehend really.

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Bluepinkyellowcakes · 30/10/2021 21:28

@PiggyPlumPie

You just don't know though. My very healthy, non smoking, non drinking sister died a year ago tomorrow from oesophagal cancer. This was six weeks after being diagnosed with cancer.

Make the most of it.

Sorry for your loss, didn't have the intention of upsetting anyone Flowers
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Bluepinkyellowcakes · 30/10/2021 21:29

@Port1aCastis

Life is precious you really don't know how much life you've got to live, having recently lost a very dear friend at 35 I've come to realise that
Flowers
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SpinachIsAGatewayDrug · 30/10/2021 21:30

It took me ages to get to 35 years. Then about five minutes to get to 40 years.

I feel like I'm in that movie where every 30mins is another year (Old).

hilariousnamehere · 30/10/2021 21:32

Honestly I usually feel the opposite - I'm 35 and I've done loads but there is so much more I want to do and fit in that another 30-50 years on the planet doesn't seem anything like enough!

idonthavetimeforyournonsense · 30/10/2021 21:32
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Life isn't short!
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Bluepinkyellowcakes · 30/10/2021 21:35

@SpinachIsAGatewayDrug

It took me ages to get to 35 years. Then about five minutes to get to 40 years.

I feel like I'm in that movie where every 30mins is another year (Old).

God for me every 30 minutes seems to take about a year, I'm sure minutes have got longer 😂
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purpleme12 · 30/10/2021 21:36

No I feel the opposite
I hope I'm doing ok for my child
Cos when I read stories like the above about people dying way sooner than they should it's so scary

Wendyer · 30/10/2021 21:37

I feel the same as @DramaAlpaca. Late 50’s and time is just flying. I cannot believe Christmas is nearly upon us again. I think losing significant people in your life makes you realise how limited time is.

TheLastSpookyBakedBeanSaysBoo · 30/10/2021 21:40

Some days seem to go on forever, but blink and I've missed a week, a month, a year. I worry about how little I have to show for the time, how quickly it gets eaten and when I will manage to do the things I really want to do not just the things I need to do.

I used to feel like life was endless and pointless when I was depressed, though. I'm not going to arm chair diagnose, just my experience that when I was suffering from depression it felt like there was just a long future of pain, misery and suffering and now I'm better there is not enough future to fit in all the things I want to fit in, there is not enough time or space for all the things. I used to feel daunted by the prospect of so many more days of the same shit, but now I look forward to the ordinary days and the extraordinary days the same. I really like my little life and routine. It scares me shitless to think I could die and not get to see my DC grow up or to achieve all my goals, whereas before I used to sometimes think that it would be easier if I got killed in an accident or something than to live with the same monotonous slog that life was.

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Bluepinkyellowcakes · 30/10/2021 21:41

@Wendyer

I feel the same as *@DramaAlpaca*. Late 50’s and time is just flying. I cannot believe Christmas is nearly upon us again. I think losing significant people in your life makes you realise how limited time is.
Hmm, maybe you've got a point. I still had my nana til a couple of years ago, still have parents, not lost any relatives yet. Grandad went nearly 20 years ago but I was a teen then and like most teens assumed I'd live forever.
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Bythemillpond · 30/10/2021 21:47

I am late late 50s and up to lockdown life was going very fast.
Since lockdown it seems to have slowed down immensely. I think it is because I now don’t have anything to look forward to (Covid and lockdowns have put paid to that)

I would say it could be more about depression or needing to change a life you are not enjoying than life is too long.

I normally would be re inventing myself and flinging myself into another business/project/adventure but because of age and the fact we probably won’t ever work again and I have had to say goodbye to my old life/house/friends I just can’t see things changing.

TheLastSpookyBakedBeanSaysBoo · 30/10/2021 21:47

Thank you @beccahamlet I really enjoyed that poem 😊

gofg · 30/10/2021 21:48

It goes SO fast. I'm 47 and I've not achieved anything and don't have much time to either. I'm still hoping I can get something done in my 50's.

I feel exactly the same - and I'm 62. Life just doesn't seem long enough to me.

maddiemookins16mum · 30/10/2021 21:49

I’m 57. I don’t expect to be here in another 30, yet I remember very clearly a lot of what I was doing 30 years ago (1991). That scares me as those 30 years have flown by.